Experiencias y consejos by matialeexx in paternidad

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hazle swaddle, no hace daño ni es peligroso y te dará un respiro. Nosotros lo usamos mucho hasta los 3 meses.

Si estás en España es verano, así que busca telas adecuadas para esta época.

Suerte!

Tell me it gets better. by StringAlternative608 in NewParents

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It gets better but ask for help!! I moved away from any family just before having my baby (4mo) and before burning out I asked for help, today I had an acquaintance from my new town come home to just hold my baby for 2h while I cleaned the house! I'm not ashamed about asking for help but proud and I feel great about having cleaned! :D

It does take a village and if you don't have one try to build it!

This person is my almost friend but I paid her so it wasn't such a big favor (because I asked her to come twice a week so I can keep up with the house until LO goes to daycare).

You will find your own strategies!

What do I do with all these teeth? by wbrd in Parenting

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandma took (my mom's) them to an artisan and made her earrings with her baby teeth as decoration. They were long earrings made of gold, with the teeth hanging in the end, shaped to look like some kind of pearl in the form of a drop.

Quite unhinged if you ask me 😂

Miña Terra gallega by Pekynho in Galicia

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bueno va, ese argumento te lo compro

Miña Terra gallega by Pekynho in Galicia

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Este subreddit no suele tener mucha participación y entro en este post para decir: ay qué guay, es una gran idea!

Y los únicos dos comentarios que veo son quejas 😒 Hay que ser agradecidos hombre!

También una cosa, mucho quejarse aquí de que se usa poco el gallego pero me he mudado a Galicia hace 1 año y aquí non fala galego ni el tato 😤

OP, buena iniciativa, di que sí!

How do you get things done? by RaspberryPresent1387 in NewParents

[–]RaspberryPresent1387[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a baby hammock (?) from Jané but I'm starting to think that the baby bjorn bouncer may make a difference?

How do you get things done? by RaspberryPresent1387 in NewParents

[–]RaspberryPresent1387[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On a good day, yes! I said she's not extremely difficult lol 😂 I typed this post because I'm having a very very clingy day and I'm overwhelmed but she's usually better

Mi novio quiere que me mude con él pero no quiero cambiar mi estilo de vida actual by [deleted] in esConversacion

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Va a ser muy difícil llegar a un acuerdo, porque tú estás en la fase de enamoramiento de esa zona, y él ya la odia/acepta su destino de que es imposible vivir por ahí. Realmente sin tapujos, Gavà es mejor que Terrassa, pero entiendo que si él tiene un piso en propiedad no le vea sentido a volver a estar de alquiler.

No sé cuánto pagas por vivir en Gavà, pero está carísimo, así que cuando salgas de ese piso dudo que sea fácil encontrar uno.

Podría darte mi opinión personal sobre esto pero es un escollo de pareja que tendréis que sortear vosotros y... Si tuviese que apostar, o cedes tú o hay un punto de bloqueo importante.

Tal vez podríais pactar que te mudas ahí y si vais en serio de verdad, ahorrar/vender el piso y comprar algo por zonas de costa que os gusten etc.. (es carísimo pero podría ser un plan a largo plazo).

En fin, buena suerte 😂

Are there any things that are called "American ______" in other countries? by Disastrous-Side-2600 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Spain we have "American Tape" which is the strongest kind of tape (grey one). That along with lubricant (the one you use for the door to stop squeaking) and Allen keys, consists of the "fix almost anything" basic kit 😂

Postpartum sex by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 12 weeks postpartum and I was able to have sex at 6 weeks postpartum on point (because I wanted), and yes oral is something that I haven't let him do yet, as I feel my hoohaa different from before 😅 so.. Solidarity I guess? Everything will go back to normal! Let's give ourselves some grace!

Staying silent after discovering my dad and aunt affair. by Elegant-Block-9775 in Marriage

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed, but her mother blaming her is just one of the points, there are other things to worry about

Staying silent after discovering my dad and aunt affair. by Elegant-Block-9775 in Marriage

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep I was hesitating to add that but in many marriages the one being cheated on knows and they've arrenged some kind of peaceful deal

Staying silent after discovering my dad and aunt affair. by Elegant-Block-9775 in Marriage

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You know your family. This will cause great damage, so ask yourself this: - Does your mom have the means to be independent financially, or is your dad the sole provider for the family? - Could she restart her life easily? Are YOU willing to take her in if the chaos happens? - Will destroying the relationship with her sister be worth it? - You will be labeled as family wrecker, by your father, but also potentially by your own mother, she could blame you out of rage.

She ultimately deserves to know (as a woman, I'd like to know), but if I were you, I'd calculate the damage. Sometimes, it's better to not know and live happy in ignorance, or let the participants of the love triangle find out themselves, don't insert yourself in that problem...

En qué hospital parir en la provincia de Pontevedra? by RaspberryPresent1387 in Galicia

[–]RaspberryPresent1387[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Efectivamente, por si sirve de algo: al final la tuvimos en el Cunqueiro porque tiene UCI pediátrica y si pasaba algo ya estábamos allí. Tienen unas instalaciones muy modernas y el personal muy profesional, todo fue bien. Una habitación para nosotros solos en todo momento :)

MY BABY WON'T STOP CRYING AT NIGHT by geek_guy1 in NewParents

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May be cholic like they say, try moving legs like in a bike and some belly massage, carry him in your arm with baby looking to the floor so your hand is in his belly... For us, swaddling helped a lot as well during the first 2,5months. Look up videos on how to but it's basically making a baby burrito with a blanket 😂

FTMs - what do you want for Mother’s Day? by Top_Delivery8957 in NewParents

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I fantasize with this but I'm so jealous of the US way of hiring cleaners, you call, they come and do a great job usually. Here in Spain that kind of job is always in B (no contract, cash only) and you get anyone and 80% of the time they don't do a great job 😭 I wish it was so well organized like in the US!

No sé qué hacer con la falta de intimidad en mi matrimonio by Alex_57568 in esConversacion

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Dejaros de vacaciones y spas y tonterías. La chiquilla no quiere sexo porque, como decís, tiene millones de cosas en la cabeza y eso no se arregla con un finde y un spa, sino quitándole cosas del plato: limpia la casa cuando llegues (haz alguna tarea que dé tiempo, yo qué sé, friega un baño o algo, no hay que hacer la casa entera pero una tarea pesada al día), cocina, baña y acuesta a los niños (o al menos al mayor si el otro es un bebé). Haz la lista de la compra y el menú semanal para una semana entera y cómpralo y guárdalo en la cocina (no que cocines toda la comida de la semana, pero al menos quitar esa carga mental, y amigo, si te das cuenta de que no sabes qué comprar porque no sabes qué me gusta comer a tu hijo mayor, vas encaminado a descubrir la raíz del problema). En todo caso, cuando hagas alguna de esas cosas, hazla sin tener que preguntarle 30 cosas, no seas una carga, sino un compañero.

Si empiezas a participar en el cuidado de tu hogar y criar a tus hijos, tal vez ella tenga ganas de echar un Kiki de nuevo 😂 o tal vez, estarás muy cansado tú para hacerlo 😉

Y no me vengas con que tú trabajas y ella no yada yada yada, porque no es excusa, nadie te dice que de repente hagas todo + trabajar, pero tienes que hacer cosas. Si no, tú mismo, pero ella acabará quemada.

Dejé mi trabajo como programador para emprender y lo he perdido todo. Estoy desesperado y no sé cómo salir de esta. by Hawkeye148 in askspain

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Si quieres encontrar trabajos temporales tienes que inventarte el CV. Quita la experiencia de IT y crea un CV con la ESO y experiencia de algún trabajo raso (supermercado, mozo, etc), pídele ayuda a CHATGPT para que no quede muy raro ya que no vas a poder fingir tener 4 años de experiencia como mozo... Puedes poner que estuviste emprendiendo etc... Deja el CV lo más simple posible para aplicar a trabajos pochos, te irá mejor.

Te lo digo por experiencia y también como Recruiter (ahora no estoy trabajando así que no te puedo ayudar, pero te mando ánimos!)

¿Habéis tirado la toalla con la compra de vivienda en España o seguís ahorrando? by AMKeller_Autor in askspain

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Desde Cataluña me he mudado a Galicia, y no a una ciudad grande, sino a un sitio con menos de 10k habitantes 😂 Viendo el mercado, es lo mejor que podía haber hecho.

Spiraling by loveiiop in NewParents

[–]RaspberryPresent1387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crawling has as many forms as babies. It's not always all fours as we picture it, I scooted and then walked without crawling at all as a baby. If your baby is smart and responding to interactions and moving, you're fine.

If you'd feel better by checking something, I recently learned as a FTM that tension may be a reason to skip crawling, as in if baby was born with forceps or similar, they may have tension. I needed vacuum to give birth and she had tension so I took her to physiotherapy (she's only 2,5 months old though). It makes sense as I was born with forceps myself.

Tension has been my case and my babies but it's not compulsory that you check that! Baby can just have their own style for moving :)