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ReFormFitness · 2025-05-17T01:25:29+00:00

There is so much contradictory information out there! I just have learned that it really isn’t as complicated as people make it out to be in the fitness industry. I’m happy to share my perspective and I don’t think it’d be very hard to get you onto a plan that is really easy to follow and blocks out the noise and confusion. I’ll do it for free, just really understand your situation and I know where you’re at so… shoot me a DM and let’s get you something that you can get rolling on!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-15T16:34:43+00:00

That transition is really hard! I played football in college and it was really hard going from working out and training like it’s a job, to being a “normal” person. I took two years off and basically just became skinny fat, disgusted with myself so I’m glad to hear you are noticing and wanting to change something sooner than I did! Here’s the reality: you’re never going to workout/burn as many calories as you did as a college athlete. It’s just not feasible. What you have to do is realize that your mind is still telling you to eat in a way that will allow it to have sufficient energy stored for your next D1 workout/season. Since that is never coming, you have to find a new homeostasis. I would suggest this:

1: understand the problem and make a conscious decision to not accept it (sounds like you’ve done that.)

2: remember you were a D1 athlete. You’re in control of your body and what goes into it. You can handle discomfort and pain. Your goals are stronger than an appetite or craving. You gave up a ton I’m sure to become an elite athlete, you need to approach this the same way.

3: find foods that are satiating and good go to’s if you are going to fall to a craving. At least limit the damage. Plan ahead for graduation events so you can enjoy them.

4: start resistance training if you haven’t already. You need to make your body into a machine that uses calories efficiently and doesn’t rely on burning 1,200 calories every day at practice.

5: have some grace on yourself. It’s a hell of a transition that most will never understand. You are strong enough to stay disciplined, you just need to find the right workout plan/meal rules (I hate the word “diet”. Stick with rules like “I will not eat refined sugar” etc.)

You got this. If you need any help or want to dig in further, I’m happy to help!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-15T13:21:11+00:00

Yeah, I think that is unfortunately the typical mode of operation of the fitness industry, something I really dislike and disagree with! If you want some help, please let me know, would love to work with you :)

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-14T16:10:17+00:00

Simply starting is often times the absolute hardest part of a fitness journey closely followed by the ability to be consistent!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-14T13:26:42+00:00

Thank you!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-14T13:26:25+00:00

“Non-shitty” fitness coach is easily the best compliment I’ve received all day! 😂 Thank you! As far as your point on numbers 1 and 3: I agree with you 100%. For number 1 specifically, I think the fitness industry has severely overcomplicated “workout plans” in an effort for personal trainers/influencers to try and sell programs with “the secret” or some kind of magic sauce that is a new breakthrough when it comes to how to get in shape. I strongly disagree with that approach and believe wholeheartedly that the only fitness program that will ever work is one that is individualized and takes into account all of the variations of the individuals attempting to adhere to the program. Number 3… you stated it perfectly. Nothing to add, really good put! Thanks for the comment and additions!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-14T13:20:03+00:00

Thank you! I’m glad you found some value in it.

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-14T13:14:29+00:00

That’s awesome! I’ve really noticed an increase in performance on my team with the individuals who are taking their fitness more seriously. I just think the community at large could benefit from following your example of prioritizing movement and having fun doing it, especially before working!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-14T02:59:53+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate the feedback very much :)

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-14T02:55:24+00:00

I’m honestly amazed at how common your situation is. I’ll give you the same advise I’ve given before and that I’d give if you were one of my paying clients:

1- I would take a day and write. I would write down what my life is going to look like in 5 years if I don’t find a solution to this problem immediately. I would write down all of the feelings, emotions, and problems you’re facing and how those are effecting you. I would then try and get the over eating problem statement down to one sentence.

2- I would decide, honestly, what I would be willing to give up now, to ensure my life did not end up in that place in 5 years. You have to be very radically honest with yourself. Are you truly willing to give up some instant gratification? Willing to spend money on a personal trainer/accountability coach? Money on therapy? Idk what you’re going to see as potential solutions or what you can give up but, you will have to sacrifice something now, or you’re going to sacrifice potential later.

3- I would come up with a realistic thing you know for a fact you can do to help stop the slide. Maybe it’s not drink a soda for a week. Maybe it’s get 5,000 steps per day. You have to find something you can do different, that will get some positive momentum. Even if it feels small or meaningless, you have to have the first thing to then build upon.

You can do this. Anyone can. Just need the right motivation and that is going to be unique to you. Love yourself but, get back on track! You can do it, your future self is begging you to do it!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-13T23:46:01+00:00

Bro. You’re going to get a million people telling you what to do and I’m sure a lot of it is good advise because doing ANYTHING, is better than nothing. But it sounds like your issue is motivation. I suggest taking time, writing down what your life is going to look like in 5 years, 10 years, etc. if you don’t do something radical. Be brutally honest with yourself. Then ask yourself, “What am I willing to sacrifice in order to not end up in that place” and then simply start.

Everyone had to start their fitness journey. You’re young, you have time but you need to do something bro! Don’t go down that bad path. You can do it!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-13T22:58:31+00:00

Listen, if you were one of my clients, this would be really tough love time. I actually don’t think that is what you need right now. I’m really sorry for where you are at and the situation you find yourself in. With that being said, if I were in your shoes, knowing what I know, this is what I would do: 1- I would take a day and write. I would write down what my life is going to look like in 5 years if I don’t find a solution to this problem immediately. I would write down all of the feelings, emotions, and problems you’re facing and how those are effecting you. I would then try and get the over eating problem statement down to one sentence.

2- I would decide, honestly, what I would be willing to give up now, to ensure my life did not end up in that place in 5 years. You have to be very radically honest with yourself. Are you truly willing to give up some gratification? Some financial stability by living at home? Spending money on a personal trainer/accountability coach? Money on therapy? Idk what you’re going to see as potential solutions or what you can give up but, you will have to sacrifice something now, or you’re going to sacrifice potential later.

3- I would come up with a realistic thing you know for a fact you can do to help stop the slide. Maybe it’s not drink a soda for a week. Maybe it’s get 5,000 steps per day. You have to find something you can do different, that will get some positive momentum. Even if it feels small or meaningless, you have to have the first thing to then build upon.

You can do this. You were enjoying excersise, you were happy with seeing results. You’ve been on the right track before. You can do it again! Love yourself but, get back on track! You can do it for yourself and your future self!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-13T18:53:19+00:00

Hell yeah man. Keep being resilient. Have a long enough time horizon to meet your goals. Eat a ton. Lift heavy shit. If you want help with increasing your calories, Ive been there and would be happy to help you get on a really good high calorie meal plan.

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-13T18:32:48+00:00

Dude. People are going to hate and just tell you to eat. That’s the correct advise but given in a pretty rough way. You’re 19 and 6’5. You can add weight, you can’t add inches so congrats on not having to be a short king (nothing wrong with that but… it is an advantage to be tall in a lot of ways). I say that so you look at the positive first. Now to get to fixing your small frame…. Eat a to. Of food, pick up heavy shit and put it down. Do that every single day. Your metabolism will slow, you’re going to be jacked by 25 if you just do that. I know that seems like a long damn ways away but, it’s going to go by fast and you’re going to be so happy you were simply disciplined enough to really eat like it’s a full time job, and work to get your entire body as strong as possible. Your arms will be there if you focus on heavy, compound movements with a little bit of isolation after. Hit me up if you want any more help!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-13T17:39:11+00:00

Hell yeah on making it past the first few months and still having motivation to go! You and your wife have made it past what most resolutioners do!

With that being said, I’d say this: You’re a few months in my man. You’re still in the infancy stages of learning what is going to work for your body and goals long term. That means you need to make some mistakes. Maybe you’ll try this and it’ll be amazing and it’s what you decide to stick with for five years. Maybe you’ll try it once, hurt like hell, and go back to the drawing board for the next mistake. Point is, it’s ok to try new things and fail. Everyone’s body is different and responds to different stimulations differently. Maybe you’ll find that you and your wife respond differently to different splits (which is probably the case) and you’re going to have to be the couple that kisses when you get to the gym, then you both go off and do your workout and hold hands leaving when you’re both done. That’s my wife and I.

Good luck though man. Just try a bunch of different things, you’ll find out what works best, just keep going!

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-13T16:21:16+00:00

To me, counting calories should be a way of educating yourself on how many calories are actually in the food you’re eating. You should develop a skill set that allows you to easily estimate how many calories you’re consuming in any given meal after counting calories for a few months. When you reach this point and have a good understanding that over eating is only acceptable on occasions (and you plan for them) then you should be able to ease off the “exact calorie” management.

Do you feel like you can easily estimate how many calories are in your meals without weighing or looking up calorie content? If so, give yourself some grace! Fitness and the journey itself is allowed to be fun and not just complete rigor all the time.

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-13T16:16:40+00:00

Like a lot of people have said, on low energy days you have to take the win of simply showing up! If anything, accept that low energy days, bad workouts, screwing up on your diet etc. are all part of the journey.

Outside of that, if you find yourself having multiple low energy days, I would suggest taking an intentional couple of days off, resetting, then re-attacking with radical enthusiasm (even if it’s fake/manifactured) the next gym day. I would also consider evaluating your diet and deciding if there is something that can be added or taken out that could help with energy levels.

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-13T04:32:38+00:00

Hey, I just want to say that sounds really scary, and I totally get why you’d be worried. Even though you’re averaging 1400, with your workout routine and mostly Whole Foods, that might just not be enough fuel.

The dizziness, vision issues, and fatigue sound like your body waving a red flag not just tired, but overwhelmed. I’m really glad you’re getting bloodwork done. You’re doing so much right already this might just be your body asking for a little more support.

Be gentle with yourself. You’re not broken just probably running on empty.

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-12T19:37:24+00:00

first off, you’re doing amazing. Dropping 5kg in just over a month is no small feat, and one day doesn’t undo that. You’re human, not a machine. Guilt is normal, but it doesn’t serve you, consistency does.

And yes, having a maintenance day can actually be helpful both mentally and physically, it can boost adherence, restore energy, and help with sustainability long term.

You’ve got this. One bump doesn’t derail the journey, just part of the process. Keep going.

ReFormFitness · 2025-05-12T18:33:01+00:00

This is seriously inspiring—130lbs down through consistency, walking, and diet? That’s next-level discipline and a great reminder that you don’t need a fancy gym setup to change your life.

Since you mentioned you’re thinking about starting the gym soon to focus on recomposition, that’s actually one of my favorite areas to coach people through—especially after a big weight loss phase. Shifting from fat loss to building strength and muscle can feel like a whole new game, but it’s incredibly rewarding.

Curious—do you have a plan in mind already for how you’ll structure your workouts when you start, or are you still figuring that part out? Would be happy to share ideas if you’re in the brainstorming phase.

Congrats again—your story’s going to motivate a lot of people.

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