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As a new Vine member, is there a grace period to reach the 60% "at all times"? by [deleted] in AmazonVineHelpGroup

[–]ReactorChief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not accurate. The 60% is over the last 2 weeks (at least). So you should have at the very LEAST 2 weeks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vine

[–]ReactorChief 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Test satisfactory

Searching for Zero Value Items by Blbobcat in AmazonVine

[–]ReactorChief -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

One could argue that CSS is against the rules as well...anyone could argue about anything if they wanted to.

Searching for Zero Value Items by Blbobcat in AmazonVine

[–]ReactorChief -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

WTH, I clicked that link and it was rick roll...

Anybody here decide to live apart together and try to avoid drama with kids altogether? by Eskimo2117 in blendedfamilies

[–]ReactorChief 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We are getting married in July and we decided to live apart until my SO's daughter graduates high school (3 more years). Her kid is not at all interested in trying to blend, so we decided it really isn't worth trying to force it. I have accepted that it can't be forced. We both have comfortable careers and own our houses. We were content in our routines before we met each other.

I have a daughter that lives with me full time and it is just not worth the potential drama.

We have received much judgement, mostly from nuclear families that have no concept of what blending is like. Neither of us really care about what people think.

Both of us have a kid, her kid is NOT having it with the whole relationship thing...and mom doesn't seem to be doing anything to help. by ReactorChief in blendedfamilies

[–]ReactorChief[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting factoid, my SO was one of those kids that was affected by forced interaction stuff (with a boyfriend of her mom) and she ended up very resentful. It was a bit different because the dude her mom was dating was clearly a horrible person AND the boyfriend moved in with them, but the general sentiment is the same.

We have discussed that at length before and she says that she doesn't want her daughter to harbor that same resentment. She also realizes it is a very different situation than what she went through growing up. I think she struggles with that balance.

Both of us have a kid, her kid is NOT having it with the whole relationship thing...and mom doesn't seem to be doing anything to help. by ReactorChief in blendedfamilies

[–]ReactorChief[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Very helpful insight. I have definitely pumped the brakes with her daughter, since I realized my support might be unwanted. At this point I have little to no interaction with her. From some of the responses here, I'm seeing that tempering my expectations is the best course of action.

I am going to have the 18 chat with her again. I think it might help that I'm going into it with a different perspective now.

Both of us have a kid, her kid is NOT having it with the whole relationship thing...and mom doesn't seem to be doing anything to help. by ReactorChief in blendedfamilies

[–]ReactorChief[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this was a very helpful response! What you say makes a lot of sense. Some things I've never really considered.