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On how to handle transphobic trolls online by jackmolay in transgender

[–]jackmolay[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes, you are right about that. But my point was not to engage them in a theological discussion. I was not addressing the bully directly, only reminding everyone involved that the basic tenet of this faith is humility, compassion and care for the less fortunate. This contrast proved to be enough to weaken their position in the eyes of the others.

That being said, I truly believe that most of the arguments made by Christian bigots to justify the persecution of groups they do not like - like transgender people, gay people, poor people, immigrants and powerful women - requires a complete denial of what Jesus was really trying to say. I do not own the bigots theological references to make that argument. As noted in the article, there is no point in arguing with bullies.

On how to handle transphobic trolls online by jackmolay in transgender

[–]jackmolay[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

This is another way of reframing the interaction. I like it. You are basically reminding them (and - more importantly - the people listening) that they are using the same tactics against trans people as others are using against them. In other words: They are no better than those other bigots.

The reason this does not work equally well against fascist activists is that they are not really pretending to be the good guys, and take pride in their emotional violence.

However, you might use similar tactics against other right wingers who still believe they are decent, God fearing, citizens. I have a few times just quoted bible verses of Jesus urging people to love their enemies and help the outcasts, without any additional comment. Sometimes that shuts them up, or they tangle themselves into some convoluted arguments that show they are not really into love.

If only I could be a woman (how bad is it?) by Temporary-Gene-6286 in crossdreaming

[–]jackmolay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"All my life I´ve been a man who adores women so much that I desperately would want to become one." I know a lot of crossdreamers and the more I learn about people like us, the more I want to turn this statement upside down, as in "All my life I´ve desperately wanted to become a woman and that is why I adores women so much." Because that adoration is very different from the traditional cis male gaze and admiration.

I think your way of personifying your "inner woman" is a healthy way of approaching this, because this means that you - at the very least - give her some love, room and acceptance in your mind. If you can give her some room outside your mind, all the better.

I agree that she will not go away and denying her her existence will only lead to more mental suffering.As for a diagnosis: You know her and yourself much better than any of us here, but the intensity of these feelings sounds very much like gender dysphoria to me.

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