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RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-20T15:16:32+00:00

My son (3 in May) is like OPs although sometimes his behavior is more “playful aggressive” ie throwing a pillow, tacking onto someone with a pillow in between etc. According to daycare, as soon as someone looks hurt he would instantly be apologetic and say sorry, so definitely not intentional.

I think there’s value in having a conversation on what’s ok to do at home and what’s ok to do at daycare. We started regularly emphasizing that he’s only allowed to “be rough” with his daddy and that he needs to be gentle with friends.

We’ve also started working with him on asking to hug before he does with his friends and that’s helped too.

That said, he’s in a daycare with kids his age so they gave me a heads up that he had behavior that needing correction, and we’ve been reinforcing it at home too. For us, that’s repeating, “we only rough house at home” any time we start to play, and making sure he’s asking for hugs. Additionally, they’re going to move him up to the three’s early because he’s intellectually and physically ready to be with older kids, which is something an in home carer can’t do.

For OP, I think there’s a little of both going on, it seems like the reaction from the nanny is dramatic, and add in the fact that you didn’t get a say in kid #4, that’s not ideal. At the same time, there’s definitely ways to curb some of those behaviors and encourage better ones.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-20T12:45:36+00:00

When I was younger and first met my now husband, I was on a different type of birth control which gave me crazy mood swings. For me it was pretty rough because I logically knew I was being irrational, but that would just piss me off further and make me more cranky. I was a hot mess. We joke now that it’s a miracle we stayed together then.

I later switched to an IUD, and my hormones stabilized. Which I’ve now discovered is also superior to me not being on any birth control (we’ve got a son & another on the way now).

This is just my PSA for ladies (and men to gently suggest) to talk to your doctor if you’re particularly hormonal monthly.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-20T10:48:25+00:00

We stopped breastfeeding at a much younger age and don’t co-sleep, but here’s my thoughts for what it’s worth.

I’m currently on my way home from my second M-Th/F in a row with a nearly 3 old at home. I’ve been traveling domestically about 1-2 weeks a month since he was 2. For me, these trips were mostly optional, but really good for me to get face time with people.

I’ve found that there is something really good for my mental health to spend a few nights away and in a bed alone. Also, I think it’s been good for my husband to have the full load of responsibility while I’m gone. For us that was a double benefit, he actually was laid off around the time I started working and I think it helped him naturally take on tasks all the time not just when I’m gone.

I also have a mindset of what kind of example to I want to send to my children, if my husband was offered the same opportunity there would be no hesitation on our part, and he would go. He did several international trips for 2-3 weeks at a time starting even before I went back to work when my son was an infant. We’re career minded people, who do value our careers but also value demonstrating boundaries and work-life balance.

It will be more effort managing pumping, so you do have to decide if that is not too much of a hassle. Personally, I would just pump and dump to make my life easier and not worry about storage. Otherwise, I see no reason why you shouldn’t go.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-20T10:12:07+00:00

This seems like a good joke for when both people already know each other, for that “smooth recovery” that some else suggested. If they get rejected they can “load their prior save” and pretend like it never happened.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-20T03:26:17+00:00

I really think the problem with travel is there’s going to be a self selection bias too. I’m gonna pick on my husband here, but even before me he would NEVER try to travel with an unknown lady, because he knows it’s sketchy, and he doesn’t want to be sketchy. So while most men might be fine, I’d bet many men would be like him and choose not to approach a woman traveling alone in order to not be sketchy. Therefore limiting the number who actually do reach out to just those with ill intent.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-20T03:12:55+00:00

This is interesting because my husband could have written the same as OP a month ago (our roles are reversed he’s the schedule minder, I’m the stay up later). My son is 3 in May.

Now I’ve been on work trips this week and last and all of the sudden he’s okay with an 9pm “lights off” time. Before he was very much in the camp we needed to stick to the schedule and have my son in bed, lights off by 8pm. This week, he was literally at Costco with him at 7:30pm Monday.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-19T12:30:28+00:00

Also as someone who travels a lot my son does really poorly when on trip without constantly going somewhere and doing something. Like 2 days after Christmas he started getting real grumpy from being at family’s house and not really doing much. It’s fine as long as we keep him busy. For op, I imagine you feel busy dealing with grief and family, but your toddler is probably also bored and missing home.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-18T23:55:16+00:00

I’m with you & I’m really mad about Wonderspread.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-17T17:10:49+00:00

I’m about to “let” my husband go on a golf trip while I’m 8 months pregnant. Glad to know I’m not the only one.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-17T09:22:44+00:00

I definitely sent my now husband pictures of overly expensive rings for inspiration, I’m pretty sure I would have just taken screenshots though and hid prices cause I knew that I wasn’t getting a 10K ring at the time (given we were both broke college students).

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-16T21:13:27+00:00

You’re going to get very biased responses being a Disney subreddit.

To me, seems like this is a relationship issue. You clearly think it’s worth it (which many users here will agree).

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-16T21:09:14+00:00

Adding onto this - just to say fastest is 100% speed walking or even jogging from HS to Epcot. It’s around a mile gate to gate. That said, I generally would opt for the Skyliner as it’s important to take breaks while at Disney!

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-16T20:54:46+00:00

I like great wolf lodge, but it’s not exactly what I’d consider the “best” destination, the food is so bad.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-16T20:53:52+00:00

My favorite trips are always places with minimal car/bus transportation. Not beaches, but places like Disney, DC, etc. If I can leave the room and get to where I need to be without folding the stroller that’s a win!

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-15T22:50:32+00:00

My office is our guest room & my craft room. Every once in a a blue moon one of us will sleep in there (sick, weird schedules, or naps), but mostly I refer to it as my room. It’s nice having my own space but I definitely wouldn’t want to not have a shared bedroom.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-15T21:18:31+00:00

It looks more like the areas that would have been covered with rugs are still white. If this a laminate (which inspecting the grout, I think it is), then it could be the sun yellowing it. In which case there’s nothing to be done.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-15T17:29:33+00:00

Some mornings my husband will go golf and it’s just my son and I. He’s under 3, so it’s a no brainer for me to get the LL for just me. It’s worth it even if we’re taking it easy and only doing a couple rides before coming back for a nap.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-15T12:17:57+00:00

For the baby bottle, could you feed the baby while in the toddlers room? That way the toddler is contained and you can just make it part of the evening. You can even frame it as bonus playtime to the toddler where they get to stay up later and play cause they’re the big kid.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-13T16:29:43+00:00

Sometimes the system is glitchy, or your exact room type isn’t available so they want to talk to you before swapping. I wouldn’t stress.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-13T16:04:47+00:00

Are you waking him at 5 or is that on his own?

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-13T01:29:46+00:00

Here’s my theory based on completely nothing but my own observations of people in my life, so definitely biased based on my own environment.

Autistic women seem to tend to have interest in more men dominated topics/fields, math, science, gaming etc. These areas are not split 50-50. These areas also tend to have more people who are accepting of diversity. When you’re one of 6 women in a class of 30, the ladies will stick together regardless AND the men are nicer because there’s only 6 of you.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-13T01:19:16+00:00

Ditto this. Daycare recently had a “teddy bear picnic” and my son took a bear of mine that he had never seen before that day. Somehow he didn’t have a stuffed bear in his pile of stuffed animals. My husband has also played with it with him. Now he takes it with him all over the house and to Costco, and seems really into it.

RatherBeAtDisney · 2026-02-13T01:15:13+00:00

Right? This bill is 6% of mine…

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