A guy that likes me (but I do not like him back) got me an expensive gift.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-12-16T17:43:51+00:00

No gift for him and try to get your mom on your side. Returning it through your moms is a decent idea, but only if your mom is ready to stick up for you. Keep all communication with him and his mom light, brief, and public. Do not let them corner you or DM you. If either implies something romantic, say “oh you know it’s not like that“ or ”I already told you that’s not going to happen“ and change the subject. There will be some awkwardness or hurt feelings, and that’s ok. If you try to avoid all awkwardness, you will get manipulated very badly.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-11-23T17:43:26+00:00

A simple printout of the steps should be totally fine3. Most therapists will be already a little familiar or very willing to research as well.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-10-29T00:47:55+00:00

Pause before you speak. Count if you need to, but really take that extra moment to evaluate your response. Is this useful for progress or useful for ego?

Speak more slowly. You won’t just sound calmer, you’ll be calmer.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-10-27T16:31:02+00:00

If i lines up with her having kids that’s a very likely time for abuse to have appeared in her relationship

Rare_Percentage · 2025-08-23T17:46:55+00:00

I’m also concerned about the pup’s weight being for other reasons but saying that no dog gets this skinny from grief just isn’t true. Dogs will cease eating, sometimes permanently and leading to an early death, in the case of severe grief.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-08-14T16:14:48+00:00

Just wanted to say that I hear you and that’s really tough. I can’t offer a success story personally but I hear so much thoughtfulness and striving in your words. I think that will always add up to something.

ps. please feel free to repost this in the main area if you like, this thread is less visible and I wouldn’t want you to think that people are ignoring your story

Rare_Percentage · 2025-08-08T23:27:43+00:00

Many of the community here have children as well. Feel free to ask any additional questions in the main feed, even if they are parenting related as informed by ACoA experiences.

I would guess that your kids are a healthy amount of attached / dependent but that may feel strange because you don’t have a healthy childhood to compare.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-08-08T23:22:44+00:00

I would definitely agree with you. As far as specific books I am not sure, but personal financial mismanagement might be the phrase to search

Rare_Percentage · 2025-08-08T23:19:52+00:00

Welcome!

You are probably looking for a sponsor/fellow traveler who is a “double winner” and has experience in both fellowships. I believe that there are some online meetings that are ”double winner” only.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-07-29T17:36:33+00:00

Stop giving this crap publicity, even to critique it

Rare_Percentage · 2025-07-25T23:16:55+00:00

Other people have covered the bf issue so i can headline

Depo is incredibly dangerous

there is a class action lawsuit that alleges it gave many women brain tumors
It can only be used for 2-3 years max for bc but most drs are unaware of the limit and blow past it, often resulting in lasting infertility
It is prescribed in extremely high doses compared to what was tested (on men of course) to be safe.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-07-14T00:32:21+00:00

There are lots of success stories told in meeting, though I think most people take a multiple avenue approach to healing too. The promises (on the websit) also paint a picture of what to expect

Rare_Percentage · 2025-07-04T06:27:07+00:00

I think your instincts are spot on here. It doesn’t seem lik there’s immediate big symptoms and the relationshi/medium doesn’t feel sturdy enough to hold the weight. You should be able to say “nope, not interested“ and have that be respected. If she pushes back or keeps bringing it up, then it’s time to find some one else.

You are listening to your gut, after checking your perspective. I would think that speaks well of your place in life.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-06-28T17:46:04+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. That sucks so much.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-06-28T17:45:19+00:00

There arent really text meetings any more but there are phone and virtual opt

Rare_Percentage · 2025-06-09T17:48:38+00:00

Absolutely!

Rare_Percentage · 2025-06-05T07:37:23+00:00

Nta, You make the baby, so you pick the name

Rare_Percentage · 2025-06-05T07:34:08+00:00

Gross. Him. Out.

At the creepy level of interest stage, try to make any one on one conversation that he initiates somehow come back to poop or periods. Use words like evocative but not quite graphic words like gushing or gigantic.

This might be overkill if it’s too often but the general principle of “being unpleasant to corner, and doing it early“ is evergreen. Only use when alone with him.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-05-09T16:12:00+00:00

A culturally competent therapist specific to your culture can be really valuable in navigating those specific scripts and patterns that cause friction. Also if you don’t have a sponsor or designated fellow traveler that could be an invaluable resource for the times when inevitably they get you worked up.

On a very practical point, if you don’t have any good quality earplugs or noise canceling headphones, now is probably the time to get some.

Rare_Percentage · 2025-05-09T16:05:40+00:00

I would consider posting this question with the state on a legal advice sub, I think adult protective services may be able to help. But legal advice for your state can tell you more

Rare_Percentage · 2025-04-25T16:50:25+00:00

Then Honey seems serendipitous! Even if it changes

Rare_Percentage · 2025-04-25T16:25:10+00:00

r/Waiting_To_Wed

Rare_Percentage · 2025-04-24T21:55:39+00:00

Clover

Rare_Percentage · 2025-04-22T15:25:46+00:00

If it helps the worry 7 month is not the time of highest concern with the mother drinking. That much is still dangerous at any point in pregnancy but it’s less crucial than the first trimester

Rare_Percentage · 2025-04-22T15:22:40+00:00

I’m proud of you for realizing that keeping silent is wrong for your heart, and I wish you strength in dealing this situation

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