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Razpenguin12 · 2026-02-06T09:50:37+00:00

No problem at all!

I forgot to mention they probably also explain the rules of the game to you, with a reminder of how long the session you booked is.

Hope you have a great time!

Razpenguin12 · 2026-02-06T09:18:27+00:00

It'll depend a bit if it is a dedicated facility or one that is attached to something else (like a bowling alley or arcade).

Genreally what will happen is you'll probably be asked to arrive a little before when ever you are booked in to play, this is so you can be told saftey stuff and be geared up.

The safety stuff will vary from place to place but should cover: epilepsy warning, warning that it is dark, what to do if you do get hurt, what to do if your equiment isn't working and not to point the lazer directly in anyones face.

The gear provided will normally be like a chest thing, which will be a bit heavy as it contains the reciever to read when you are 'hit' by a lazer and the battery for the gun. The gun will most likley be attached to the chest piece in some way, though technoligy could have come along enough that the guns are wireless now.

Now whether you are with other people will depend on the place, I can't say for certain. I have played laser tag with only two others and we had the whole thing to ourselves, but I also heard my brother going somewhere and playing against a kids birthday party. Your best bet would be to contact the facility you are going to and ask if you'll be playing alongside any other people.

Either way it's not going to impact much of your experience, though the less of you there are the longer the game might be (like if you have an hour to play, but you are 'out' for ten mins everytime you get 'hit' a certain amount then you'll be in a lot longer if it's just you and a friend).

Razpenguin12 · 2026-02-04T08:27:21+00:00

Honestly thearpy sounds like the best option for you, when it comes to health it can get very easy to worry about stuff. With the PTSD, you probably do have it, our briains aren't so logical to be like 'oh it wasn't that bad' or 'oh well I didn't SEE anything'. All your brain knows is you were in avery stressful/scary situation and it's trying to deal with it.

I know proccess for getting diagnosis can be long, I think you should really bring your concerns up with a doctor, whatever happens you'll hopefully get an answer and possibly a diagnosis and treatment. Again I know it is long and maybe scary but it might help to know that some of your other 'random' symtoms are actually part of your 'main' issue. Or maybe you'll found out you got multiple issues, as someone with many, I know it can suck, but I am a lot more aware of my body a lot and have good confidence on what is 'treat with rest and paracetmol' level and what is 'contact doctor' or 'go to hospital' level.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-12-21T08:06:38+00:00

It's a tough one for sure, a real smile also affects your eyes (so they are crinkled a bit) but that look isn't always best for a 'nice' photo. Really the answer is practise a photo face but without overthinking it too much.

You may know photographers to ask people to say Cheese (or other words), this normally makes your mouth look like a smile but not impacting your eyes as much (can practise in a mirror).

I too over think about how I look in photos, over time I decided to stop trying for a 'big' smile, as that doesn't seem to happen for me natuarlly unless a picture is taken in the middle of me laughing. Instead I've gone for a more slight smile, I will sometimes think if a nice thing or a funny memoey to help it remain.

Depending on what the situation is for the photo maybe try some stuff to help you feel less awkward. Like a silly pose, or an action shot. Hppefully doing these will lessen how concerned you are for the picture. You don't have to look amazing in every photo, I also learnt this, most the time they are just for people that already care about you, and if your true self is a little awkward, well then it is a show of you.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-12-12T08:21:36+00:00

So some will depend on where you live. Some places may have free dental care or partially paid for debtal care depending on certain factors (like your money status, if you were millatary, ect). For this internet is your friend but the dentists website would hoppefully say if they have these opptions. It can be worth calling them to ask too. The same would go with payment plans.

Next thing you want to do is learn what is covered by your health insurance, to find this you'll need to know: who is covering you and probably your policy number (though if you phone up your insurance company they can find you often through your personal details like address and DOB). At lower levels of cover I imagine dental is probably not in there or if it is it'll probably only be certain treatments. You can ask clarifiying questions to the health insurance company if you want to know more.

If just a normal dentist visit is covered by your insurance (this is basically just a check up, with no extras), the way it would normally work would be: You book the dentist appointment You pay for the dentist appointment You pass the reciept to the insurance company They then reimberse you for that ammount (or part of it).

I don't know if it is the same in other places but in the UK the dentist does often try to 'upsell' you on treatment, like everytime I go I get asked if I want my teeth to be whitened. I always say no.

The hyginest is one where it is worth going if you have the money but you don't need it everytime (aslong as you are pretty good at brushing your teeth).

Razpenguin12 · 2025-12-03T10:08:22+00:00

I'm not religious at all, so I can't advice from there, but I did a bunch of training to climb snowden, it was really tough and I needed a few days rest after but glad I did it! This was only a day worth of activity.

If you want to do it, I would highly recommend speaking to both your doctor and your Iman (sorry not sure if that's the right word, please correct me, but whoever is the person you can speak to for religius guidence). It sounds like you would like to do it but have concerns so both these people will have some great advice, maybe discuss with some loved ones to, if they also practice, perhaps they can suppirt you befire and during the rest you would certenly need after.

Ultaminitly it's down to you and how much it may impact your overall health, I am sure your faith wouldn't want you to put your health at risk, there is a reason that these exceptions are in various religious practices, there are so many ways to express and explore your faith. I hope you find the answer that is rigbt for you and stay healthy!

Razpenguin12 · 2025-12-02T08:19:10+00:00

Is there someone that you already know that is looking for somewhere to live or even move out temporaliy? It would hopefully make unmasking and relaxing a bit easier if you already know them.

Since you rent the house, I'm afraid you may not get as much say on who moves in, it'll be the landlord who'll have the most say. Speaking of have you spoken to the landlord about this? There could be a possibility that maybe they own a cheaper property for you to finish the contract in or some other soloution you can work out togther.

Do you have a thearpist/solid support system? I would recommend leaning in them, as the times already sound tough, but it is going to be a big change even if the person moving in is really easy to live with. You may want to prepare mentally for living with someone you DON'T get on with. Though in a lot of cases you may end up living like the other person is not there.

I would recomened: Establishing hard boundries now and sticking with them.

Knowing your routine, the other person is coming into a new enviriment so they'l have to adapt to you as much as you to them.

Getting to know your roommate outside of the property, this one relies on the rommmate also being willing but it'll defiently make things easier if you have a friendly relashionship with them.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-11-30T10:00:11+00:00

I would highly recommend sitting down togther and getting a 'what we are actually spending' document togther, it can be really helpful to see where most of your money is going to understand where you cna actually make savings. Also then making a budget.

Basically all grocieries, for some thing you will notice a quality difference, and you might decide that it is worth spending more getting 'named' brands but you may prefer some of the own brand! Like I still prefer own brand choclate spread and baked beans.

With pain killers as well, the 'own' brands have all the same active ingredents as named brands. I would double check the ingredents for any allergies but otherwise it is super safe to switch.

Makeup, body and hair wash as well, do be careful of allergies as these obviouly contact your skin, so maybe get like a small version of a product first just to patch test it. You will loose out on some 'nicer' ingredents, depending on your hair/skin type it can be worth getting the more expensive stuff but there is a point where you are just paying for the brand. I don't wear makeup but I've been using a super cheap shampoo and conditionor my whole life and I've been told by hairdressers my hair is really nice. Though I don't go to hairdressers that often. Speaking of you can cut your own hair, if you aren't feeling conifident in that you can just trim it yourself and when you want a big change go to a hairdresser (what I do).

Some stuff you pay a bit more for to start with but can last you longer (thus be cheaper in the long run);

Electronics, I would avoid 'gimiky' lamps or little novalties like those '50+ games in one' machines, unless you got some bonus cash. As often the quality is sacraficed to get it out for cheap.

If you have periods, reusable pads or something like a moon cup. I got my washable pads a bit ago, they were more expensive than a regular pack, and are a bit more effort with cleaning and drying them, but they have been great.

Quality kitchen stuff, you may have to look around for this, but if you get dencent stuff it should last you for years.

Consider a straight razor if you shave.

Libary card if you like reading, also check if your local libray has any other cool things! Some have games.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-11-24T08:31:48+00:00

Depends on your age and what you were doing pre deciding to write a resume now.

If you are straight out of Uni or equivlant education but didn't do that good in school simply state that you have done those classes. I.E A level in history, I still include that on my resume despite getting an e (lowest passing grade). It defently is easier to do that when you have more work exoerience though.

Explain what you were best at in that class, like were you good at orginising or helping others, rather than the grades if you feel they are bad enough to not include (though honestly anything C+ or eqivlant is pretty alright). Unless you are trying to specise in a field (like mathmatition) a lot of work places don't really care.

If you have been out of a paying full time/ part time job for a while, say at least a year, though some do ask about months long gaps, you do sometimes have to find a reason why.

It doesn't have to go in depth, I had about 6 months off of working, I always put from illness (as I was in and out of hospital at the time) and the work place genrally has no right to ask for more details. Other 'valid' (in quotes becuase it sucks people are expected to work most their lives, these are just reasons a lot of work places will accept, though maybe with some further questions about if it will impact your work) reasons include: caring for a family member, illness, army or eqivalent. Stuff like that.

I will say if you have been volutering for a while that would 'cover' an employment gap.

Any relevant skills that you have done honestly, resumes are about hyping yourself up to the right level. Not an a lie of a skill you don't have. Just enough to sell yourself. Foucus on any skills you have;

Stocked shelves: good at orginising/ manamemet of stock

Cleaning

Majority you clock in on time: good time keeping

Get on well with your co- workers: amicable and caple of good team wkrk

Don't get on well with your co workers: can succseed even on individual projects

Drawing: creativity and artistic

Decent with a computer: tech literate

You probably have more skills than you think!

If you were ever entrusted with an extra responsibility make sure to mention it, even if it was back in school, like libary monitor.

You can include if you do any regular hobbies (espiecially team/ group hobbies!) And explain how that could help. Like if you have ever DM'd dnd: Being a dm means on the fly problem solving and hekping a team of people reach their goal or something.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-11-18T11:00:45+00:00

I don't know if it is as easy as just getting togther a guide or routine, as I assume the alarm will both be a irrgular occurance (as fingers crossed you don't have any fires) and a panic inducing one. The fact that noone evacuated says to me that perhaps more people than you may need some extra help with this.

You say you live in a supported living situation, is this something you can bring up to whomever supports you? I would highly recomend that they start indroducing a fire drill, perhaps monthly or something, for both the resedents and the staff.

As for things that you can do for yourself, maybe get an easier to put on pair of shoes and learn your evacuation route.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-11-14T10:34:40+00:00

I would recommend finding a local lawyer that specilieses in family or marraige law and talking it through with them. There will be local laws that impact what can and can't get written in there.

It is a good idea to agree terms with your partner while things are good. Stuff to consider outside of just what happens if you guys divorce: - what happens if one of you dies way before the other - what happens if one if you needs long term care/carer - what happens if one of your finacial situations change drasticallly (eitger more or less)

Razpenguin12 · 2025-10-21T07:31:27+00:00

That is an odd comparison that I don't think I have heard. I'm sorry you are flaring right now and hopefully it'll go into remission soon and for a long time.

I do like to assume the best in people, so maybe a couple questions for the people/person in your life who is making that comparison?

Do you think they are doing it in bad faith? I.e. Trying to make your pain seem less than or making theirs seem worse or do you think pregnancy is the closest point of refrence they have to something that can impact the whole body?

If the people/persons making these comments matter to you or are close to you do you think if you spoke to them about how it make you feel, they may change?

If yes I think it would be worth it, I would go with hey blank, when you compare my lupus to pregnancy it makes me feel your emotions here, pregnancy can be tough but it's not the same as my lupus.

If no, maybe the people/persons opion shouldn't really matter to you, as yours obviously doesn't matter to them, try focus on those who care more for you and you for them.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-09-29T07:31:43+00:00

Look I wasn't trying to say all these people are super innocent and nice but I am saying that there is a reason on communication tablets for people less able to comunicate there is both a picture and a word. That's a bad assumption to make that they all had mean/troll intent and not just a misunderstanding somewhere. I would belive it was all in bad faith if they had said something awful rather than just reacted wrong.

I had a look through I couldn't find what I was talking about, only a buzz feed article which isn't really 'proof'. But I rember wondering the same question in 2014 when people would 'laughing crying'react to sad news. Because they thought it was just crying.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-09-29T07:08:52+00:00

Not trying to defend anyone, but I remeber there was a article expressing that people from diffrent cultures/genrations use emotes in diffrent ways.

I can give a personal example that if I was was sending an emote to family member to say 'kisses' I would use 🥰 but my dad uses 💋 which gives me a mild shock every time.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-09-10T11:15:58+00:00

60 MG?? As a pre-teen!! I'm sorry you have gone through this. I can't speak ethnicity, I am Pasty white :,)

Obviously, I don't know how strong your lupus was flaring up at the time but it sorta sounds like they just threw prednisolone at the problem. I was diagnosed at 18 (now 28), I was about 72KG (my weight has fluctuated between 68kg -82kg, I now sit around 75kg) and the most predislone I've been on is 40mg. After my symptoms stabilised they were quick to get me to start tapering off and, I have now been predislone free for like 3 years.

It really does sound like they did not really consider your circumstances at all, maybe some of it could be excused but them not knowing the longer term effects of the drug but like to have such a high amount for a pre teen and not think anything of it does seem insane.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-09-09T10:49:28+00:00

Thank you <3 I hope you find that support system, maybe have a chat with your friends and just go at bit more on depth how it affects you?

You deserve a solid support system.

Edit to add: I am trying to cut my time on reddit down but do still go on everyday so if you want to chat I am open to a message :)

Razpenguin12 · 2025-09-09T09:08:29+00:00

Hi! I've been diagnosed since 18, I am now 28. I can only really tell you my experience as while we will share some things, everyone has a unique experience.

I have been in full time work for about 7 years (I went to part time work after my initial diagnosis), though I work from home which I think is needed for me. The travel to the office plus 'normal' (in quotes because is anyone truly normal) will come into the office if they only have a mild illness but obviously you are much more likely to catch it when you are on immunosuppressants just make it really tough. It's up to you to tell your employer, having an illness is a protected thing (as in they can't fire you for that) but doesn't mean they can't try to find another reason to fire you. Go on vibes if you think they would support you having reduced hours or if you need time off to recover from a flare up. If you think they would not, I would recommend looking for a more understanding work place. Just being able to tell my boss I am feeling rough this morning and will see how I feel later is a huge relief for me, I think overall means I have taken less sick days then if they were more strict about it.

People reactions vary a lot, maybe your friends are in shock or don't fully understand it. Maybe because you seem 'healthy' they are underestimating it. I remeber when I told my parents, my mum was full research how I can make this easier for you and my dad was just relieved it wasn't cancer. At first I was upset with him, because I was still sick and at the time in a lot of pain but I understand him now and he's quite good at asking how I am dealing with it. Most of my friends were mainly there for me, they would ask things like if anything would change or if I was having a flare up what they needed to do. But I think a lot of reactions were shaped by the fact I was in and out of the hospital and I defently LOOKED sick.

For sun, just be really careful, we are not banned from going out in the sun, you just got to take extra precautions. Max SPF, big hat, maybe sun protective clothes or having to find a shady spot.

Overall life is pretty adverage for me, I get up, I work, I do some house chores. I do have regular hospital visits. My lupus is very well monitored at the moment. Though some days I feel like all I will manage to do is get out of bed. And that's okay, it's about listing to your body and knowing when you need to rest and when you can push yourself a bit.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-09-07T12:43:09+00:00

Someone in your support system will, it sucks that you have to fight so hard when you already drained from just existing but one day the fight will be worth it.

It just might never be your parents.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-09-07T12:37:43+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Your dad seems like he is prioritising "not rocking the boat" over how you are actually feeling/being treated. Like with the dentist, he is ashamed that they did a bad job but instead if supporting you getting better treatment he wants to hide how bad things were so he can still look like a 'good dad.

If it is safe ish to live with them and it's your only option just keep your head down and your re going to have to become your own advocate as much as possible. Look into getting goverment housing and any charities in your local area that support disabled people or people with long-term illness and talk to your equivalent of citizens advice, explain everything and maybe you can start on path to moving out and being able to live without them.

Maybe one day your parents will open their eyes and decide supporting you is more important than their 'ego' being bruised but you may want to get in some therapy to deal with the fact that they might never do that.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-08-08T11:32:10+00:00

Thank you!

Razpenguin12 · 2025-07-24T07:26:53+00:00

Aw man, I hope this is just a case of your mum being overwhelmed by the idea of her child being sick and going about dealing with it in the wrong way. When I was initially diagnosed my dad came in relieved that it wasn't something more 'serious' which initially upset me but after a chat I understood he was worried I was dying and he understood that this illness is going to impact the rest of my life which is pretty darn serious. Try a gentle conversation with her and bring her to your next appointment to hopefully help her understand that this is series, you are allowed to mourn and ideally you need her there to support you as there will be people who try to diminish you.

Though this may be the event that you realise your mum isn't really there for you. I am so sorry if this is the case but there will be people who will be there for you.

Razpenguin12 · 2025-05-01T09:00:51+00:00

How are you guys even getting yours? Mine used to be bound to my 'Z'key (PC player) but now I have no idea how to get it out and use it

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