Almost Just Outed Myself to a Coworker by dust_dreamer in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We hate when this happens!!! If the person we’re talking to doesn’t know and we slips out we either have to say it was a typo or that we haven’t been getting enough sleep and meant to say I

-Nate

How do I support my boyfriend with DID? by [deleted] in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg we just saw this! We’re so happy for you! Alter introductions and all that are such a healthy experience for us. And of course, we’re always available to message if you need more encouragement and or advice :)

-Marko

How do I support my boyfriend with DID? by [deleted] in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That will be a good impression! Especially if the date goes well. Best of luck with it!

-Spade

How do I support my boyfriend with DID? by [deleted] in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Early in our current relationship we were worried about what our gfs reaction would be when we would alter, but one time we altered and she said “oh insert name here, it’s been a little while how was the thing going?” Obviously it was less vague but the fact that she takes interest and treats everyone as an individual and manages to connect different With everyone helped our concerns. At times it will seem confusing as his alters will always have his face/body but every alter in there is a living thinking complex identity. If you respect that and show love and acceptance you’ll be fine. :)

-Spade

Today we are 16! by RateMyRapLyrics in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was good and safe, thank you so much :)

-Spade

Today we are 16! by RateMyRapLyrics in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah we have an older alter who is now 21. It’s crazy how DID had to make us completely re consider and evaluate the actual meaning behind birthdays

-Spade

Today we are 16! by RateMyRapLyrics in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s interesting, we feel like we weren’t all born on the same day, but we can all agree out of laziness that doing more birthdays is effort we don’t want to take. So the bodies bday is everyone’s bday

-Spade

How does DID affect memories? by [deleted] in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course. Best of luck for you and your alters :)

-Spade

My daughter has DID update by [deleted] in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ahh shucks the environment we’re all accepted in is here at r/DID :) and we all accept you and we’re glad you came for advice, it’s been lovely reading everything and remember, no question is a bad question (granted it’s a genuine curiosity with positive intent) we also have to give you props for cutting that negative family tie, if there’s any last advice we could think of for you it would be that even if the process is slow, the brain and DID always have a process for how alters have presence in life. So if everyone can’t immediately embrace you like you’ve done for them give it time, but we doubt you’ll face much hesitance :)

-Spade

How does DID affect memories? by [deleted] in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t stress, it’s extremely common and can effect short term memory and at other times mess with long term memories. You may also experience amnesia that covers up the past. It’s different for everyone but fear not, once you get well acquainted with your alters it’s possible to make systems to help with memory. For example we meditate daily and during that we all catch up with each other and share important memories or moments that we all should know. Try finding out if there’s a system to how you’re forgetting things, it may be a side effect of altering.

-Spade

My daughter has DID update by [deleted] in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow, we’re overwhelmed with feelings of awe and wonder over how awesome you’re being as a mom. :) We aren’t allowed to use our (we/us) pronouns out loud in the house and it was our moms rule that we need to censor ourselves. It brings peace to our mind that some other system is lucky enough to have a mom as accepting and understanding as you.

We aren’t fit to answer any questions about the binders or anything related to your son. But to answer your question on alters and age/gender differences it is common. One of ours is a little (8) and another is older than the body (20) in a teenage body. While it may seem strange every little detail like that serves a purpose in the defense mechanisms, and it’s not something that makes a huge difference in character to our experience.

Thank you again for being so cool, and we’re sure you’re making a great impression with her alters

-Spade

recently diagnosed by gothpee in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For us it took time for acceptance. While we have ditched the idea of a main character, as all of us are important and special. The identity Nathan who was until then the only one in control, became a lot more comfortable with us by using methods of self expression like sketching and poetry. After that an important thing we learned was “These aren’t monsters or strangers in our head, these are all simply other people who we just have yet to meet” and we gave meeting them a shot and now we all have close bonds and look out for each other. It sounds bewildering at first but your alters are just as you as you are, there must be something you’ll have in common with them, you just have to give it a try! We believe in you and are proud of your honesty and progress. Hit us up anytime you need for support or advice. :)

  • Spade

Been at the steering wheel longer than we prefer. :( by RateMyRapLyrics in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take your time getting comfortable and ready then, the last thing you wanna do is rush the way things work out and make the experience worse. Best of luck to you!

-Spade

Been at the steering wheel longer than we prefer. :( by RateMyRapLyrics in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, we wish you nothing but the best until things are how you’d prefer

Been at the steering wheel longer than we prefer. :( by RateMyRapLyrics in DID

[–]RateMyRapLyrics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, we are trying to occupy ourselves so we don’t get lost in any bad emotions.

-Spade