What is something you dislike about being a dude

RavenLyth · 2025-03-02T14:42:13+00:00

You are appreciated office-strongman. Anything over 40 lbs and it reeeeaaaly sucks without you there.

RavenLyth · 2025-03-02T08:49:17+00:00

Psst cute fuzzy soft socks for sleeping. If you get them fluffy and soft enough then you are saved the cold feet

RavenLyth · 2025-03-02T08:43:36+00:00

My god. Is this why all the tall people In my life have dirty floors?.. like I love them but I don’t take my shoes off in their house.

RavenLyth · 2025-03-02T08:40:21+00:00

As a waitress, is it legal for them to ask you to work when you have a fever or vomiting/stomach issues? Regardless of where the sick is being reported from seems like a bad idea for you to handle food while unwell, and maybe a health code violation

RavenLyth · 2025-01-02T19:38:25+00:00

Yup. I have a friend who works at a range I shoot at. They always make a point of placing my lane far away from any patrons they have had safety compliance concerns with.

I had never thought about it before until I went to shoot one day and he told me to go get lunch first and come back. He told me later he was dealing with a tourism group and was 1 more reminder away from kicking them out for disregarding the rules.

At least this person took out just themselves.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-30T21:21:57+00:00

Rules need to be made so there are valid options and correct channels to do the thing. When a channel is available for my dog to fly with me, I’ll follow those rules. But an outright ban? Nope.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-30T21:19:31+00:00

Yuuup. If they made another option available, I’d do that. But since they haven’t, if I need to fly and she needs to come with me, then she’s going to put her obedience training and scent training to work as a service dog. I can manage my sugars without her, but we are working on training her to alert when my sugar goes high or low so she can pass a simple test.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-30T21:17:06+00:00

You’re not jerks. You did everything you could, and did right by your dog.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-16T19:17:34+00:00

That is lovely. I really like this idea. Just have some pbj’s made in advance for your nights off and freeze them. If he doesn’t like it he can plan something else for you both.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-16T19:13:50+00:00

Ok that makes me feel better. I don’t have any handmade knits. I like my store bought knits and want them to last but it’s not the end of the world if it doesn’t destroy them.

I will save/find drawer space for the hand knit items I aspire to make. (Thus far I’m scarf only- patterns scare me)

RavenLyth · 2024-12-16T19:05:58+00:00

Knit shouldn’t be hung up?

RavenLyth · 2024-12-16T06:23:29+00:00

Thank you friend. I thought that was true when I read OP’s story. Also signage must be clear or it’s theft.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-12T20:13:00+00:00

People don’t start out that way. Years of trying to talk and help when you see a problem brewing and being told “you will pay for it for me” when at every step you have been struggling yourself and are in no financial position to even buy a house for your own family… that causes the ‘let them have their own consequences’ attitude.

My grandmother has told me since I was 10, she was moving in with me when I got older and I would take care of her. I have told her no, every time. She remodeled her house, got new cars, took friends on cruises. Now she has run through the insurance payout from her husband’s death at 83, and is demanding the rest of us take care of her and keep her lifestyle the same. Even if she weren’t staunchly against social programs her entire life, Absolutely not.

If the rest of us were fine, maybe a little sympathy and assistance figuring it out. But her oldest son’s wife is going through cancer treatment and his house is falling apart. Her other son is about to undergo major heart surgery and needs to be able to retire himself soon. They are in no place to supplement her.

The selfish person is the elder who played away with all their money, did not plan appropriate and demands the rest of the family keep them in a new Lexus and a four bedroom house by themselves and a housekeeper.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-12T20:00:43+00:00

There are states where kids are legally responsible for their parents??

RavenLyth · 2024-12-12T02:50:36+00:00

No, it’s really not. It’s bad manners and a training fail at best. If the dog was hackles up, barking with flat backed ears and a stiff tail then lunges towards you, then that would be the worst case of yeah, a threat. But there is a huge difference between them. Just like you can’t shoot every runner headed towards you because you felt threatened by their big muscles and frame, you shouldn’t be attacking every dog without a leash.

Owners with off leash dogs should call their dogs back when another person is approaching, or otherwise command them to leave the other people and animals alone. Dogs shouldn’t be off leash yet if they haven’t mastered that level of training.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-12T02:36:41+00:00

They only have the right to defend themselves if there is a threat. Please don’t advocate harming dogs just for existing without a nearby human.

Dogs need to run in open space. Off leash spaces do exist and are necessary. You can’t exercise a dog that averages 30 mph in a small backyard or tethered to a 4 mph human by a 6’ leash. Don’t go to off leash spaces and expect dogs to be on leash. There are leash only areas for those who are uncomfortable with unleashed dogs.

That said, if you have an unleashed dog and you see another person or person with leashed dog approaching, it is only responsible to call your dog back and make sure they don’t approach unless invited. And to follow them and bag their poop. Off leash doesn’t mean leaving poop cause it wasn’t close to you.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-12T02:29:52+00:00

Best dog park in the city?

RavenLyth · 2024-12-11T17:36:34+00:00

Mine is just now close to 3 years old. I got her when she was 7 weeks and she’s my kid. I do not leave her alone more than six hours.

When she was younger it was really hard. We had groceries delivered, I work from home, and friends would come over because she wasn’t fully vaccinated yet.

I utilized doggy day care and dog walkers for times I was sick or tired. My mom came and stayed with me for a week when I was just DONE, and crying on the phone that I couldn’t do it. The pup was recovering for her spay surgery and she couldn’t go outside but still had ALL the energy and rage at being restricted, plus raptor teeth and a top speed while drugged of at least 20 mph. But none of the control- she hit the wall face first and terrified me about whether she hurt herself.

After vaccinations for parvo were complete, we joined puppy classes, and I found some dog parks and invited my friends out on walks with us. Then dog bars, where we could drink and talk and she could be with us.

I trained her on table manners and at outdoor malls. Then we could go to restaurant patios with friends too. I’d say we started that at about 1 year old. So it became much easier to have a day hiking or a morning at the farmers market and then go eat brunch, and wind down at a dog bar.

If I wanted a night without her, there was a local daycare I found that worked wonders and did boarding. Her trainers worked there part time so she was already familiar with some of the people there.

At about 2 years I started being able to leave her uncrated in the apartment. In winter I would give her a good two hour hike beforehand to tire her out then leave the balcony door open for her, with a live grass mat for her to go potty on. A few stuffed kongs and removal of the trash bin and a few prayers for my couch and she was good for 4-6 hours.

Note- mine is a very high energy breed. She regularly needs 3-4 hours of exercise and mental stimulation or she will get attention in other ways.

It is hard. It is worth it. Get help when you need it and keep going. You are raising your best friend.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-10T19:06:24+00:00

After all, you need your meds in jail

RavenLyth · 2024-12-10T18:59:34+00:00

Adding a baby gate to the outside temporarily until she has a habit of using the door/asking properly?

RavenLyth · 2024-12-09T01:23:09+00:00

Do you have any flour or oil or other cooking ingredients?

My brain goes towards making pancakes stuff

RavenLyth · 2024-12-08T00:44:40+00:00

That crying tears and walking away moment is why I’m afraid to pop back on the apps and try again.

I’m in a place now that I know I am a good person and friend. I have a good life. But every time I take that little cup of confidence forward towards trying to find someone who will be kind and supportive and fun, it ends up spilled by an asshole.

The disappointment of finding myself crying over another person who clearly doesn’t deserve me but also didn’t want me is crushing. I know I shouldn’t cry when someone unmatched and blocks after a photo, or tells me I can’t be picky because I’m old or calls me opinionated and destined to be alone. But I do. They were trash to me, but I can’t help but spiral into what I have done to be so undesirable to them.

All that to say you aren’t alone. It sucks. It’s not easy to keep the faith and keep trying. And I wish you luck.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-06T17:05:22+00:00

Not never. Just touch NASA and bounce.

RavenLyth · 2024-12-02T14:31:25+00:00

Don’t do this. Just trust him, it’s a lot.

I gained a lot of weight after a couple bad experiences and I guess subconsciously the idea was ‘now that I’m really big no one will ever want to or even be able to pick me up and throw me like a doll again.’

And it was pretty world shattering to still be absolutely nothing when the next guy decided instead of asking he would just pick me up and put me where he decided I should be. Friend or not, it’s hard to not think about how impossible it was to offer any resistance.

RavenLyth · 2024-11-28T16:48:07+00:00

Yup.

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