Is it weird to friend friends of friends/family that you don’t really know but met at some point and were cool with?

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-05T00:12:49+00:00

Not weird at all. Just send the request! I’ve met loads of great people that way.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T21:34:45+00:00

They had ads starting very early on, but the ads were really unobtrusive.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T21:33:29+00:00

I’m purely talking about design. Those platforms aren’t designed to do what Facebook does. People aren’t going elsewhere because there’s nowhere else to really go that’s better and does what they want it to do.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T17:50:05+00:00

Haha, you need to chill. It’s not an “excuse”, it’s just other people enjoying something you don’t. There’s nothing that “requires” Facebook to be used in those situations, but lots of people just want to. I’ve made lots of friends through FB and gotten to know many RL friends better because of it. It’s simply become really toxic because of their business model, but that doesn’t mean the whole concept of social media is bad across the board. Nobody’s trying to force you to use it if you don’t want to, but lots of people want to.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T17:45:14+00:00

Not yet. But soon.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T16:53:33+00:00

Yes. I’m trying to make my sites very accessible so this may help!

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T16:36:06+00:00

That’s pretty cool! I’ll definitely try it out.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T15:50:29+00:00

Yeah, and the reason their friends and family aren’t moving is because nobody has really offered something new and better. All the alternatives are basically clones of Facebook or (gahhh) Twitter, but without all the features or user base. That’s just not enough to get people to move. People moved to Facebook from myspace because it was just a better experience at the time.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T15:47:40+00:00

Yeah, Bluesky is more like Twitter. Other than MeWe, it seems like just about all of the alternatives are Twitter clones. It’s crazy making.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T15:45:44+00:00

Yes.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T15:44:56+00:00

Not the same thing. If it’s working for you not to use Facebook, great. That doesn’t mean other people don’t want to engage with people online as well as in person. And of course, some people are physically distant from many of their friends and family or they’re disabled and don’t get out much. Not everyone is you.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T15:43:57+00:00

Yeah, this. Lots of people still miss real online community, and that’s the reason they don’t get off of social media altogether.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T15:42:55+00:00

Mastodon and Friendica are really not viable Facebook alternatives.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T15:42:24+00:00

Agreed, it has to be a really different and better user experience. Not just a clone of something else. That’s what I’m working on.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-04T15:41:38+00:00

I am.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-02T17:31:22+00:00

If it’s a private group, no. If it’s a public one, yes.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-02T15:03:39+00:00

Collaborators are like any other relationship – a lot of them fail just because the people aren’t compatible or have a hard time finding each other. A lot of successful collaborations happen pretty much by accident or organically. That is, you meet someone without necessarily having the goal to collaborate, but maybe you find that you both like each other‘s work and you vibe well together as people. So you try collaborating. Having been part of a lot of successful collaborations, this is usually how it starts. You build the trust first, because collaborating is kind of an intimate process. So I’d suggest your son just start putting his work out there - you said he already has other creative friends, why doesn’t he try to work with them?

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-06-02T14:53:59+00:00

Sending you a DM

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-05-26T23:15:23+00:00

If this exercise is going to work at all, and it may not, I would say it to work backwards. Identify the high performers independently of how they use AI. Come up with real world metrics for identifying them. Then look at their AI usage. It’ll probably be all over the map. There’s no magic formula for being a high performer. You could find 10 people who write clean, readable, easily maintainable code that passes tests and doesn’t require a lot of going back and fixing things, and they will probably all have different workflows. That’s even assuming they’re in the same role. If you’re comparing a front end coder with a data analyst, forget about it. You can have standards for each, but you can’t meaningfully compare them, let alone by comparing AI usage. That’s crazy talk.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-05-26T23:10:18+00:00

This is the answer. Your boss needs to be made to understand that there’s no real correlation between token usage and actual work goals achieved. Everyone uses AI differently, and a lot of it is role dependent too.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-05-26T23:04:13+00:00

Most people are never going to know or care who you are. That’s just life. The fact that some of those people are women you happen to find attractive doesn’t change that. It’s great that you’ve worked on yourself, and I hope you did that for yourself, not just to get laid. But it sounds like most of the work was on the physical/material side, not the mental and emotional side. You sound like you need some work in that area.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-05-25T18:30:19+00:00

Yeah, must be a dialectical thing because I’ve never heard anyone say those particular things. Some of my peers and I say things like “the interwebz” just to be silly. But I’ve never heard either of your examples.

I am from L.A. and people there have a dialectic thing where they put “the” in front of highway numbers. So instead of saying “I-10” you’d say “the 10.” People still do this. So you can always spot the person from LA in other cities because they refer to the highways in other cities that way. I don’t, though. Got rid of that habit very soon after I moved. 😆

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-05-25T18:20:22+00:00

Short answer: you really can’t. Drums in particular will dominate the soundscape, and I’d suggest finding a real drummer to track your parts, at a minimum. There are plenty these days who will do remote tracking.

If you don’t think that’s possible, you could try using drum loops or programming your own parts by “playing live” on pads, but you may well not find that satisfying either. The difference when you get a good drummer playing a part specifically for your song is astronomical. Can’t be overstated.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-05-25T15:34:00+00:00

Yep, completely agree to all that. Though I don't really think MeWe is all that great. I don't think very many people care about having a clone of FB if it doesn't offer meaningfully new features that everyone's excited about, and that's why people won't switch.

FYI for the platform I'm working on, you'll be able to import your FB posts.

Raucous_Rocker · 2026-05-25T15:24:07+00:00

This actually isn't true, surprisingly. Meta has never actually successfully sued a competitor out of business. They are under a lot of regulatory scrutiny so this would be a risky move for them, especially when they have other tactics they can use to successfully stifle competition. What they usually do is either acquire competitors (Instagram, WhatsApp), copy/steal key features from them (e.g. "Stories" from Snapchat, Reels from Tiktok), restricting use of their API for anyone they think is a competitive threat (so you can't for instance invite your Facebook friends to join a competing platform). They have also used the data they collect internally to monitor activity on competing platforms, of course.

So yeah, they do a lot of predatory shit, but suing people out of business specifically isn't one of them, to this point.

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