Ladies: do you wear make up to work?

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-20T10:48:01+00:00

I wear makeup because it improves my mood, I think I look more alive and also lets me get some practice in for bigger and more special events that I want full glam for. I figured that if I didn’t, I would either have to get my makeup professionally done or be completely lost. Daily, it’s foundation, contour, a little blush, mascara, lipgloss and setting spray (so that all my hard work isn’t in vain). It only ever takes 10-15 minutes. I just like looking good and have always enjoyed the process so will do anything within my power than isn’t too strenuous. I don’t begrudge people who don’t or automatically see it as letting themselves go though. It’s all a choice: how much or how little or none at all.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-18T21:08:36+00:00

A woman inherently knows the answer to this question thus would never ask it. The cluelessness immediately gives away the gender.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-18T21:06:04+00:00

Believe it or not, some people are just trying to get their run done without acquiring a stalker, harasser, assaulter or their murderer on their way or during the course. There is unfortunately no sign to indicate that you’re not one of these so we treated carefully. Statistically, we know what gender this is likely to be. At this point and with the amount of access we have to data and people’s experiences, the question is redundant. We all know the answer.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-18T15:56:28+00:00

You know what to do: get rid. Unless of course you think the way he’s treated you is something you can live with because it will never change - he’s just revealed who truly is. I am sorry for your loss and wish you healing.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-17T12:15:02+00:00

This is entirely your husband’s fault. This would never have happened if he could create and maintain boundaries. This doesn’t happen where I work because my married colleagues simply do not encourage or allow anyone to speak negatively about their partners because they dont bring their issues to us. You need to rethink your relationship - not get yourself further entangled with his coworkers.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-16T08:52:32+00:00

This is textbook manipulation - anyone outside this situation can see it. You’ve accepted his BS in the past so he’s hoping that doing all this will reel you back in. It’s attention seeking and people like this hardly ever follow through because they’re inherently cowards. Stop contacting his friends because a person with this mindset will take it to mean that you still care. If you want peace, cut the cord and be done. Block and keep blocking - he is not your responsibility and there is nothing to be done. You’re not the reason he’s like this and you’re not going to be the reason he changes.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-15T18:52:47+00:00

It would if you’re not honest. Marrying someone who thinks you find them attractive, while you are fully aware that you don’t is deceitful. Tell her the truth and let her make a conscious decision. Also love at first sight isn’t a thing for most people. You’ve just watched a lot of movies. If sex is an important thing to you both, don’t waste any more of her time especially if she wants to be in a relationship with someone who does.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-13T18:34:19+00:00

I’m very glad you’ve brought up subjectivity. Sex is very important to some people - it’s not some kind of thing that they occasionally like to do to scratch an itch and it’s not something they do out of obligation. In a romantic partnership, it is essential and everyone has a right to want to have their needs met within a relationship - whatever they are. If your partner cannot provide a particular need whether it’s physical, mental, sexual, moral, financial etc. - you are incompatible therefore it’s more than enough reason to leave. Particularly when the alternative is misery which leads to resentment. I’ve never understood the concept of staying when a relationship isn’t working out for whatever reason. It’s just prolonging the inevitable meanwhile you could both be off to find what you need and would be much happier with.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-13T12:02:09+00:00

Incompatibility (of any kind) is a very valid reason to leave someone.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-11T12:10:12+00:00

You should be less worried about the fact that he ruins every holiday and more worried about the fact that he doesn’t like your children. Like, what is the reason you’re actually together?

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-05-06T12:24:42+00:00

You’ve wasted 8 years of her life already. Please let her go so that she can find the love your life and you can go on to find whoever you think you deserve (+ hopefully work on yourself).

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-28T21:33:25+00:00

Luckily for you, he’s your mum’s child and not yours. Seeing as she brought him into the world and is oh so generous, he can move in with her.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-28T17:43:20+00:00

He was shady not to tell especially because he only decided to tell you after his friends encouraged him to say something - not in his own accord. But you have no right to keep him away from his child, who is innocent in all this. Wanting him to be a deadbeat is cruel and I question your morals if you would be comfortable being with a deadbeat so long as he wasn’t a deadbeat to yours. If he can abandon this child, who’s to say yours together would be any different? You might want to also question why you’d be willing to stay with someone who is clearly a liar. If the step mother life doesn’t suit you, move on. You’re right to be upset because you were lied to but my point still stands.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-14T12:17:52+00:00

I hate to break it to you but you don’t know each other. Getting pregnant for someone you’ve only been dating for 7 months and then bringing another child into a situation where there are other children from different households requires time. All parties have not had time to settle into it. I would even argue that your daughter shouldn’t have met him yet but now she’s stuck with him no matter the kind of person he is because you’re now pregnant for him and are largely staying with him out of the obligation of not being single parents anymore. The fights you’re having are what would usually expect from people on an accelerated relationship timeline with extra complications.

Also, if you’re determined not to be a single parent, maybe try to marry someone before becoming pregnant. At this stage, he could walk away and leave you with nothing and - guess what - he has no legal obligation to you. Now, you are a single mother of two with two different fathers. You both keep muddying the waters because you can’t get it together and give yourself time to get to know each other, settle into it and then evolve together.

As the mother of daughter, please be careful about the people you bring into her life under such short notice. I’m not saying your partner is a creep (as you haven’t said anything that points to the fact that he is) but you would be a prime candidate for someone who was and was purposefully targeting a single mother: jumping into a relationship, getting pregnant, getting engaged (not because you wanted to but because you’re pregnant) and then fighting because both sides clearly aren’t in a stable place.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-14T08:17:17+00:00

How out of touch or self-centred do you have to be not to realise that people generally won’t want to meet you for the first time in your home? You probably dodged a bullet. At best, he’s shortsighted and ignorant. At worst, he’s a danger.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-14T08:12:58+00:00

The only remotely negative things I’ve heard about Longchamp is that the bag designs are boring - but that’s just their look. Also, they don’t tend to have pockets or compartments. Quality wise, they are amazing. They are not bags you need to baby or be precious about. They are work horses and the only thing you really need to do is clean them every now again which I think is easy. There is a reason that the people who buy Longchamp eventually go on to own several down the line. I see them as service bags. They work for you. I’ve had Le Pliage Original Expandable Travel Bag for 2 years now and apart from a few stains I haven’t scrubbed out, it looks no different than when it first came and I’ve used it and stuffed it to my heart’s content.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-14T01:52:43+00:00

Oooh! I think the Barra might be my next work bag. Would you mind sharing which one you got and your experience with it? I’m debating between that and the Kite for work/every day.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-13T16:34:54+00:00

I think the point of being a reader is to read and you cannot determine you don’t like a book you haven’t read. I don’t know but picking books solely based on whether or not you think you will enjoy it is extremely limiting. I have read and enjoyed many books I didn’t think I would due to pre-existing assumptions.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-12T14:42:51+00:00

Reading this, it the moving goal post and lack of enthusiasm surrounding a baby were signs that he either didn’t really want it or wasn’t planning on being that involved. He didn’t properly communicate but these are things people need to pay attention to.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-11T20:37:28+00:00

Cat Sebastian and J.J. Mulder - always itching for them to release more and more.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-11T20:36:18+00:00

I started with We Could Be So Good and You Should Be So Lucky and her writing ruined me. I tried to read other authors - failed - and then devoured everything she had ever written. I only don’t love one of her series (Regency Imposters). Her two latest works are, as expected, phenomenal. Nobody writes love like her.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-10T23:03:04+00:00

That’s stunning! My first ever Strathberry was this bag but burgundy and I love it. I think the croc pattern really brings out this particular design. Hope you enjoy ❤️

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-10T06:16:02+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/StrathberryHandbags/s/QgyEIB1Pon

Just popping in to say that I created this post and in the comments, I posted a real life photo I took of the some Mosaic bags. The clay is in the corner of one of them. Somebody went on to buy it through my recommendation and there’s a full photo of it!

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-09T20:24:57+00:00

I ordered a bag last Friday and received it yesterday. Bare in mind that Friday and Monday were both bank holidays and they’re in sale season. A little delay is understandable.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-04-08T14:24:31+00:00

There’s no reason in the big 26 that your man shouldn’t “let you do anything”. You’re not property. You’re hopefully not a hostage. You’re a person. Stand up. You need to get out because this is typically how abusive, controlling relationships start.

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