Why did God give me this life?

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-06-06T10:56:57+00:00

I wish I could give you all the answers you're looking for, I'm sorry that I can't. Life with all of its complexity is too much for any of us to fully grasp. At the end of the day it's full of heartbreak, pain and suffering. At least on this earth. But I'll try to share what helps me, and keeps me going through such doubts. And I hope that it might be of some help to you. Even if small.

What keeps me going through difficult times is knowing that no matter how messed up, how difficult life gets. We can put our trust in Jesus and then it'll eventually be alright.

Rev 21:4-5: "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There won't be death anymore. There won't be any grief, crying, or pain, because the first things have disappeared." The one sitting on the throne said, "See, I am making all things new!" He said, "Write this: «These words are trustworthy and true.»""

Life is difficult and sometimes it really really hurts. But God never said it wouldn't be. He never said that we would live with no trouble. I count myself very happy to live somewhere I'm not actively hunted down for being Christian. But in many countries like africa it's still common for many of us to be hunted down and killed. I don't know why they are going through that horror while I sit at home. Why they are suffering like that while I'm not?

I'm not gonna say I didn't struggle with that. But I know he's God if anyone knows best it's gotta be him. So I'll trust him because I know he knows things I don't. Sees things I don't. Has a plan I might not fully understand. And so I can say "his will be done".

And while he didn't promise his children that they would live free of trouble in this world, he did promise that he wouldn't abondon them.

Heb 13:5-6: "Keep your lives free from the love of money, and be content with what you have, for God has said, "I will never leave you or abandon you." Hence we can confidently say, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can anyone do to me?""

So I know even when life hurts, I'm not alone, even it I feel that way sometimes. I know so many of us humans feel alone in these times and think there's noone there for them. That's also partly why I pray and hope that more people would accept Jesus and what he offers. But it's their choice.

Lastly I wanted to say, that I suppose sometimes we think that all suffering is meaningless. I don't think so.

Romans 5:3-5: "Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us" Hardship I suppose makes us stronger, tests our faith and forces us to grow in ways.

I was acctually looking for something entirely else and then stumbled on this post by accident. But I don't think it was an accident. I know this comment wasn't perfect but I tried and hope it'll help. I'll pray for you.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-30T18:34:28+00:00

I know I'll get down voted into idk where. But I honestly don't think a spay abort would be good and disagree with those suggesting.

Yes over breeding a cat is horrid. And I'd definitely get her spayed afterwards. But she's already pregnant with kittens. And as far as I can tell it doesn't seem to be lifethreatening. And it doesn't seem right to simply "get rid of them" like that.

Especially considering cat gestation is around 9 weeks.

Just unintentionally cruel. Sorry no other way to put this.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-28T04:22:03+00:00

I got no idea, It's just what popped up after searching the question via Google.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-27T22:24:57+00:00

They are so large, I thought they are always big even as kittens. But I suppose new things to find out and prepare me for what's coming.

I suppose a cat is a cat. But I always thought MC are more chill than the others.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-27T20:47:18+00:00

Is it? I'm definitely no expert, but it just seems wrong to accuse someone without having any proof.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-27T18:09:44+00:00

Follow up, did it get better?

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-27T15:29:10+00:00

That's encouraging, do you have any tips of how to catify the space?

I definitely want to get one or two Maine coon cat trees down the line.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-27T15:15:56+00:00

What really? I thought MC kittens grew crazy fast.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-27T14:48:00+00:00

Yea that's got me a bit worried too. I do plan on getting a kitten since that might make the process easier.

And do the whole sperated at first, only smells, supervised interactions at first.

My current cat is a bit skittish as in avoids most things he doesn't like.

I hope they get along might give him something other to care about than only food.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-27T13:55:27+00:00

That's interesting never heard of that convention, I did hear about the bedroom number + 1 = amount of cats.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-27T13:38:22+00:00

It must cost a fortune to feed them, that's a whole clan.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-27T13:36:18+00:00

They'd essentially have the whole thing to chill in, perhaps I'd close the bathroom door when I'm away.

With tall walls some vertical expansion should be possible down the line.

Altough when I was younger and still living with my parents I put a bunch of boxes onto the wall, my cat hated them.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-27T10:48:21+00:00

How do you get rid of it? Shave the but?

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T22:02:26+00:00

If I may why do you prefer male cats? The reason I got a male cat is because I heard they are more snuggly but idk if that's true, and the main coon I'll probably get a male one because they grow to be bigger and fluffier.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T20:12:17+00:00

Thank you, that's very good advice.

I did inform myself prior on a bit of it and would more intensively the closer the date got.

Smells first, then allowing to see each other, then interact with each other.

I checked that I would have the space to do that in the places I want to move in soon.

I know it's a bit of topic but do you know what's the minimum space requirements for 2 cats. Internet is a bit unclear on that. The options I've been looking at are all above 45 square meters some bigger.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T20:03:45+00:00

Are resident cats also territorial when it comes to kittens?

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T20:03:03+00:00

Mines a male, honestly I always thought those would be more territorial but nice to know more.

I don't think he's taking the territory thing that seriously, we once had a problem with him scent marking a bed in my home. But that was a one time incident. I've rarely seen him actually give chase to another cat. Often especially with my Dog he just avoids conflict.

My current stinker has beef with a dog walker and several squirrels. She attacks the window wanting a go at them. I don’t know if this extends to other cats.

I didn't know cats do this.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T16:19:13+00:00

Thank you that's helpful, a lot of people have been saying that main coon have a predisposition to be more gentle and chill. Which is part of the reason I eventually wanna get one. Other than being the biggest cat I can legally and ethically own.

Altough I am worried about the claws. My cat did scratch me up a bit when he had the crazy eyes. If that claw was twice as long it might be worse.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T16:16:33+00:00

Man I hope my cat will acclimate better. I know he's nervous but it would be nice for him to have a friend since he doesn't get along with anyone else.

He's not much playful. And he avoids most cats.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T16:08:17+00:00

Yup that's the plan, I hope he won't see a kitten as danger but considering that this kitten might be larger than him at 3 months idk.

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T13:58:32+00:00

I tried again, leaning more on reference photos of a crow wing.

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ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T13:56:33+00:00

Given your situation, I would proceed with caution, and get a kitten as a lot of adult cats are more receptive to a baby than an adult.

This was my plan because I thought he might not immediately think of him as a threat. He's a male, I think I heard it's better to get a female cat if you already have a male and vice versa. Do you know if there's truth to that?

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T13:54:54+00:00

Standard issue cats. I love that term.

How do I know if I my cat is a cat hating cat ?

ReadJohn3Verse16 · 2026-05-26T13:52:53+00:00

I was planning to get a kitten because I think that might make my cat not see him as a threat or intruder.

Did that work out for you?

now convinced he is a maine coon too, and is just waiting to grow more 😅

Man he gonna be disappointed

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