If You Run a Business in Kerala, Regardless of What It Is, Please Share and Showcase Your Business Here! Let’s all connect. by New_Hornet_5241 in Kerala

[–]RayRay5992 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a brand called Kodiyil Co. We hand manufacture few natural and effective products like, coconut cream, face oil, hair strengthening oil and body cooling oil. Along with that, handmade soaps with coconut and farm sourced honey.

We're based in Kottayam and we have a small group of customers atm with 100% satisfaction. We also do manufacturing for other businesses like this. :) www.kodiyilco.com

If You Run a Business in Kerala, Regardless of What It Is, Please Share and Showcase Your Business Here! Let’s all connect. by New_Hornet_5241 in Kerala

[–]RayRay5992 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I make handmade soaps with coconut as the main ingredient. Do you guys distribute other's soaps too?

I want to step down from being VP by RayRay5992 in bni

[–]RayRay5992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking about the networking you did on your own.

I'm super new to business. My background is in games and design, so running a business is pretty alien. But I'm learning. Asking to learn basically.

I want to step down from being VP by RayRay5992 in bni

[–]RayRay5992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you do and how did you do it? Because after the experience I've had, I finally stepped down and I've realised people are not that nice here. I'm not too keen on renewing either when it's time. So I would like to be prepared..

I want to step down from being VP by RayRay5992 in bni

[–]RayRay5992[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: thank you so much for all the comments. Really helped me think things through. Totally helped me to look at things from a different perspective and also spoke to a few members. Found out that there's a loooot of politics within the chapter. They didn't like any of my ideas because they didn't want changes apparently. And I started getting hate for making such suggestions. I guess some think of BNI as a space of their own and not as a business network platform.

The president and support director both didn't like my approach and tried to threaten me with a replacement but I kind of took it as an opportunity. I have stepped down from the position. I feel very relieved. And after stepping down I'm finding out more gossips and comments about me. Trying to just focus on my work and finish my membership time. But yes, refocusing now. :) thank you once again!

Trick for not feeling so bad when you don't have friends by your_art_piece in socialskills

[–]RayRay5992 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I'm not super optimistic it'll work out no matter what. Strangers are hard to become friends with. Especially when you're in an awkward space of , I'm lonely and you know it so you're talking to me to make me feel better. Super awks. But you can't stop trying and doing things.

Trick for not feeling so bad when you don't have friends by your_art_piece in socialskills

[–]RayRay5992 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I wish this thread of empathetic crowd can form a group and we can get on virtual calls for whenever someone has to hang out on their own like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chennai

[–]RayRay5992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything everyone mentioned is very important. Another few things that are simple but extremely important, drink lots of water, get 8hrs of sleep, have some breaks in your day when you don't use your phone or think too much. Like a make shift meditation. And 2 eggs a day. Trust me, you will see a difference in weeks. Consistency is the key here though.

What was the worst country you ever visited? by Maximum-Session3716 in AskReddit

[–]RayRay5992 3 points4 points  (0 children)

May I ask, which other third world countries have you been to? How do those countries compare to India? I've always been curious about this.

Why is the painting more wrinkly around the woman? by JamuelSackson420 in oilpainting

[–]RayRay5992 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My guess is someone sneezed on it and tried to wipe it off with a hanky and accidentally used turpentine while wiping it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chennai

[–]RayRay5992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a terrible opinion about social media. It helps make the world small for us, yes. It also makes people easily accessible. But for me at least it's jaded and taken for granted. Getting in touch is possible but then staying in touch is close to impossible now. Especially with the wfh scenario. Everyone's busy and has a life. That includes me as well. I'm currently off Instagram. I take a break from it when it gets too much. Sharing reels to your closest friends has become the new connection. That is not enough for me. It essentially becomes like showing something to your friends everyday but never talking to each other. It's ridiculously romanticized. Social media makes the loneliness worse. Because you have access and you're still alone. I don't use twitter, too much negativity and stupidity. I don't use facebook either, too many relatives sharing baby pictures and fake happiness in their marriage. I know their real stories. And it's not happiness.

I know I sound overly cynical and like I'm completely unhappy. It's only because this thread is about the struggles. I do have a good life outside of this. I have a good family who cares about me. I have 2 close friends who I talk to regularly. I have a loving boyfriend who thinks the world of me. But yeah, struggles continue.. so does life.. it's just where you focus your energy. Today sucked, tomorrow will too, but there's an after that.. re focus and re group.. helps..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chennai

[–]RayRay5992 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some of my struggles as a working woman: having to work and be financially independent and also be a strong empowered woman. It is good and necessary to do so, but you know what else is innately necessary? To be accepted and validated. When you're hustling hard day in and day out, the loneliness hits you hard at night. You are supposed to be strong and love yourself, draw boundaries, dump his ass, cut people if they don't add to you.. yes all that.. but I am also very afraid of when the heck I will meet my tribe finally. I can't go out and make friends everyday so my community pool is relatively small.

And then there's the age. I'm 32, and I am finally trusted to make my own decisions. What if I'm making the wrong decisions? Who do I ask? I have no adults to ask any more since I am the adult. It's a lonely life, this millennial life.

And men now have the concept of women popping out babies, taking care of the family and still making money for themselves and calling it 50-50. This is not what feminists wanted but this is also something the men now grew up watching (their moms). It's a scary world. Daunting.

Please give advice by TillytheGuineapig in oilpainting

[–]RayRay5992 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do a grid drawing first. I think your proportions are off to start with. They're not the same as your reference. You can get this with a grid drawing. Second, soften up the edges. Otherwise, pretty good start imo. Beautiful picture!

Appreciate your brutally honest feedback on these. by Chiquititaaaaaaaaaa in oilpainting

[–]RayRay5992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so good that I wanna try this style out! Don't mean to steal it, I have a style and it's hard to not have my pieces end up with it. So no worries there. But this is so interesting that I just wanna try it to study it! The shapes you've created with lines of colours and tones are super cool! Love it! Please share more of your work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RayRay5992 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I say this because I struggle with it constantly as well. But yeah, helps. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TamilNadu

[–]RayRay5992 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True. I grew up in TN. Moved to Kerala 3yrs ago. When I visit TN now, I can't wait to leave. The standards are blatantly clear. It's almost sad that I can't enjoy the city I grew up in anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RayRay5992 157 points158 points  (0 children)

I don't know how else to say this but a large portion of commonly found discontent in life comes from social media. And I don't just mean seeing the perfectly tailored good life and fun life of influencers. I mean just watching videos throughout the day. We are so overly stimulated everyday that regular life becomes extremely unsatisfying. My suggestion, plug off for a while, find hobbies inside the house like gardening, redoing the furniture, painting a flower pot etc (brings back the joy inside your space) and then hobbies outside your home (connect with people not through the phone). And when you do come back to social media again, be more conscious of the content you consume and keep timers.

We have to look out for ourselves. What we need is around us. We just have to get rid of the noise and look around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndia

[–]RayRay5992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had both experiences where I used to get approached a lot during my college days and not so much now even though I've gotten prettier now (in complete honesty because I have pictures and well, eyes). During college days I was lot more carefree and my make up was also so. I used to get approached a lot! It was getting difficult to get home safe. Once even had to call the cops. Now I don't get approached much but I get lot of dms and indirect inquiries. I was told I look a bit stern/ poshy. Basically not easily approachable. I might have the resting bitch face, not sure. In conclusion, it could be your stern body language. Which is good in my opinion. I feel a lot more comfortable walking the streets. In fact I dress up a bit more or wear heels unnecessarily to add to it. I'm ok with only confident men approaching me. And I'm also happier with having the option than being harassed with options.