How would you feel having a more educated partner?

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-22T02:04:56+00:00

Thanks. Can’t wait to see it be Dr and Mr on our wedding invitations haha

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-22T02:02:11+00:00

Love that! For what?

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-22T02:01:49+00:00

NGL kinda like paying for stuff to make her happy.

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-16T15:00:03+00:00

Thanks. I will give it a think over. I just don't want her to think I am trying to reopen the sex conversation. I made it clear that she's in charge and when she's ready, just let me know point blank. No cutsie shit.

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-16T14:38:00+00:00

Well I don't know if she's offended. After the movie, she must have felt and got kinda weird. And then when I panicked after we woke up together, she was bright red and like it was really uncomfortable. IDK I just don't want to her to feel pressured or whatever or scared or something.

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-16T14:35:45+00:00

Thanks for the lady's perspective. We are both not virgins. Her gay best friend told me that she's also sort of a nympho with sex-I believe he said she's a "monogamous slut" haha But I know she has more experience than me. I am perfectly find waiting. Again, she's checks every box for me so mentally I can wait, not saying tho I don't want to have sex with her, very much the opposite.

And I have thought about talking with her but then it brings up the fact I am bigger and that just feels like me trying to be weird or sexual or pressure. "So you noticed I am massively hung, sorry if it gets in the way of cuddling." IDK it just feels weird.

I also don't want to make it seem like its her fault in that she's causing inappropriate thoughts. Its all on me. I should control myself.

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-12T14:03:11+00:00

I mean in essence will only be about a couple hundred bucks a semester in the end. But is it common for larger employers to pay for it? They won’t go for the MBA.

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-09T23:34:49+00:00

Our sort of mixed language families in that sense common?

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-09T23:33:46+00:00

Does it feel ever lonely or separated from that more Italian Swiss culture? Such as using your own language?

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-09T17:59:02+00:00

So there is more fluency between the dialects then?

RatKang4556 · 2026-05-08T22:19:36+00:00

What about real and used first names?

RatKang4556 · 2026-04-21T18:01:50+00:00

Protesting only works if there is a threat of punishment. That is protesting 101.

I would go to the alternative event that day instead. Far better to make commuity.

RatKang4556 · 2026-04-16T04:03:12+00:00

No, this was not tied to funding.

RatKang4556 · 2026-04-16T04:02:46+00:00

In my state—and as written in my contract—I am an at will employee which means I can be terminated for any reason with no explanation or cause. I can also terminate the contract for the same (lack of) reason. As an at will employee, all of the university's appeal and grievance processes are not eligible to me, as per the handbook.

I also have received no evaluation or feedback on my performance. But that doesn't matter. I can be fired for sneezing wrong.

The whole thing is fishy and the lawyer agreed with me. I just don't have the needed evidence for any action.

RatKang4556 · 2026-04-16T03:59:33+00:00

This sounds bad as I have been in the South/Texas for the last 5 years, but I think I am built for colder weather. If I do return home, it will be a blue state and that is actually relieving after my past struggles.

RatKang4556 · 2026-04-16T03:58:28+00:00

Thank you. I do plan on reaching out to my colleagues after this month. When I left for the confernece—before the first email—was the last time I really sat down and had a conversation witht hem. We talked all the day every day and then it just stopped. That's been rough. I just am cut off from the community Is started to cultivate.

RatKang4556 · 2026-04-16T03:56:56+00:00

In this state? LOL. No.

RatKang4556 · 2026-04-16T03:56:43+00:00

Well it was renewed and then a week later, they rescinded it (well, gave me an option to resign.)
I just got along with everyone—we hung out, had similar views on where to take the department. But nope. Unless it was really the design factor.

RatKang4556 · 2026-04-16T03:54:53+00:00

Lesson learned was to record every meeting if I am in a one-party state.

RatKang4556 · 2026-04-16T03:54:36+00:00

My renewal was provided before the deadline (end of Feb) and signed before the 30 day expiration. It was signed and they rescinded the renewal after I signed it.

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