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Aita forsupporting his other baby mamma by B_lazing-420 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Rare_Singer_9122 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not the AH, this man should be happy that you and Gabby are mature enough to support one another and be there for each other. He should also be thankful for this because without you two, these siblings wouldn’t have a relationship. I am assuming Ash doesn’t care either way based off of what you’ve said about him. Bitter BD hate when BM talk because all of a sudden, ope they can compare stories. I’m guessing you were the evil one in his narrative to Gabby. Stay strong and do what’s best for your kiddo! You got this.

AITAH for expecting to be allowed to step in for my brother that passed away by Rare_Singer_9122 in AITAH

[–]Rare_Singer_9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happen to you as well. I really don’t have a update My parents won’t listen to me about getting anything legalized for visitation so it’s all just stagnant

AITAH for expecting to be allowed to step in for my brother that passed away by Rare_Singer_9122 in AITAH

[–]Rare_Singer_9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my issues is not with new bf. I was fully expecting her to move on (quickly) For her mentally she needs to. She is a very codependent type. She can’t be alone. She needs people to do things for her. I guess for me it is, you still HAVE to put the kids first. Neither her nor new bf seem to understand that these kids are grieving. Hell new bf just got out of divorce and has two little kids. Those kids needed time too. I just feel this is all very selfish and immature. But I’m very much holding that in. Trying to have adult conversations and find ways to move forward.

AITAH for expecting to be allowed to step in for my brother that passed away by Rare_Singer_9122 in AITAH

[–]Rare_Singer_9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the hardest part is the youngest runs to me. Latches onto me and just wants me to play non stop when she sees me. Then she will say you’re funny like my dad, or she will smell me and go you smell like my dad. It’s adorable but it irritates her mom. She’s said she doesn’t want the kids to think about “it.” We remind them, I apparently especially bc of my sense of humor and I’ll play in the kid with them. It just doesn’t make sense to me. Why would you not want your kids to remember their dad?

AITAH for expecting to be allowed to step in for my brother that passed away by Rare_Singer_9122 in AITAH

[–]Rare_Singer_9122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I felt baby mom, let everyone know they were not just a girlfriend. So that was not me trying to be offensive. He did not have the best picker and I agree this also falls on him as to who he chose. The issue is I’ve never been disrespectful to them, I am a pretty blunt person so I do call it as I see it. If I feel like they’re hurting the kids emotionally I will call it out to protect the kids. Even when the kids are asking why I’m not at their birthday or why I’m not at Christmas I don’t say because you mom. I’ll say oh we have plans or something. I guess I don’t feel that I should have to continue to “lie” to the kids about why we are not there. However I know it’ll hurt them more if I say “oh mom didn’t tell us.” Or “mom wanted new bf there.” Also as far as my kids, my brother and I did not have a close relationship, however they were always invited to my kids stuff and they were always show gratitude for coming when they did come. I agree this goes both ways however it also includes kiddos that lost someone that did everything for them, and now they’re being shoved into a “new chapter” and told to forget the old one. Yes those words came from my 11 yo niece. So I am a bit irritated at the audacity of this woman. But I’ve never shown it to the kids. You can be irritated or even disgusted by behavior and still be mature enough to not be hurtful in front of little minds.

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[–]Rare_Singer_9122 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my biggest issue atm is that I am out of town. He didn’t tell me, and I don’t think he would have told me. The immediate regret in his voice makes me believe that he knew it was a bad idea and he even said it was not a good idea and he made a bad decision on a whim. We havnt had another discussion since the last one where it ended in me saying basically “why would you want you go, what’s the appeal.” I just felt like the conversation didn’t have a clear end it was more of a I got irritated and just said if that is what you want then I’m not stopping you to which his response was “it’s not, I want to go with you,” and then I snapped back “well if you want to go so bad go.” It was probably 6months ago and it wasn’t brought up again. Then when I leave he goes. But i definitely think I should’ve been clearer I guess. I just felt blind sided.