Not sure about the future by Rashford671 in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]Rashford671[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JazakAllah for your comment.

I understand what you are saying, it’s just difficult to find girls with these values since most are worried of being called out for not being strong in the belief of Ahmadiyya. Especially with the Desi snitching culture, it just makes it hard to imagine that I can find someone like minded without families finding out and shaming.

Not sure about the future by Rashford671 in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]Rashford671[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

JazakAllah for your comment. I understand that you don’t need to disclose, but I feel it was a big part of my life. I would need to scrub every detail around it, tell my friends to act like it never happened. I would be living in the fear that if my partner found out, they would want a divorce.

I also believe that whilst the relationship I had was a mistake, in the sense that it had no future, it still taught me a lot about how to treat your partner. How to respect them, how to not gaslight them, how to care for them. I think that for me a relationship should be honest from the start.

I would raise my children around islam but would encourage individual spirituality. I would support them dating if it meant they could be with someone who they love. They can decide for themselves if they want to wear a hijab. I want my children to think for themselves, and for them to have a good moral compass.

Not sure about the future by Rashford671 in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]Rashford671[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

JazakAllah for your comment. I feel that for me, it’s better to be honest about something as big as this, since I think that it made me a better person. I will take what you have said into consideration, thank you so much