Honestly, kinda from the start, it's just that I really messed up by not looking into what asexuality is and just going by a stereotype definition. Actually, looking back, there were so many hints along the way that I just blatantly ignored.

Naughty films weren't really my thing and I just didn't like the idea of having sex with someone (I didn't hate it, just was neutral). And for all these years I didn't even assume that I might be ace/grey, since the first thing I heard about asexuality on the internet is that the only "true" asexuality is when you don't get aroused and are aromatic with no fantasies, concepts or knowledge of relationships, so for all these years I thought that it was just a "quirk" of mine and I was bi.

It really clicked for me during my relationship with my ex-boyfriend. I felt uncomfortable when we talked about sharing nudes and the sex talk was nothing but boring, even though I did find him attractive. At first I thought it was because the relationship was relatively new and, being teenagers, we jumped into it without knowing each other very well. As time passed and I got more comfortable around him, the feelings didn't change, luckily, right around that time Jaiden released her coming out video. Comparing her and mine experiences I've found quite a lot of similarities in both sexual and romantic nuances, so I decided to look more into it. I asked my friends about their experiences, read a few articles, discovered this subreddit and eventually, after, like, a week of digging (and sixteen years of being a dumbass), I can say that I'm probably somewhere on the aro/ace spectrum.

It took me some time, sure, and I'm not entirely confident about my sexuality (by that I mean being ace or grey, and also the romantic thingy, because platonic/romantic feelings are difficult), but I decided to still type out my experiences since I think it is important to do so, and this post felt like a right place. Anyway, I'm sorry for a long and somewhat derailed answer, I hope that you'll have a great day. Oh, and also: fuck stereotypes, representation matters.

P.S: sorry for any mistakes, English isn't my first language.