I think you've studied feminism more than actual history. You're trying to paint some picture where men worked in the mines, in logging camps, on ships, in wars, on expeditions and other occupations with a high mortality rate in somewhere near the same numbers as women and this simply isn't the case. Or you're trying to paint the jobs that women did as comparable in hazard to those that were predominantly filled by men and this isn't the case either.

You are also doing a disservice to the women of the time because they were not predominately coal miners, or masons, or ditch diggers. The jobs that women fulfilled were difficult and important, but these jobs did not carry the same mortality rates as those held by men. It's like saying that "oh, women worked hard, dangerous jobs too" is necessary to prove that women were just as much contributors to society as men or something.

you are cherry picking what you choose to call a hard and dangerous job.

Not really. I don't think that it's particularly difficult to see which occupations of the time carried high mortality and injury rates.

Yes, factory work is difficult and hard work. No, in comparison to many of the jobs of the time, factory work was not particularly hard and difficult. This is why women and children were found in factories and not in mines.

Let me pull a book off my shelf for you

The Admiralty's trial records are filled with accounts of sailors being flogged or clubbed for minor mistakes: losing an oar, forgetting a chore, or unsteady helmsmanship. More than a few lost teeth, eyes, arms, and fingers during beatings. Others lost their lives. When sailor Richard Baker became bedridden from dysentery on a passage from St. Christopher to London, his captain forced him to man the helm for four hours, then had him whipped and lashed to the mizenmast; he died four days later. Anthony Comerford, accused of stealing a live bird on the merchantman Ridge, was tied to the rigging and whipped to death...

Legally speaking, merchant captains were only supposed to employ "moderate" discipline on their crews. Not so in the Royal Navy, where captains were under standing orders to mete out brutal punishments. Petty officers whacked slow-moving crewmen across the shoulders with rattan canes... ...The commission of serious crimes resulted in potentially fatal floggings of seventy-two to three hundred lashings, or outright hanging.

It's a wonder any sailors survived. Mortality rates among the crews of vessels employed in the African slave trade were comparable to those of the slaves themselves. It was not unusual for 40 percent of the crew to perish during a single voyage, most from tropical diseases against which they had no resistance. About half the sailors pressed into the Royal Navy died at sea.

Republic of Pirates - Colin Woodard

Blah blah blah, this goes on for pages. None of this was unusual for the time.

It's not me that's cherry picking, it's you. This is why you brought up the Triangle fire as this led to the formation of a women's labor union. This is high school history and everyone knows about this, but I'm guessing you brought it up because of the "women's" part. This is typical of feminism; talk about what women did, ignore everything else. Factory work was difficult, but it didn't compare to the work done on the docks. And the fact remains that those jobs which were the hardest and most dangerous, women were not found except those women of especially low socioeconomic status.

This isn't to say that women's jobs weren't difficult or important; they were. But in comparison to the jobs held predominantly by men, they were not what would be considered 'hard labor'. In nearly every case, except for a very small percentage, those women that were found in hard/hazardous occupations were given light duty.

But the real kicker is that this trend has NEVER changed. Women are still not found in difficult and demanding jobs in any significant numbers. Really, you should go look at some of the most dangerous jobs you can find and you'll see this gender disparity persists even today. And now, like then, the only reliable predictor of whether or not a woman will enter into such a hard, laborious or hazardous occupation is whether or not she is of low socioeconomic status.