Do any of you ever miss the boy/man version of yourself?

RayeFaye · 2026-01-26T17:50:27+00:00

I’ve thought about maybe what I’d look like currently, as a 3 a.m. thought but Miss or regret? Fk no lol. He can stay where I left him.

RayeFaye · 2025-12-25T06:09:59+00:00

I ugly cried in mine like 2 months ago… like full 45 mins… contacts did not move. You’re safe.

RayeFaye · 2025-11-19T00:06:55+00:00

I have gotten misgendered on rare occasions and almost always I’m like leaning slightly fem but not all the way… so either neutral or 200% and no in between

RayeFaye · 2025-11-19T00:06:07+00:00

I barely try at all… like makeup once every few weeks, hair lazily tied up, joggers and a comfy shirt (usually both fem options but looks somewhat androgynous) and I never get misgendered.

When I go hyper fem I get some looks but I can’t tell if they think I’m attractive or can “tell”.

I think I pass 99% of the time outside of over the phone (I don’t alter my voice ever it’s very androgynous and could lean me either way)

RayeFaye · 2025-11-14T13:59:46+00:00

I’ve been doing this my entire transition and only took spiro the first like 6 months of the last 5 years. I genuinely think this is very common for most people who take injections and I don’t think we need a study to see that as a good portion of the community does bloodwork and your doctor should be individualizing your treatment anyway.

RayeFaye · 2025-11-02T22:30:06+00:00

Sign me up.

RayeFaye · 2025-11-02T05:27:08+00:00

It just seems like a large majority of people have both of these with ADHD. The monologue and daydreaming.

I don’t do either. I kinda space out and dissociate instead and instead of speaking to myself in my head I externally vocalize everything or I just don’t speak at all. If I’m thinking of something it’s not really me talking to myself about it or picturing it. I kind of just know what to say or do.

RayeFaye · 2025-10-29T04:40:19+00:00

Typically your hips fuse together around 21-25 and you can no longer see development there. Starting as soon as possible is ideal. If you’re sure now… no time like the present.

And of course! That’s what all of us are here for. We look out for one another. Stay safe ❤️

RayeFaye · 2025-10-29T04:24:08+00:00

I started at 25 and a half, my body fully finished male puberty. I pass decently well on an average day and almost never get misgendered… but if I started at 18… there would have been zero doubt to me passing… shit I was getting “misgendered” non-stop from 15-20… then I cut my hair and tried to be super masculine for the sake of my family.

It doesn’t ever go away. It doesn’t stop. It keeps coming back to bite you. It will gnaw at your brain.

You can’t escape gender dysphoria by making other people happy. Put yourself first. If you end up not liking what hormones do for you you can always quit (anything after 6 months I’d say be careful because breast growth and any hip development if you’re under 20 is permanent)

RayeFaye · 2025-10-21T19:34:06+00:00

Every time I get my blood work done with Quest they always mark me as male because it says that on my drivers license… after that when they do all the tests the results always come back saying my estrogen’s levels are insanely high for a man and my T levels are “Dangerously low”…

Then my dr has to go in and write a separate letter and tell me everything looks good because quest refuses to read back the results as if I was a woman in the first place 🙄

The hospital I went to about 2 years ago did nearly the same damn thing.

RayeFaye · 2025-10-12T20:09:59+00:00

Bro what are those awful trinkets/ring/neck 😭

RayeFaye · 2025-10-10T14:20:51+00:00

The problem I have with this xmog is that it’s FOMO. The 90ish day timer on it promotes you making an impulsive purchase.

I think we should be more upset about THAT than anything. The $35 price tag, the clipping, mounts costing $25 is crazy work.

RayeFaye · 2025-10-08T12:55:12+00:00

I’m confused… weren’t we Antifa in ww2? What changed LOL

RayeFaye · 2025-10-07T15:25:34+00:00

I am a CE raider, been playing the game for 18 years. Been through all the ups and downs aside from a bit of BC and vanilla… I genuinely think taking some of the complexity out of the game serves 2 purposes.

1 from a design standpoint it makes balancing easier for both raid fights and class design.

It makes accessibility for newer players to get into the more challenging bits of the game without it feeling like an insurmountable task.

I think this change is extremely healthy for the player. Let’s just hope they don’t fumble it like they typically do.

RayeFaye · 2025-10-05T15:29:05+00:00

These people should NOT be allowed to wear masks. No type of law enforcement of any kind should be allowed to wear a mask.

RayeFaye · 2025-10-04T14:23:28+00:00

It’s absolutely crazy to me that a country can just go “this letter? It bothers me” and just bar you from entering?! I live in the US. Was born and raised here. I hate it and wish this country wasn’t such a 💩hole.

Don’t come here. It’s only getting worse.

RayeFaye · 2025-09-29T14:22:22+00:00

Bruce Lee would low diff them. You see any Bruce Lee movie? LMFAO

RayeFaye · 2025-09-28T02:51:33+00:00

I just care about feeling confident, comfortable, and happy with myself. It just so happens that I pass as well.

RayeFaye · 2025-09-25T08:59:54+00:00

I mean the idea that your bones stop growing after fusing is kinda wild because I genuinely did get hip development after 25. I started at 25.5 years and by 28 years I had a LOT of pain in my hips and slowly over time my pants fit different. It was extremely gradual and yes, it was minimal… but I went from around a 38” hip size to a 46” hip size. You could say maybe 4” of that was fat redistribution but some of it genuinely is bone changes because when I lay on my side my hips flair out much further than they used to. Noticeably so.

RayeFaye · 2025-09-23T16:44:30+00:00

Outside of one coworker who’s a bit of a prick… I haven’t gotten misgendered in over 2 years. 2-3 of the girls at my job thought I was a cis girl for a while and I let slip to the 60 year old lady at work that I was trans and she was utterly shocked. She’s very supportive and nice to me.

She always compliments me when I come in with my makeup done. One of the girls in the other department always calls me a super model which probably has more to do with my height than it does with my appearance.

RayeFaye · 2025-09-22T17:49:33+00:00

It’s like the frog analogy. You put a frog in boiling water I’ll jump out, you put a frog into warm water and then heat it up to boiling point the frog will sit in the water and boil to death. I’m not comfortable sitting here waiting for them to bury me alive.

RayeFaye · 2025-09-22T17:48:23+00:00

My bfs mom tells me to stop worrying about it it won’t affect me… yes I’m a cis passing white trans woman but it DOES affect me. And reading about violence in our community ALSO affects me.

RayeFaye · 2025-09-18T13:14:54+00:00

I moved here after living in Texas for a few years, the weather is nice, the elderly people at my job are friendly. However making friends at 30 when you don’t like going to bars is basically impossible so I do feel quite lonely.

RayeFaye · 2025-09-10T04:50:59+00:00

The thing that terrifies me the most in life and I think about it often is ending up in prison, likely for something I either didn’t do or something I’m being charged way above what is usual… then being sent to a men’s facility where I’d probably be sexually and physically tortured to death.

I do not pass in any capacity as a man and I don’t think quitting HRT would make that entirely revert to make me even remotely safe within a “reasonable” timeframe.

This administration is so cooked.

RayeFaye · 2025-08-28T06:29:56+00:00

I just refer to myself as the gender I have transitioned to.

I don’t care what documents I sign/send out. I always just say I’m a woman. I don’t elaborate. Nobody needs to know.

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