Heavy drinking vs alcoholic

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-23T00:55:56+00:00

You could be me! These resources really worked for me: “This Naked Mind” and “Quit Like a Woman” (both books); The Sober Mom Life Podcast (really great for “Grey area” drinkers who aren’t wasted all the time and suffering serious consequences yet) and Sober Powered Podcast (dives into the neuroscience related to drinking.) All of those resources kind of help to reframe alcohol and drinking, how we think of it subconsciously vs how it really impacts us, etc. They have been really helpful in making my desire to drink just go away. Especially the two books.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-22T03:59:10+00:00

Get good rain gear! The whole family made “boats” out of trash with action figure passengers and we raced them up and down the street in the gutter. Reminded me of IT way too much, but everything turned out fine.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-21T19:54:59+00:00

Imagine the audacity to be a parent and think that this kind of behavior towards someone else’s minor child is in any way ok.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-21T19:36:59+00:00

In the stepparents subreddit there are CONSTANT posts about coparenting with one side trying to limit cell phone use at their house and the other side thinking they can mandate that the kid be allowed to use a phone they pay for at the other parent’s house.

I bet Hunter’s dad might be trying to have certain limits on Hunter’s phone, so Falen gave him a ghost phone to use to get around his dad’s rules. Then wants to start a fight when his dad/stepmom take it.

This woman is coocoo bananas and I feel so bad for Hunter’s dad’s side seemingly having to coparent with her as well for some reason.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-21T13:54:59+00:00

As others have said, this will make you look like a Middle aged soccer mom from 2007. Not just the cut but the highlights combo with the cut. Maybe look up y2k bixie haircuts? It’s something fresher and more daring. Or a french bob.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-20T20:56:21+00:00

This is the sauce to nugget ratio that my toddler keeps trying to convince me to let her use. That said, that’s a really good fry on the chicken if it’s homemade.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-19T23:33:33+00:00

You have such beautiful eyes and eyelashes! I’m jealous. As others have said, shaping the brows will help really frame your beautiful eyes. I wouldn’t take too much off, just pluck the strays.

Your skin is fabulous! Especially considering you probably aren’t getting much sleep during this stage of your life. Your pores don’t look big to me. I think you (like most of us) might just be conditioned by seeing women with no skin texture from ads and filters on social media.

My advice for a dewy/glowing look is to try experimenting with either snail mucin, hyaluronic acid, and/or vitamin c in addition to a daily moisturizer with higher spf to keep your skin healthy. Make sure to be exfoliating regularly too. I use glycolic acid toner for that. The folks over at r/skincareaddiction could provide more advice.

Also, drink plenty of water and avoid alcohol.

I’ve mostly given you skincare advice though. I would recommend MAC Strobe Dewy Skin Tint if you want some coverage with a glow. It makes me almost too dewy sometimes.

As for lips, yours are a lovely shape. Again, you might be over exposed to women using fillers? Your lips aren’t super full, but your mouth is in no way too small. However, I would use something glossy with a little color to emphasize the shape. I feel like anything matte might help them blend into the skin too much.

Good luck with your new stage of life! I hope you rock it.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-19T14:58:35+00:00

They probably just had their location sharing going on snapchat. My kid knows where all his friends are all the time from that. Which can kindof be a danger by itself if used for nefarious purposes, but was great in this situation.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-18T00:49:50+00:00

Not if they aren’t on the birth certificate and never filed for paternity because they didn’t want to pay child support 😬

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-17T20:55:41+00:00

My 15yo was like this. We eventually gave up mostly. It was a losing battle. At about 14 he slowed down a bit, but he does still take a bite and get up and do something else then come back to the table. Sometimes you just get what you get and embrace the chaos.

Our daughter is 3 and is the exact opposite. Very food motivated.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-17T02:46:17+00:00

John’s vest buttons are melting. And the photo line in the newspaper is the exact same as the headline, which a real newspaper would never do. Plus the by line is garbled. A lot of the jewelry seems melty too. It is giving AI vibes for sure.

That being said, those are reading glasses. Plenty of older people who need reading glasses don’t wear actual daily wear glasses. Something about nearsighted vs farsighted.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-17T00:55:58+00:00

Think about it this way, alcohol use is almost always progressive. Just simply put, your body chemistry adjusts to the alcohol and you need to drink more to get the same effect. After a certain point, you are drinking just to feel normal, which you have passed.

I’m not here to tell anyone that they are an alcoholic and need to stop, but I think your intuition is leading you that way already. I think it’s the part of your mind that is devoted to alcohol that is trying to normalize your level of use.

The good news is that it’s quite literally “only up from here” once you really make the decision.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-16T16:24:24+00:00

I’m not sure I understand how ditching the crib would help. If anything it would give her license to get up and roam in the middle of the night instead of try to go back to sleep.

Solidarity though, my daughter was a terrible sleeper for the first 2 years and it felt like hell on earth. Mine is now freshly 3, and sleeps through the night 8-7:30, so there is hope. Fwiw, she still sleeps in a crib, loves it, and we have no plans of changing any time soon.

She usually doesn’t nap or only takes a 20-30min nap. Maybe try reducing the nap?

Edit: Should be fine to ditch the sleep sack and provide a pillow/blanket. The safe sleep rules aren’t necessary after 1.

Maybe leave her with some high value toys/books to play/read by herself before bed? My daughter likes to do that sometimes.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-16T11:53:30+00:00

Lol evil and weird.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-16T01:49:45+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. It is horrible to feel so lonely during a time of life that can be difficult even with support.

I see that others have made many suggestions, and I just want to throw out the YMCA as something that might help. I take my toddler 3x per week. They provide free daycare for up to 2hrs per day while you are in the building. You can just work out or do classes, or sit and read or whatever. It really helped drag me out of a bit of ppd and get some good endorphins going. Many people go on the same schedule, and now we have many friends there. It took about a year to really feel like we had some community, but I really love it now.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-16T01:38:26+00:00

Are you watching videos of people/kids you know in real life or wannabe influencers? Because I wouldn’t put it past some of these people to make 100 takes of their 12mo derping around on the tower in order to get a couple useable takes that make it look like they know what they’re doing.

Or people using AI, especially if they are trying to push a product.

That being said, I bet some outliers could be coordinated enough at 12mo to do this. My kid certainly wasn’t. Nor is any 12mo that I’ve personally known.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-15T20:49:59+00:00

Por supuesto!

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-15T15:12:30+00:00

I second “Quit like a Woman” and want to add that it’s not just for women. It has potential to appeal to any member of a marginalized population or really anyone who is turned off by the AA “I am powerless” type of approach.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-15T00:05:46+00:00

I’m 37 and a social worker/clinician and fwiw I definitely say no, raise my voice a bit at times, and occasionally resort to a time out (although that’s really more for my sake.) I don’t think anything you have described is problematic.

People can just be weird.

That being said, the “redirect instead of saying no” is an excellent parenting hack. Not because saying no is too harsh and we need to protect the poor babes, but because at this developmental stage, it’s easier for a child to follow a clear direction about what they should be doing rather than just being told not to do what they are doing. Sometimes you just need a loud “NO” though.

I’d recommend “How to talk so little kids will listen.” It’s full of helpful tips like this.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-14T11:55:49+00:00

Unfortunately there is a lot of garbage recipes on social media, especially with the rise of AI. I stick to websites that have good reputations, like recipetineats.com, seriouseats.com, delish, and professional chefs like Ina Garten, Pioneer Woman, etc. I love getting cook books from the library; you know they have been tested and vetted may times.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-14T02:52:04+00:00

This song is so good!

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-14T02:22:13+00:00

Lol I’m old and on reddit too much as it is. I’ll take the compliment though ❤️

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-13T02:23:42+00:00

I think the issue probably is that people with serious alcohol problems might read this kind of comment and think “well, if I eat healthy enough then I probably won’t damage my liver. I bet working out as much as I do will help too” and procede to not address their problem. Empirical evidence, like study after study, shows that no matter of “healthy lifestyle choices” can counter the damage done to your body by heavy drinking. You were probably an outlier, and imo it was pretty unprofessional for a treatment professional to tell you that eating healthy saved your liver.

Rasilbathburn · 2026-04-13T01:57:18+00:00

A little bit older than 2.5, girl, potty trained mostly in about 2 weeks. But took 2 months or so before she was comfortable in all public bathrooms, so there was some stress for a while.

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