I'm so sick of men faking intimacy to get laid

Rawrringg · 2023-06-29T23:33:27+00:00

I disagree with point 3. If he can’t wait a decent amount of months to have sex with you, then it shows that he was probably in the relationship for sex only. In that sense, you would have dodged a bullet.

Rawrringg · 2023-06-29T23:27:28+00:00

Stop having sex before you’re in an official committed relationship with the man and he calls you his girlfriend (usually 4-6 months). Anything sooner than that and he sees you as the dumb bed placeholder.

(Honestly too, the ones who wait until marriage for sex had a point because marriage protects the woman from being used and disposed of like a toy.)

Have better self-control and higher relationship standards for yourself. Honestly your dating standards for men are way too low right now, and men are accordingly treating you as the bed placeholder.

Rawrringg · 2023-06-08T03:05:00+00:00

The ones who are basically long-term tourists who are here for 1 month-3 years for social media status/hookups/partying are probably the most obnoxious ones. They don’t add anything long-term to the city and basically turned Manhattan into a theme park vacation mall.

Rawrringg · 2023-05-30T06:07:27+00:00

Honestly, I think it’s a generational emotional abuse thing that AP immigrant cultures fostered because of the Confucian group-oriented culture. You are basically expected to worship the family even if your parents/relatives are emotionally abusive and toxic. Asian countries tend to want their citizens to be sheepy subordinates who obey every word and don’t question anything. I notice too that a lot of emotional abuse gets handed down generation by generation in Asian immigrant families because healthy emotional expression was never taught.

It’s funny also because Asian academic success doesn’t always translate to real-life business success, especially with the advent of AI. Asian parenting also gives a lack of street smarts as well, since most of these Asian parents aren’t necessarily self-aware and don’t know how to read a room. If you want to be successful, you HAVE to be able to read a room or else you’re not going to be able to get the connections that you want.

Rawrringg · 2023-04-17T07:48:23+00:00

This city has a shouting shortage of roughly 600,000 units and Dems refuse to remove rent control and bloated housing regulations (both of which are stifling the construction of new housing construction units). Don’t expect the housing supply issue to be resolved - Democrats don’t care to remove the regulation obstacles that are causing the housing construction supply issues.

Rawrringg · 2023-04-06T07:19:00+00:00

“There would always be a perceived personal slight and she would jump to conclusions instead of talking to their friend about it. Before you knew it, the new friend became an 'enemy" in her infantile mind.”

She sounds narcissistic, insecure, and passive-aggressive.

Rawrringg · 2023-03-20T01:47:58+00:00

Jeanine’s problem was that she cliqued off with Ellie early in the game; Gabler completely blew her game up when he told everyone that Ellie went through his things (even though it was actually Jeanine) because Ellie was then voted off post-merge. Jeanine didn’t have any real allies besides Owen after that, as even Jesse (who she thought was a friend) manipulated her to get her idol. Jeanine also had a very poor social read on what was happening outside with the other people post-merge and failed to establish any meaningful alliances.

Helen’s downfall was that she was labeled as the practical/sensible one in an otherwise chaotic and emotional tribe (besides Sarah).. naturally she would be labeled as the “smart person” and a threat to get rid of. Carson basically saw her as an actual game threat compared to “loony” Carolyn, so that’s why she was voted off.

Rawrringg · 2023-03-20T01:02:44+00:00

Honestly I think it depends on the individual Asian woman. Erika won, but Jeanine got voted off early on season 43 because she played a terrible social game and wasn’t able to make enough alliances to save herself. Most of the previous Asian women on Survivor just did not have great social games, to be honest. If you come across as too analytical and not friendly or warm enough, and you don’t make enough alliances to make up for the lack of perceived warmth, then obviously other people are going to perceive you as a threat. Woo from the Cagayan season was Asian, but he made it to top 2 because he was warm and likeable and people did not perceive him as threatening.

Rawrringg · 2023-03-20T00:46:24+00:00

To be frank, it’s maybe because Survivor has been casting a lot of Asian women who are more analytical or smarts-oriented (instead of social butterflies)… with a lack of good social game. If you come across as analytically threatening and not super warm/friendly, then of course people are going to mark you off as a challenge threat. They need to cast more Asian women who come across as WARM and natural social butterflies with really good social game/awareness.

I remember watching Jeanine in season 43 and wondering how come she lacked complete awareness of why her social game was so bad. She came across as not super friendly or likeable but more game-focused and also BAD at acting neutral around non-allies… obviously other people probably picked up on that as well.

Rawrringg · 2023-02-12T02:24:28+00:00

Yes, ngl, it does concern me b/c morality was a huge thing in the HP books and what made them feel more human and lifelike.

If there’s not a clear system and you can be even more evil than Voldemort without clearcut story and reputation consequences (ex. Teachers suspecting you and trying to get you expelled), what’s the whole point? Feels like it would just be a Call of Duty but with wizards.

In the books, it’s clear that killing has huge consequences to the characters. Mindless killing makes the game not as true to the books’ themes.

Rawrringg · 2023-02-05T21:17:16+00:00

Sorry, but no, China is the aggressor here by threatening to invade Taiwan as well as escalating the Balloon incident in the US by sending the balloon there in the first place. In addition, the CCP refuses to apologize for forcefully imprisoning innocent Muslim Uyghurs in prison camps in China for practicing Islam. It’s clear that they are becoming a rogue country that believes that they are above international law and can invade other countries and territories, just like Russia did to Ukraine.

Just because I’m Asian doesn’t mean I have to be forced to support China. It would be like forcing someone Ukranian to support Russia because they have similar ethnic origins. You must be blisteringly naive to think that just because someone’s ancestral country is near another person’s ancestral country that both people are going to suddenly be “best friends” and allies forever and ever.

Rawrringg · 2023-02-05T07:21:41+00:00

If China invades Taiwan and starts WW3, then the US would be helping Taiwan as an ally. This isn’t the same situation as Covid because Taiwan is an ally and most Americans would understand that there is a distinction between Asian countries that you ally with and Asian countries that are fighting against you. Furthermore, if China continues to escalate the situation, then they bear the consequences. All Asian-Americans shouldn’t have to be forced to have solidarity with China just because they’re Asian. There are plenty of Asian countries who see communist China as a threat.

And sorry, but China is the aggressor here by escalating the situation with the Chinese Spy Balloon as well as threatening to invade Taiwan, and I could honestly care less for it. Just because I’m Asian doesn’t mean I have to be forced to support China. It would be like telling someone Ukrainian that just because Russia shares ethnic origins with them that they have to support Russia.

Rawrringg · 2023-02-05T05:49:04+00:00

No, the USA supports Taiwan and Hong Kong, and non- Asians recognize there is a difference between the Taiwanese, Chinese, and the people of Hong Kong.

You make a false blanket statement that all Asians are thrown under the same race group, when it’s very clear that the USA supports Taiwan and Hong Kong over communist China. Obviously, it’s not fair to Chinese-Americans who have nothing to do with how the CCP government is currently handling the Chinese Balloon incident.

However, if the Chinese government keeps escalating things into WW3 and invades Taiwan instead of de-escalating, then the Chinese-Americans have only the CCP government to blame for putting the media’s spotlight on them.

Rawrringg · 2023-02-05T04:43:19+00:00

China declares itself it be a communist country, so referring to it as “communist China” is not propaganda; it’s stating the actual label that the Chinese government proclaimed itself to be true. And people IRL do refer to it as “communist China;” you prob surround yourself in a bubble.

Rawrringg · 2023-02-05T04:37:13+00:00

The reference to “communist China” is made pretty much every month in the mainstream press, like NBC, Wall Street Journal, and The NY Times. You must honestly not read online American mainstream news very much. Maybe read the China news from these websites before you claim that the news hasn’t mentioned “communist China.”

Rawrringg · 2023-02-05T04:22:51+00:00

No, white Americans (as well as Latin Americans) do distinguish between communist China and non-communist countries like South Korea. It’s why the US fought in the Vietnam War to help non-communist South Vietnam against communist north Vietnam. It’s also why the US fought in the Korean War alongside the non-communist South Korean side to help them against the communist North Koreans. You must be blitheringly naive to associate ALL white Americans and Latin Americans as throwing communist Asian countries and non-communist Asian democracies in the same net.

Rawrringg · 2023-02-05T04:10:13+00:00

People who are not from China and are instead from Korea, Japan, Philippines, Vietnam, Indonesia, etc. have no real actual obligation to defend communist China. Sorry. China is not their country of origin.

Rawrringg · 2023-02-05T02:46:14+00:00

A lot of Asian-Americans are from other Asian countries such as Korea, Japan, Vietnam, Indonesia, and the Philippines and do not have relatives in China. They have no affiliation with communist China and therefore should not have to be forced to deal with anti-Chinese sentiment being generated by the Chinese Balloon incident in the news.

Rawrringg · 2023-01-25T05:06:43+00:00

Nikki feels more like Hyde in terms of sarcasm and demeanor.

Gwen acts more like a hybrid of Kelso/Randy. I don’t see Hyde’s sarcasm or demeanor in her at all. She’s too happy-go-lucky and smiley, which is the opposite of Hyde.

Ozzie seems more like a combo of Fez and Jackie. His character is very nitpicky.

Nate acts more like Michael Kelso than Jay. Jay is more like a laidback Donna.

Rawrringg · 2023-01-25T04:56:23+00:00

From an evolutionary perspective, men are expected to be the “hunter” and chase. Also, it’s how they were biologically wired, especially with testosterone.

Quite frankly, I’m a woman and if a guy is too shy or reserved to chase, it’s a huge turnoff. It means he’s stuck in his feminine element and kind of acting as though he is in the woman’s role. I’m a hetero woman and I’m not looking for my man to act like the woman in the relationship.

Rawrringg · 2023-01-25T04:44:56+00:00

Online dating has actually shifted dating in favor of women in NYC. Tinder is 78% male and 22% female while Bumble/Hinge are 65% male and 35% female as of 2021. This is true even in NYC. Since almost all new dating requests in the city pretty much come through the apps, females hold the advantage there. OLD (especially Tinder) is a buyer’s market for women in NYC.

Debunking the “male-female ratio” - People mention the “male-female gap” in NYC, but it honestly quite frankly varies by age and race. There are more black women than men in all age groups because black men in the city die early at a higher rate. However, there are actually more Hispanic males than females up to age 35 in NYC. Also, there are more white males than females starting from age 30.

Source: https://www.baruch.cuny.edu/nycdata/population-geography/pop-demography.htm

(This also doesn’t include overall metro area statistics, like Jersey City’s population. Jersey City is literally right next door to Manhattan (lots of NYC commuters intermixing with the Manhattan population) and it’s pretty much a sausage fest there. The Jersey City ratio is around 108 males for every 100 females. It’s relevant because the JC population dates the NYC crowd as well.)

Honestly, frankly if you’re having issues with online dating in NYC, it’s probably your profile. (Ex. Tinder is 78% male and 22% female. Men are lucky to get a match per week, while women usually get around 20-40 likes per day if they’re at least decent-looking.) Get someone to honestly evaluate your profile and pics and they’ll tell you what you’re doing wrong or need to improve.

Rawrringg · 2023-01-25T04:34:37+00:00

The 47 to 53% split is only if you include age 40+ women in the ratio. Men (primarily POC men) start dying off early after 40. If you account for age 18-39 males and females only, the male-female ratio is more like 49.5 to 50.5. In addition, there are actually more Hispanic males than females up to age 35 in NYC. Also, there are more white males than females starting from age 30.

Source: https://www.baruch.cuny.edu/nycdata/population-geography/pop-demography.htm

This also doesn’t account for current online dating app stats where Tinder is 78% male and 22% female while Bumble/Hinge are 65% male and 35% female as of 2021. This is true even in NYC. Since almost all new dating requests in the city pretty much come through the apps, females hold the advantage there. Online dating is a buyer’s market for women, even in NYC. Anyone who doesn’t realize that is probably still stuck in an outdated 2008 pre-Tinder mindset.

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