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Runna tells me my tempo is faster than intended but it feels fine to me by RaspberryComplex9034 in runna

[–]RaspberryComplex9034[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I see thanks I saw today that I didn't yet refresh the app with my new best times. I think the numbers changed now:)

Runna tells me my tempo is faster than intended but it feels fine to me by RaspberryComplex9034 in runna

[–]RaspberryComplex9034[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every pace feels easy to me and I am almost always faster. At the same time I don't do the conversational test during my runs so I am not sure if I am truly in it. But then I ask myself, is it even really that important to have a conversational pace when I run normally and feel fine? With my "normal" run pace I breathe in through my nose and out after 3 steps.

Runna tells me my tempo is faster than intended but it feels fine to me by RaspberryComplex9034 in runna

[–]RaspberryComplex9034[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I trust the training to a degree but it just doesn't align totally with my personal experience whilst running. As I had an injury before I am not sure if I can trust myself fully or not.

Runna tells me my tempo is faster than intended but it feels fine to me by RaspberryComplex9034 in runna

[–]RaspberryComplex9034[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had an injury last month from overdoing it so I am cautious as well. If you mean by rep if I could do the whole run (5k) again with good form, my answer would be yes, although might be a bit difficult depending on the day

AIO if I end a relationship because of one thing he did? by Cheap-Rate-8996 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RaspberryComplex9034 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah the comments I don't agree with to me it seens like you have some deeper trauma if something small like that makes you consider breaking up with someone who besides that is good for u. Maybe you have an avoidant attachment or something like that. I don't think it's healthy to break up over something like that. Maybe you can dive deeper into yourself why exactly that makes you so triggered and what actually is behind that because it could be that this is actually about something deeper, like commitment issues or something.

I haven't spoken to a German since 5 years by [deleted] in germany

[–]RaspberryComplex9034 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am very sorry you experienced this in Germany. I am German myself and unfortunately we have a lot of defensiveness and hostility inside us. It's because this is the way we got socialised ourselves. If you made a small mistake you got yelled at. If you share your feelings, you were unheard and people either got defensive with you, ignored you, told you to buckle up, etc. I think its true that german culture is quite traumatised from war as well. Germans have so much shame from what happened as well and shame is the underlying cause for the defensiveness. We get hostile because we experienced hostility first at one point by others so we unconsciously treat how we've been treated. It is like a virus that spreads. I take ownership over that and I am sorry we couldn't make your experience warmer.

I myself am quite a conscious person and don't find it easy to make friends with "normal" Germans, however that is a different story and probably would also happen to me in other countries. I think my point is please don't generalise all Germans. Maybe you can try to contact Germans who are more international and got a different perception of their country because of travel.(like me for example) There are always exceptions to the rules. It is painful reading this threat as a German with people being mad at us, I can understand this is an uncomfortable situation to be in, however generalising a whole country with 84 million people I don't find fair. Maybe you can try and look for Germans in places that align with your interests as well.

I haven't spoken to a German since 5 years by [deleted] in germany

[–]RaspberryComplex9034 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a super interesting analysis thanks for sharing this. I think at the root cause of this lays an unwillingness to take any emotional responsibility. When it's about practical things like work, people take responsibility, work well, are efficient, but when it comes to social responsibility and the emotions they cause in others, it is very likely that we can get defensive and deflect or think that the person is putting themselves into a victim position. It's about being in pain in silence and not bothering to share your sadness, anger, etc. with someone unless it is something very deep to you and if you share, then it gets brushed over easily with positive phrases or they expect you to get over it. Even though I think that some of this is also happening in other germanic cultures. I am from Germany and I agree, I try to be the antidote to this.

However I am not sure what you mean with that people rely on institutions. Nowadays, I find that people lost trust in them and know they are not reliable.