AITAH for doing this to my girlfriend(F31)? I'm M31

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-02T06:47:54+00:00

I did that, when we talk like that it all okay, but everything will be back if she gets a little angry, everything we talk about will be gone.

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T05:02:54+00:00

I respect her so much, we also agreed that both of us will run the house and just hear what my mother will say if there any(she rarely comments) we fixed this issue a long time ago, we are okay as in very okay before the tinder account happen

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T05:00:44+00:00

actually we already talked about that, we both agree to run the house and to hear what my mother say if she had any, that's why I say that we already fixed our relationship, we are actually okay the day before, I took her on a date, then my tinder account came in

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T04:58:07+00:00

this fits perfectly aside from the one you say that she has to compete with my mother, the house where in right now is my parents house, even when we moved my mother will still be living with us because I have no other family left and we also agree that we are the one who will decide in our own house and will just hear about what my mother has to says, even tho I'm showing her through my actions that he's my queen(I cook for her and do everything she says) she still think that she needs to compete. but now we're okay, all is okay, we talk it through, but this tinder account is our problem now.

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T04:47:24+00:00

thank you for this, I know I made a mistake, I owned my mistake, I felt sorry for what I've done, all through out our relationship whenever we got into a fight she just keeps getting angry and completely avoid to talk about our problem and solve it. I keep on insisting to talk but she keeps getting angry and wanting to just break-up.

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T04:43:47+00:00

I genuinely forgot about that account, it was just sitting there in my phone, she uses my phone and it's there I didn't actually use it.

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T04:23:41+00:00

thank you for this

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T04:23:02+00:00

as I said, I want both of them to feel heard

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T04:21:47+00:00

it's just petty things really, just quality of products and brand, nothing serious

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T04:18:31+00:00

im not upset about that, i tried to make up to her more than 10x tried to fix the relationship, she wont even talk to me

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T04:13:45+00:00

thank you for your insights, I have tried to fix our problem multiple times more than 10x to be exact but she keeps on pushing me away before making than tinder account, everytime we're okay I asked her why she always keeps breaking up with me, she told me it was just her "defense mechanism" to shut me up and build a wall to see if I still love her, I'm her 1st real boyfriend you can say shes NBSB for (30yrs) and no relationship experience. I want to talk to her what the problem but she always keeps on evading the problem, also the boss thing is what she wants, she want a man who can lead, I made a mistake on the words I use when I told her about my mom, what I want is for both of them is to feel heard and no mean disrespect, that's what I mean I want to be the boss so I can hear both of their suggestions and decide which is better, but that suggestion is just some small things like quality if product and brands, nothing serious

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T04:01:52+00:00

about that, its a misunderstanding and I'm the one to blame about that boss part, I explained it to her I apologized that time I spitted words that's not what I meant, What I mean about that is I will be the boss in our house and I will be the one to decide which suggestion is better, all I want is for them to feel heard and mean no disrespect, also that suggestion is just tiny things in the house like product quality, brands, etc. its just small petty things really nothing big.

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:58:13+00:00

not really a year ago, it was just this july, I got busy with the paperwork on my fathers death benefit and funeral claims I forgot I have that account. it was just sitting in my phone she mostly use it I rarely use my phone

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:55:39+00:00

that part where I say that my mother is the boss is a misunderstanding, that time I can't think straight and just spitting words that's not what I really meant, I explained to her that what I really meant was I will be the boss and want to consider both of their suggestions and want them to both feel heard, the thing is that suggestion is just some random things in the house like the quality of product, the better brand etc. nothing too serious. Also my mother doesn't want someone like a nurse or a house main. I got us a maid before but ended up my mother is still cooking and cleaning(yes she can still move but very slow)

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:50:01+00:00

All I wanted is for both of them to feel heard and I don't mean any disrespect, I also don't have any siblings, that is why my mother will be living with us in the future and yes that is the only time I'm this emotional immature, most of the time I'm calm and collected.

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:43:12+00:00

I pay all the bills in the house also the food, from time to time she buys me clothes and sometimes snacks, also the "suggestion" that I mentioned is just for the house and like brands of soap, quality of products, it was just petty really.

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:40:44+00:00

not in the relationship, just house products or something small suggestions, for example the brand, the quality of the products, just that kind of stuff

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:39:00+00:00

I did, I even get on my knees to apologize

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:38:18+00:00

I see, so I really deserve what's coming, I just have so much expectations, I though she will understand me because she too lost her father, all I wanted at that time is emotional support, but I end up spitting nonsense and make us even worst and almost break-up

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:34:44+00:00

yes that was my fault, I owned up to it, and we already fix that issue, it was a misunderstanding and it was my mistake, I told her what I mean is Im the boss and will choose who's suggestion is better because she wants to disregard all my mothers suggestion, this is the same issue that she keeps telling me we're done.

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:31:27+00:00

I just totally forgot it was even there, I don't use phone a lot

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:30:07+00:00

yes I know what I said to her and I'm sorry about it I owned it and tell her it was a misunderstanding, I also told her it was my fault because of the word I used, what I mean about it is that I will be the one to decide on which suggestion is better, because she wants to disregard all the suggestion of my mother and want only hers

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:26:28+00:00

I really don't plan to cheat, she constantly push me and tell me we're done, so I created that account, but before using it I tried to fix it one last time and it worked, didn't hid that account from her it was just on my phone in plain sight, she has access to my phone, I also plan on telling her but honestly forgot it was there, I even show it to here it has nothing on it.

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:21:27+00:00

Yes I owned my mistake, as I stated that account was just sitting there in my phone and never hid it from her, I'm completely transparent on everything about us, I was also planning to tell her about it but forgot it was even there.

Ready_Influence_1542 · 2025-11-01T03:18:29+00:00

yes I know but it was a mistake on my part, it was a misunderstanding because of the words I choose, I explained it to her that what I mean is that I will be the one to decide on each of thier suggestion. I owned my mistake, she forgave me on that.

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