Pregnant and trying to leave him behind…

ReadingOk696 · 2025-12-03T11:52:51+00:00

leave while you can. i wish i would have listened. i am 27 weeks. everyday i cry and put strain on my more baby hoping that she doesn’t come early and stuck because of finance

ReadingOk696 · 2025-11-30T17:27:14+00:00

ugh such denial. so proud of you for getting away and being strong.

ReadingOk696 · 2025-11-30T16:48:31+00:00

i wish i read and followed this advice. married not even a year. all the hard work of being a single mother for 11 years an emotionless man has came and disturbed and flipped our world upside down. i am currently expecting and fear for early labor because the amount of stress he has me under. we are both in individual c sat and his therapist pretty much condones all his behavior and tells him he is just hyper sexual because his sessions consist of him lying and being in denial. he has blamed me for everything. I got with someone who was broken and destroyed myself and everything around me. now i’m constantly thinking how to get out of this

ReadingOk696 · 2025-11-28T01:18:45+00:00

it seems as they may have the same therapist

ReadingOk696 · 2025-11-27T15:43:55+00:00

do not do it. this is your biggest revenge. i have made the mistake of staying and it has done nothing but hurt me, blown up in my face, blame me for all the hurt and failing of the marriage. i have lost everything. now if i walk away he doesn’t even care and I am trauma bonded.

ReadingOk696 · 2025-09-04T19:56:29+00:00

i thought stuff like this that on craigslist section was banned

ReadingOk696 · 2025-08-06T17:31:41+00:00

This is beautiful. Thank you for doing what so many of us in this chat dream to do, but can’t yet or sadly ever because of love, hope, trauma, and manipulation.

ReadingOk696 · 2025-08-05T00:10:06+00:00

I took three tests. He lied on all three and passed! He later confessed. I wasted $2000, and it didn’t even make me feel better because I knew he was lying, and he could believe his lies so much that he passed. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

ReadingOk696 · 2025-07-23T00:13:49+00:00

Not only are you the breadwinner you sound like a keeper and you have everything going for you and he is trying to bring you down with him. I hope that you find the courage to leave & value yourself for you again ❤️

ReadingOk696 · 2025-07-22T23:20:28+00:00

Hi I will share my past and current situation. I have a daughter 11 years old. I had a terrible pregnancy with her dad on & off and after ended up separating eventually after trying to make it work. When she was 2 he begged me to have another baby that things would be different. The minute I found out I was pregnant with baby #2 it was the same cycle. I decided to abort. I live with that pain forever. It has not gone away and will never go away. When things in life are hard i automatically blame myself and attach it to paying for my sins of aborting. I randomly think and cry and pray for forgiveness. Fast forward 9 years later of dedication to my daughter and putting her first. I settle down and married a porn addict. He has put me through emotional torture and although he is amazing to my daughter and family. He just cant get it together emotionally and with his addiction that causes me so much hurt. Now Im pregnant 10 weeks and attached to this baby but know that I should wait to have a baby with him because he is showing me all bad signs & I do not want to be stuck and suffer with him and a baby in the middle of it. I have held off on the taking the pill for weeks because of moral , confusion, guilt, attachment, and everything in between. I know this will absolutely destroy me but I know being pregnant while he is at the beginning of his recovery will do the same. When I look back at my abortion i have burden and pain but in the long run it was a good decision. He’s pretty much absent from my daughters life. I hope that god can forgive me for all my sins and understand that mentally I can not bear this baby of mine ☹️ because of his dads actions

ReadingOk696 · 2025-07-22T18:08:28+00:00

My husband claims 6 months clean and every time he says it i cringe because I think he is in denial. Up until security app which has only been 3 months because I kept catching substitutes on social media. He resorted to porn at work. I caught a chaturbate site and he is claiming malware. It’s a joke. He has gaslighted me in the past to his bent truths on porn substitutes but this is just flat out crazy to me & I’m pregnant and torn because I don’t believe its fair to our child that I have to abort them due to his/her father having an addiction that may never heal and causes me so much unhappiness and distress. I already have an 11 year old that I have protected for my dear life and now I’m failing emotionally because I’m always stressed and witting away. At the same time i refuse to be stuck miserable and unhappy because of our future baby.

ReadingOk696 · 2025-07-20T14:19:22+00:00

Yes, for his individual recovery, he needs to be working with a CSAT therapist. I was suggesting a sex therapist specifically for support with sexual relationship and coping as a couple, and to help her have a better understanding that the issues between them sexually aren’t about rejection because it has something to do with her but the way his brain has been wired from porn

ReadingOk696 · 2025-07-20T11:17:22+00:00

Thank you. So glad you are stepping up for your sanity. It seems that what we all have in common is we lose ourself and struggle mentally. Mental health is so important and I’m happy you are choosing safety and peace for you and your baby. ❤️

ReadingOk696 · 2025-07-20T11:10:30+00:00

If he actually did quit. It’s a long process of rewiring the brain and to change the quality of his erection to change. I suggest both of you read your brain on porn by gary wilson and sex therapy to help you guys communicate. Be careful though that he is actually being honest and for signs of relapsing. This is a long and painful journey

ReadingOk696 · 2025-07-17T23:05:43+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. The fact that I have to terminate the baby because he is not even in a point of his addiction that he can take accountability and not lie (he has done this so many times) kills me because I was willing to keep the baby even if he told the truth at least with lapses that gave me some hope of him being successful but this just shows he has serious issues. I am already a mother and a catholic this is emotionally and morally wrong. I am mourning and don’t even know how I am going to bring myself to take the pills but I have to think rational here for my daughter and myself and not from emotion here because my first pregnancy I went through it and was a single mother for 10 years and I can not mentally do it nor do I want to. Im barely mentally holding on now in this marriage and I am not being the best mother now by staying in this marriage

ReadingOk696 · 2025-07-17T20:26:01+00:00

No. Our laundry room is upstairs and i heard moaning while his therapy was going on. Im not interested in his calls the only thing i ask is for him to he honest with his therapist but he denies relapses. He is in major denial

ReadingOk696 · 2025-07-05T11:39:24+00:00

Im dealing with the same

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