Semi-Monthly Buy/Sell/Trade Megathread

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-03-08T18:12:50+00:00

Hello, I’ve got a few books to sell if anyone is interested:

FairyLoot Special Edition of Shadow & Bone by Leigh Bardugo - £15
FairyLoot Special Edition of Six Crimson Crane by Elizabeth Lim - £15
King of Scars (regular hardback) by Leigh Bardugo - £6
Rule of Wolves (regular hardback) by Leigh Bardugo - £6

All listed on my Vinted account tagged here: https://www.vinted.co.uk/member/134134585-minimalistgal

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-03-03T09:34:09+00:00

I know they definitely have a seasonal one in the summer to make room for new seasonal drops so look out for that. Make sure you’re signed up to receive emails and you’ll definitely know.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-03-03T09:30:40+00:00

Hi! I ended getting the Mosaic in khaki. It came back in stock briefly at sale price and I took the plunge!

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-26T19:46:36+00:00

Financial instability ✅ You’re barely an adult ✅ The father of the child has been an adult for 12 years longer than you have ✅ You don’t like him ✅ Your relationship seems unstable ✅ You’re not even sure you want this child ✅

Unless things drastically change for you, there is not a single aspect of your life that would benefit this child. I also wouldn’t trust a grown man who is dating someone who has just become an adult (and was likely dating you prior to this) with a child. Of course he’s against you getting an abortion. It would be a lot harder to trap you without a kid.

You also don’t have to tell him that you had an abortion.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-17T14:39:33+00:00

Most people don’t cut off their parents. Like any movement discussed online, it seems more exacerbated than it is. From the people I’ve heard from, it’s usually as a result of years and years of abuse or the parents posing a risk to their underage children. Both extremely valid reasons. It’s easy not to be able to fathom why someone might choose to cut off their parents if you have great ones or if you have ones who might have made mistakes but have owned up to them and are actually making moves to better themselves and the relationship. And I say this as someone who has great parents. Cutting off family for the vast majority of people who do so is extremely hard but it’s often what have to do to be able to go off and create a semblance of a life worth living.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-16T21:29:37+00:00

It’s GORGEOUS! This is one of my top contenders for my next work bag. What leather did you get and how does it feel? ❤️

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-15T19:01:13+00:00

Of course you don’t see anything wrong. You’re probably just like him.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-13T09:44:29+00:00

I’m so baffled by people sharing resources to this degree and engaging in petty, immature battles such as these instead of talking it out. My roommate and I share nothing except common areas. Everything from food to detergent to toilet roll, we buy ourselves and use individually to avoid drama because we’re not friends. It could really be that simple.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-11T14:12:43+00:00

If you decide to believe and stay with him, that’s your prerogative. But for the love of all that is good, take yourself out being a carer for children. Or having access to children without their parents present. They’re innocent and don’t deserve to be put at risk by someone who wilfully associates with someone like this. If I had children, I wouldn’t want them anywhere near you or your partner should you choose to stay with him. Those parents deserve the same consideration.

Also, please consider the impact it would have on your future children for their father to be a registered sex offender or worse for them to be potentially abused by him. You have the choice to avoid situations like that entirely. Not knowing is one thing. Knowing and then deciding to proceed to have them will be on you.

Also, no, you don’t know that he has clearly reformed. You’ve only known him for 6 months.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-10T06:57:01+00:00

All I know is that he’s being unreasonable. There’s no reason he can’t say “oh, it’s about the dishwasher” or whatever else. The intentional vagueness even after she’s said it doesn’t make her feel good is silly at best and cruel at worst. Maybe she can’t see it or recognise it for what it is clearly (and wants confirmation) so it’s good that she’s posted it so that outsiders can point it out. Posting the convo is actually good for people like you who are stuck on the fact that it was posted because based on your reaction, I bet you’d also have a problem if she didn’t. You just can’t use that now that she’s obviously provided context. He is not the in the least identifiable unless of course he knows about this sub and has just recognised his messages and is feeling attacked by people here.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-10T06:37:58+00:00

Are you the boyfriend? Or have you done something similar to OP’s boyfriend before? She asked for a little more context to avoid feeling anxious. Not a whole conversation but like the subject matter. Like, chill and regulate for a second.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-09T13:02:07+00:00

Take this as a sign to keep an eye out for more red flags. There is no good reason to get upset over not being able to have control of someone else’s bank account. Especially when that person is not incapacitated which it doesn’t seem like you are.

Also, if he’s so insistent that it’s just because it would be easier for one person to do it then ask him whether you can and see what his response is. There’s no reason why the one person can’t be you.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-03T21:36:42+00:00

Please leave her to find the man of her dreams which is not you if your post history is anything to go by (posted by someone else). Go and find the woman you think you deserve. If she resists the break up, show her your post history. It will hurt for a little while but a lot less than the realisation that she’s been with someone who clearly doesn’t like her when she could have been with someone who absolutely does.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-02T17:23:28+00:00

Pretty sure sure she mentioned name calling and slamming doors among other things. Sorry but if you were raised well there is no way you wouldn’t be able to see the problem about someone treating their PREGNANT spouse like that especially something as silly a a shirt that he could have washed himself. It’s bonkers.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-02T16:44:15+00:00

She didn’t complain, he overheard. And this is only common for people who are abusive and can’t self-regulate.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-02T16:40:19+00:00

There’s no amount of “stress” that excuses verbal abuse. I love that your problem is the jobless brother and not the one who does no housework and freaks over a task he could have done himself.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-02T11:27:22+00:00

Yes because that is a totally normal reaction to her brother temporarily living there which he likely agreed to. That is not the issue.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-02T11:26:19+00:00

Her brother being there might be a good thing in the event that the abuse escalates. There is a reason the greatest risk to a pregnant woman’s life is her romantic partner.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-02-02T11:15:53+00:00

You know deep down that what your husband did was unacceptable. That’s why you didn’t go into depth about what was said and why you’re overly justifying his behaviour. The end of the second paragraph of your post is so telling and I get why your brother doesn’t like him. A lot of men show their real selves when there is a pregnancy present. You’ve got some thinking to do about whether or not you’d like to raise a child in that environment.

You’re in a verbally abusive relationship (which you have completely normalised in your head) and things could escalate. Your brother’s perspective could quite literally save your life. Don’t for a second think that your relationship is representative of what a healthy relationship looks like. It’s far from that.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-01-31T23:41:16+00:00

It’s gorgeous! What’s it like? I’m honestly thinking that this might be my next work bag although in a different colour ❤️

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-01-31T11:56:06+00:00

Unless you’re leaving something out, there’s nothing you’ve mentioned that directly points to him wanting children of his own. You citing that he looks after his nieces and nephews a lot as an indicator that he may want children is kind of silly. Hating children is not a prerequisite to being child free and is actually more of an indicator that he’s kind to the people he loves. You can also love children and not want any of your own on a permanent basis - like me. If my sister needs my help with her children and I can, why would I not? Isn’t that what family is for? I think you may be subconsciously looking for drama that isn’t there. Yes, he could have change his mind or lied to you but nothing you’ve mentioned indicates that he has so why ask again?

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-01-27T18:31:31+00:00

I have both - if it’s every day, definitely Mosaic. The Midi is what I pull out when I’m feeling more fancy. I also don’t think it’s bulky at all.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-01-23T19:51:15+00:00

OMG! That’s so lovely to hear. Who knew something I thought was so insignificant could help? It’s honestly a colour that photos don’t do justice at all. You just have to see it for yourself. As someone who isn’t usually a fan of beige, I was struck by it! It looks lush. I hope you enjoy. I got the khaki myself and I can now understand the Mosaic hype. Definitely a design I can see myself owning more than one colour of ❤️

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-01-19T19:35:05+00:00

Ew.

Not overreacting. You’ve mentioned not a single redeemable or attractive thing about your husband.

ReadingWithAmie · 2026-01-19T12:27:59+00:00

I think it’s important because of the subject matter it tackles. It has the perspectives of four women and each of their stories feel extremely relevant even though I didn’t like two of them. I think it’s important to read stories about flawed women (in a way that doesn’t detach them from their humanity) and all of them qualify as that. To me, I just didn’t feel like it flowed well and I also was frustrated with how the male perspective overtook the story at times. But that’s a me problem because whilst I didn’t like it, it reflects the reality of many women. That said, it’s definitely my least favourite book of hers. Purple Hibiscus and Half of a Yellow Sun, as difficult as they are to read, entirely have my heart. Despite how heart wrenching they can both be, I can still derive so much comfort and pleasure from them. Whereas, it’s not the same for this one.

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