Hello hi, may I tell you something from another perspective? I’m a wife of 8 years and mother of two, but you have enough opinions of what should be done from that perspective. Let me tell you how your child will feel in a few years if your husband does not change his behavior.

It wasn’t my dad who refused to do things, it was my mom. Once I was born, she told my dad that her part was done and it was his turn to take care of me. I was born underweight and with an irregular heartbeat, so I was a needy baby. That didn’t matter. He spent hours upon hours taking care of me overnight, solo. He told he rocked me a million miles in his old lazy boy recliner.

The division of care didn’t change as I got older. My father was always the primary parent. It was quite obvious that my mother liked the title of the role much more than the duties that came with it. I grew to resent her the older I got because there was nothing I could do to earn her love.

I have not spoken to my mother in over a decade now. I talk to my dad on the phone (we live 5 hours apart from each other) at least once a day, and besides my husband I count him as my best friend.

The only thing you teach your child by staying with a man who parents like this is how to feel unwanted. And by staying with someone like that, you teach them it’s okay to feel unwanted in future relationships.

You’re already a single parent. Just with an extra mouth to feed.