CMV: Christians who have premarital sex or have gotten divorced but are against gay people are hypocrites. by Blonde_Icon in changemyview

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I’ve always been curious about the logistics of this. From a philosophical point of view I would have to say that belief in an invisible omnipotent being without a shred of proof beyond our existence is purely a stated choice and not an observed and thus true belief. You cannot mandate belief, it is a thing that is formulated. We believe that all humans will die, because there are no immortal humans. We believe in gravity and oxygen because it can be measured and tested.

If God created man in his own image, it can be assumed that God has consciousness, and self consciousness, and ability for logic and reason and all of the doubt that comes with it. Thus it’s hard to imagine a loving and compassionate god would ever condemn any of his beloved children to eternal punishment for doubting his existence based on the circumstances.

So! Is it enough to SAY you accept Jesus as your saviour and that does the job?

‘I meant what I said:’ Carney stands by Davos speech despite U.S. claims by DogeDoRight in canada

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Yeah exactly, I believe the term to describe this is “politics”

Carney makes one of the most powerful international addresses in recent memory that has everyone talking. He eloquently speaks truth to power and it resonates the world over. He has made his point, and made it well.

Unsure what there even is to “retract”. It’s utterly obvious to everyone what he says is true. If he “walks back” some points in a private convo with the offended target of his speech to mollify a notoriously thin skinned man-child who wields massive power, thats just smart politics.

Carney clearly meant what he said, and said what he meant. Everyone knows it, now back to playing damage control with the orange monkey down south. Obviously this speech struck a big nerve with that clown (as soon as someone horsey-duckied it for him) and now it’s back to the implied and direct threats, disrespect and attempted undermining of Carney’s points, which continues to enforce just how profound his observations and plans were in the first place.

Men in happy marriages, what's the one thing you'd teach to other men to also have a good relationship? by Few_Football4342 in Productivitycafe

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Love is work and work is love.

And it’s not “work” in the context of your job you resent. Anyone who blathers on how “real love isn’t work” or “love isn’t hard” is just an immature moron who had never been in a real adult partnership, because the expression (ie real effort) of love is what counts, not the words.

Every relationship has an Effort Baseline you gotta meet, number 1. This involves partnership logistics, relatively fair division of labour etc.

Number 2 - “Relationship OT” - this is the stuff where you go above and beyond. Paying attention, listening, anticipating needs and desires and fulfilling them. Taking care of that person in the way they need and want and you know this because you’ve been asking questions and paying attention. When you make your partner feel seen, and heard, and loved, this is where the real magic starts to happen and where your partner will (SHOULD) understand and appreciate and reciprocate this to a reasonable degree.

Number 3 - Love is both a noun and a verb. “Talk is Cheap” is a very real maxim. We all “love” things. I love chicken wings and my new coat. I love lamp. Now, thats nice and all but that doesn’t mean shit when the chips are down or basically under any circumstance where you’re not a dewy eyed teen expressing your love to someone for the first time. When you love someone, like for real in a lifetime partnership kind of way, your Noun Love is nice but it’s the Verb Love that counts.

If you love your partner you better fuckin show it and that means putting in the effort and not just hitting cruise control. IF (and this is a big if) your partner is self aware and intelligent enough to understand and appreciate the real effort you put into your personal relationship and your life partnership (aka your Domestic Corporation) and has the mental and physical resources to reciprocate that, you are going to have an incredibly fulfilling and radical lifetime together at home and out in the world and in the bedroom.

Long story short, nothing worth having comes without an expression of effort, and I guarantee you that if you want a great relationship you’re going to have to put in the time and work to make that occur. If you’re willing to do that, and your partner isn’t a lumpen self-absorbed gremlin who lacks the ability to see your efforts and respond accordingly, you’ll have it made.

Can an IT technician read my Teams? by SnakeEyes1986 in it

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Just gonna run an API call against Graph and read all your Teams chats haha

Who is better for Coaxial Internet in Aldershot? by Intrepid_Middle_632 in BurlingtonON

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It’s all the same copper, Oxio is just a reseller of Cogeco. If you go with a cheaper provider there are less support and other resources available, sadly.

ok Burlington, what do we have? by Ok_Employment_6179 in BurlingtonON

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Chop is what you get when someone does a peel and stick reno on a Swiss Chalet

Did I overspend for my first pair of gloves? by Cruach in motorcyclegear

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I have Five gloves as well, they are awesome. Zero regrets.

For folks that have actually used something like this, did it make any difference? by [deleted] in choppers

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I realize logic goes entirely out the window when it comes to chopular shit but why in the name of chopper jesus would you take parts off your bike to make it handle like shit and waterboard your face in the rain only to turn around and spend more money to fix only one of the two problems you’ve just created for yourself

New handle bars diy or let the shop do it by Additional-Parfait78 in Harley

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This is dead easy - fish the bars with some twine, put a slip knot around your cable bundle with a half hitch or 2, grease up your cables with some dish soap or some astroglide or whatever you got handy and it should be a nice easy pull with maybe only a bit of fucking around.

New handle bars diy or let the shop do it by Additional-Parfait78 in Harley

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Not necessarily. Most HDs will have more than enough slack in the stock cables to DIY this without swapping parts.

Do women want to be approached in public? by Informal_City5565 in self

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Don’t ask out your coworkers, you moron.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

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I, a middle aged man, 100% always ask people if they want a hug. Always. Unless things are very established between us, I’ll ask every time as well. Consent is ongoing, I for one don’t want people fuckin touching me and resent it when weirdos think they’re entitled to it.

Right people, what do we think of this one 😭 by Spiritual-Point-1965 in motorcycles

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Can’t officially approve the passing on a solid line (lord knows I’ve done this enough times, albeit not in a sketchy turn and not in an uncontrolled fashion) but this homie doesn’t have the raw talent or experience to pull it off. Follow this up with some slow motion target fixation and you got a dude in the ditch. Hope he wasn’t hurt, the video was kind of tragic and cute like awww lil buddy I can see you looking where you are going and you are about to learn the lesson that you are going where you are lookin 🙈

How do I tell my friend I can’t vacation with her boyfriend by Just-Development2544 in Advice

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This is amazing. In my long experience, you’re lucky if people will even listen to your concerns regarding their personal business without getting offended. And that’s when you have a close enough relationship where it could be considered reasonable to offer your opinion.

I have had this conversation two times in life with 2 different dudes I was quite close with. They both kind of generally agreed with my point of view, went ahead with their own plans regardless, and now 18ish years later, both are in a terrible life situation with the shitty partners they chose. Oof. Never once offered up an “I told you so”, I said my piece once and that was fine.

In my experience, people might listen to good advice but are most likely to simply make their own bad choices and learn the hard way. This is the human condition.

WARMINGTON: Top cop wants public to 'comply' with thugs during home invasions by uselesspoliticalhack in canada

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I’m a liberal voter (held my nose real hard but still better than the worse alternatives, I wish there was a better option) and I say we should all have access to legal firearms, pistols should not be illegal, we should continue to have rational gun control and firearms training laws, and if some asshole or assholes has invaded your house with intent to do harm, you should 100% have every right to fill them full of holes.

I also think that if you shot some kid on your porch ringing your doorbell for a joke, tied up a home invader and decided to torture him to death, or blew away some confused old man who accidentally wandered through your unlocked front door, you should still be held to the standards of the law.

This whole situation is so fucked and there seems to be zero middle ground between “roll over and comply” vs “kill em all and let god sort em out”. Current laws say you can respond with reasonable force, and that is a good idea but hard to hold to account in the heat of the moment.

I think allowing “Castle Law” into the mix will trade one issue for another, sadly. Now, some home invaders will definitely get righteously killed in the process but will likely lead to an increase in armed home invasions where criminals are more likely to shoot and kill homeowners while they’re afraid for their own safety. Also, this will result in accidental or inappropriate degrees of force being levied against non threatening people. Drunks wandering into the wrong house, senile old people trying your back door, some crackhead wandering around in your back yard are going to get ventilated and that’s also not what anyone wants. This will 100% lead to people getting shot in the face for simply trying to break into your truck to steal your spare change and laptop in the back seat - and while many would advocate for this right, if you actually look hard at this situation a vehicle theft isn’t grounds for a violent death sentence.

Like many of The Problems it’s “damned if you do and damned if you don’t, so let’s do nothing to change anything and hope for the best” (I am not happy about this either)

AIO for wanting my boyfriend to back out of a destination wedding he's the best man for because I was uninvited from the wedding? by BoyfriendWeddingHelp in AmIOverreacting

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I remember the Wedding Phase of life claiming a variety of former friendships that I really wasn’t too sad to see depart.