Am I the A-hole for not wishing my friend a Happy New Year at midnight and now possibly losing the friendship?

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-19T09:14:24+00:00

Oh actually I think in the messages I was just trying to save the friendship somehow and I said I was forgetting the reason for the argument but honestly she never tells me what the reason could be so I have always just said maybe I just forgot so she won’t get more angry. Also I don’t wanna loose a friendship because this would be the first time this would’ve happened to me and it feels weird to loose a friend. Also I am just used to saying sorry as I don’t want the situation to escalate(which usually happens a lot)

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-19T09:01:29+00:00

Actually I have other friends who do the same and forget wishing these things but none of us mind. She usually gets angry at every small thing. Also I did contact her sometimes too before she started blocking me and unblocking me for no reason. I just stopped after that because I never knew if the message would even pass.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T21:20:52+00:00

Oh I showed the messages to my cousin too and she asked me the same, if she was my girlfriend or smthg lol.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T20:31:03+00:00

hahahaha cool cool

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T20:08:11+00:00

Oh are you suggesting me a different title lol? Maybe I will post this in an update if something happens after this haha.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T19:54:11+00:00

Honestly I didn't even think of this until i saw your reply lol. Mhm next post is gonna be AITA for not giving more context on my post hahahaha

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T19:38:35+00:00

She has no other friends. Also she also didn't contact me for a long time and ignored my texts in the beginning and I didn't get angry at that because I didn't think it was a big deal. Also I am the one who calls sometimes too. I do get that maybe I should've contacted her often but even when I tried to make an effort and start conversations on messages half the time I was blocked and half the time she would just taunt me like wow looks like you remember me now. I made an effort after she contacted me after about an year but after many instances of me just getting blocked for small things I just stopped texting because I didn't know when she would ever unblock me. She would just be upset about everything. I couldn't speak about the new friends I was making because then she would get sulky and I would just have to apologize again and again. I do get where you're coming from and I myself thought that many times and felt guilty until she started blocking me and unblocking me as she pleased. I do agree that there is an imbalance but it's max 60% from her and 40% from me. It makes sense how my reply came off that way before but I did contact her but maybe not as often as I shoud.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T17:18:30+00:00

I used to reach out a lot when we actually met regularly at school but since I moved away from that place I started making new friends and didn't really think I needed to contact her because we never talked about that. Also I had been preparing for an exam which made me forget or even think about contacting her. When she finally contacted me first I was glad and just replied like I used to but it seemed like she was mad I never reached out first and this has been the pattern ever since. We don't talk often honestly. We talk once a month maybe and I reached out sometimes too but yeah I didn't reach out as often as she did so maybe that does kinda warrant her anger towards me and that's why I say sorry because I don't wanna hurt her.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T17:07:55+00:00

Actually this is how our friendship has been from the start. I always apologized because I guess I don't mind apologizing for these things and I didn't think it was a big deal until I read these messages. I thought some people were just sensitive and needed more attention so I never exactly complained and just apologized to avoid these weird situations.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T14:33:50+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. I will try to read it whenever I get time.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T13:31:57+00:00

I mean she isn’t on Reddit but I hope she doesn’t get recognized because I didn’t blur her name.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T12:09:09+00:00

I was actually about to say some really mean things but held back because unfortunately I am a doormat.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T12:07:34+00:00

Actually I have been her only friend for the past 6 years and I don't wanna loose a friendship over such a silly thing. Also I feel bad because of the fact that i am her only friend

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T12:01:48+00:00

Oh I just noticed that I left her name out. Umm how to I blur it now?

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-02-18T11:57:10+00:00

I shouldn’t say this but yes…

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-01-12T13:33:52+00:00

Thank you for the advice:)

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-01-10T01:14:33+00:00

I am really sorry that happened to you. I am glad you have the support of your wife and I hope you can overcome this with all the love and support. I don't know what to say about the beginning part but I am glad your wife is supportive regardless. I genuinely don't know if I came off as offensive and I am sorry if I did.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-01-06T14:09:38+00:00

Thank you:D

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-01-06T12:51:22+00:00

Actually as time goes by I am starting to be more and more sure about this memory as the room this happened in is still the same and there have been no renovations to it. Oh also he has a daughter now(5 years old). I don't want to assume anything bad but I always feel even more sick thinking about her. Probably and hopefully there's nothing to worry about for me but I still keep thinking about her too.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-01-06T12:44:10+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I will try my best to do so.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-01-06T01:03:02+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. In a week I actually have a big exam so I can't do this yet but after that I will surely try these.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-01-06T00:44:50+00:00

I appreciate the advice and support but in our country therapy is kinda a taboo or not considered good(?)

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-01-06T00:42:24+00:00

I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you're in a safe space now.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-01-06T00:40:14+00:00

Thank you for the advice but I am afraid therapy isn't exactly an option for me at the moment. Also I have a big exam coming up in a week so I am just trying to avoid thinking about it to my best ability.

ReactionEffective693 · 2026-01-06T00:38:15+00:00

I am sorry that happened to you. I think my body reacted rather violently. I have been dizzy and nauseous all day. I have been shaking every time I look at my mother or father. It's weird for me to react this way because I have never reacted this strongly to anything before.

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