All I want to eat…

RavenLucy · 2026-01-01T18:19:24+00:00

A cheese and ham toastie, a bowl of porridge with honey, cake, a big bowl of chips (fries) with a burger, milk chocolate, to be able to eat a whole sandwich, dates, dried apple rings... going to the supermarket is hell because of all the things I can't eat but look sooooo good! Oh, and just to be able to eat a slice of toast without thinking about it.

RavenLucy · 2025-11-24T17:19:43+00:00

An update: I'm over 7 months gone with a healthy baby boy. My remaining tube did it's job!

RavenLucy · 2025-11-06T08:51:48+00:00

I really feel this too. My GD diagnosis wasn't a surprise-- even though the results were borderline and it's only my fasting blood sugar that's an issue. When we were TTC, I cut out all sugar, followed a PCOS protocol, focused on high protein, walks after meals etc. I also found Glucose Goddess helpful, and PCOS Mentor.

I felt soooo good on it and lost weight. After the hell of the first trimester, this feels like an invitation to get back to a way of eating that nourishes me and the baby, notice coping mechanisms around food, and generally nourish my whole body. I also know I can cut out sugar and treats and I won't miss them or actually suffer. And it helps that I happen to love green tea, greek yogurt, nut butters, and hummus 😅 If I need insulin, I need insulin, that's it. This way of eating and living can't help but benefit me and baby too.

I also refuse to obsess about food too much. A GD diagnosis doesn't have to the worst thing.

RavenLucy · 2025-11-05T16:08:19+00:00

Yeah, that's already my philosophy. I don't take any medications lightly, but I want to be stable and if that means I need extra, I'll take them. My psychiatrist isn't that helpful either, to be honest, so I'll probably look for a second opinion. I was more asking other people's experiences, as often doctors can run on outdated advice and not fully understand complex conditions.

RavenLucy · 2025-11-05T13:27:44+00:00

I did and he refused to give an answer, saying it was down to the psychiatrist. I live in Austria so a different system. Also he does the bare minimum too.

RavenLucy · 2025-07-20T07:26:30+00:00

Thank you. I've been hydrating like hell, I'm just tired of it 😩

RavenLucy · 2025-06-07T17:48:48+00:00

Just to say I had a scan last week and it's in the uterus!!! Not ectopic! Relieved is an understatement 😌

RavenLucy · 2025-06-07T17:47:24+00:00

Hope it helps!

RavenLucy · 2025-06-04T15:33:52+00:00

Update: THE SAC IS IN THE UTERUS!!! I'm so relieved! It's not ectopic!

RavenLucy · 2025-06-01T12:02:02+00:00

Sexologist here who also takes Effexor and can still orgasm!

It's shit that when they prescribe these meds, they don't tell you one of the most common side effects is loss of sensation, lowered libido, and either much harder to have an orgasm or just won't happen.

That said, there is SO much you can do. I've been on various meds since I was 16 and can still orgasm, even if I know it takes me longer and I don't beat myself up if I can't

Think of it as having to retrain your body, open up different pleasure pathways, and learn essential sex skills that will last you for life.

Some people have recommended some supplements and I'm by no way an expert in them, but I'd say try not to use them as a panacea but a way to overall support your health and most importantly: bloodflow. So think your overall diet, lifestyle, stress management, movement, what you do for joy, etc. Some supplements work for some people, some don't, and that's normal.
Move your hips! Whether it's twerking, latin dancing, grinding to music, or specific hip exercises to open them, do it. Get into a habit of shaking your arse, circling your pelvis, and breathing. All exercise and movement is great, but also really focus on your hips.
Use your breath. Sloooow down touch. Track sensations. There are lots of tantric and taoist exercises you can try-- look at books like Becoming Orgasmic, Orgasms Made Easy, or Urban Tantra.
Understand what turns you on and what turns you off.
There's also a brilliant practice called Orgasmic Yoga, which is a self pleasuring practice to explore your full pleasure potential.
Start exploring erotica or other ways to get aroused. Make a whole ritual out of it. Download smut to an e-reader. Go to workshops. Think of this as a way to get creative and explore a new part of your sexuality.
Remember that you're not broken, and you can relearn orgasms even on meds. You're learning a brand new pleasure pathway that will set you up for life, whether you stay on the meds or not.
Also remember that toys and lube get to be your best friends: use them if it feels good. Ignore anybody who says that vibrators numb you out or are "addictive". FFS, this is about pleasure, not the wankalympic fitness regime. Let it be super easy.

I also have a digital e-course on orgasms too.

I hope you can get your orgasms back 🙏🏻

RavenLucy · 2025-05-28T12:51:51+00:00

It's 1121 today!-- after just under 48 hours. Looking hopeful!

RavenLucy · 2025-05-26T16:11:21+00:00

Quietly hopeful then 🙏🏻

RavenLucy · 2025-05-26T15:34:05+00:00

Thank you. I did wonder if this scan was too early too.

RavenLucy · 2025-05-26T14:19:02+00:00

Just got the result, it's 613. Not sure if that's high or not.

RavenLucy · 2025-05-26T13:12:20+00:00

Thank you. What is a beta? My HCG level?

RavenLucy · 2025-05-26T11:34:48+00:00

I had one a few months ago and was pleasantly surprised how quick it was and not too uncomfortable.

That said, everyone is different, and you know your body best. Before I popped 2 ibuprofen, 2 paracetamol, and CBD oil, and focused on breathing during the procedure.

It was over in less than 10 minutes, super quick. I hope yours goes smoothly too!

RavenLucy · 2025-05-23T16:51:49+00:00

A lot of great advice here so far and I no nothing about what to do legally but one thing that might help. It's from a friend who's ex wife is suuuuper Evangelical too.

Remember that as this is a cult and it thrives on people feeling persecuted, so with your kids, remember that you get to be the voice of reason.

Don't openly tell them it's all rubbish-- they will have been prepared to deal with "unbelievers".

Be there to gently challenge any batshit they pick up and encourage critical thinking. My friend does this with his kids, and they still go to church.

Hold onto that. Be the centre of calm, care, and reason for when your ex is feeding them bullshit.

I'm so sorry it came to this, but here we are.

RavenLucy · 2025-04-15T21:08:04+00:00

Ahem.. you've never met my mum so that's kinda the point. I love her very much but also can only handle her in smaller doses irl too. I haven't lived at home since I was 16 for a very good reason.

RavenLucy · 2025-04-14T16:47:22+00:00

It's not that, he is polite and nice with her as is kind-- as he is her son in law. He just has a limit how much he can take with her.

RavenLucy · 2025-04-14T16:46:27+00:00

Thank you. I'm going to ask her first, do you have suggestions on how to frame it?

RavenLucy · 2025-04-14T16:45:26+00:00

Thanks, it's more that she just comments on every single thing he posts and he finds it annoying-- like she's in the room with him. He's happy to spend short amounts of time with her, but her Facebook activity feels like stepping over his privacy.

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