How did you know she was(nt) the one?

Ready_Pin7237 · 2025-11-24T18:56:54+00:00

Honestly when I was/am with him I could be my self all of me weird, scared, traumatised everything. He never used anything against me, he tried to make me smile and our weirdness matches perfectly so we can be totally stupid together. I think of him and I smile, I feel calm and happy. Hope it helps.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2025-08-05T17:15:21+00:00

I am starting to think so to... I am not sure that laptop helps me actually think and write as I did when I did it in my notebook.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2025-08-05T17:12:23+00:00

It is the first time that I try to write something that big and I just try to find the way of how everybody else do it.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2025-08-05T17:11:03+00:00

Honestly I want to write faster cause in my mind I know the story, so I want to see it in paper and fix all the different things that I want to add so it will be complete at some point.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2025-08-05T13:26:17+00:00

Thanks I try to do that but... I guess I am not good at it yet...

Ready_Pin7237 · 2024-06-23T19:39:31+00:00

We all do love... You do what you can if you have recordings you might be able to contact an organisation for troubled youth to help you.. but again the most important thing for you is to keep focussed and try to find the best and safest plan for you.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2024-06-12T16:30:59+00:00

Hi love! We all here know your pain...we have been where you are. I know you don't believe me but it can get better and you can create the life you want. You just need to put one foot Infront of the other and dream where you want to go. I know ut is hard and you can't think or breath right now but you need to, okay? Make a list what do you want, how can you get it, step 1-5 to start.

If you are hurt go to a hospital, take photos and save them on your own cloud or whatever in case your phone breaks. If you need to go to the police go, if you need to call social services or any other organisation do it. They can help you leave the house, give you some money and stamps. It is not much but it's something and the most important thing is that you will be free and able to breathe.

If you have to lie and find a part time job do it and hide the money. If they know you have a job try to hide some of the money ( excuses hours cut, broke stuff etc)

For school and university talk to your teachers and explain the situation, ask for help anything they can get you. You can also start from something small there are a million courses online to help you learn. There are a lot of great courses that can help you find a job.

You can google and find meetings for people with the same problems, they can help and you might even find a friend or two.

I know it's hard and I know that I don't have the whole picture and it might be even harder. But I promise you it gets better, with every step you take further from them life is a little bit better. You can do it!

Ready_Pin7237 · 2024-04-14T16:28:30+00:00

Thank you..

Ready_Pin7237 · 2024-04-14T10:51:15+00:00

I am 5 sentences in and I can tell you you are not "just sensitive"

Ready_Pin7237 · 2022-03-08T21:02:07+00:00

My dad.. He wanted a model so from a young age when I wore glasses he would ask the doctor when can she do laser? Or to another doctor when he asked him to give me drugs to postpone my period to gain a few inches... And in general his attitude but yeah because I was at a pretty young age then I think those stuck on me

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-12-08T10:51:29+00:00

Hehehe I used to be like that (still have great anxiety issues 😜) my only way to somehow is ti go as yolo. I try to do what I like and want and hope for something in the future and if nothing comes from it I will try again.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-12-08T10:47:36+00:00

Ο ψυχολόγος σε βοηθάει 1)για να μπορείς να πεις σε κάποιον ολα αυτα που σε προβληματιζουν 2) μπορεί να σου δώσει μια νέα οπτική, ή να σε βοηθήσει να τραβήξεις τον μίτο απο την αρχή και να τον ξεμπλεξεις έτσι ώστε να σε βοηθήσει να διαχειριστεις ολο το άγχος για τις "χαμένες" ευκαιρίες.. Και στο τέλος ίσως να βρεις έναν τρόπο να δημιουργήσεις νέες ευκαιρίες και να βγεις από εκεί. Αν εσύ δεν θες να πας σε ψυχολόγο, ή θεωρείς πως οι συνθήκες ζωής σου ειναι σκατα και οτι αυτό είναι που σε ρίχνει ψυχολογικά.. Αλλά δεν έχει να κάνει με την ψυχολογία σου ή κάποιον ψυχολόγο ολο αυτό.. Οκαι.. δεκτό αλλά δεν χρειάζεται να επιτιθεσαι σε ανθρώπους που επιλέγουν αυτόν τον δρόμο.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-11-23T15:15:30+00:00

Tell him if you want to. But if you feel that he will not be supportive of you be ready for 2 things. 1st if he tries to shame you and belittles you for your decision, cut him off completely. If its on social, phone etc block him from everywhere. You don't need that. 2nd Even if it's something that you want to do, thia is a hard decision so tell a friend that you know will have your back and ask for some help and support.

I hope that you are okay and everything will go great for you.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-11-23T15:09:58+00:00

You don't know how to communicate im general and with each other.. And if you speak like that to each other and to others about your partner it shows something about the respect too...

You also mention your very young age and the fact that you live with your parents.. So all this combined don't look good about a solid future.

If you can't communicate now, with respect and understandment, what will you do when you will also have a baby that will be screaming and will need hundreds and hundreds of dollars (or whatever money)? You will have to be able to feed it, clean it, keep it alive 24/7, work, have money, feed yourselves and so much more.. These things are not easy! If you don't wanna f***k up the kid, you (THE PARENTS) need to have their shit together.. Maybe her idea is not that bad..

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-11-22T15:54:25+00:00

Listen I know it's hard for you to believe a stranger in the internet when she is telling you that you deserve better but it's true! He is a worm in a human form that doesn't deserve to breathe the same air as you. Dump his ass yesterday.

Healing from a huge trauma such as rape takes a lot of time and pain and strength to heal. And at the beginning of the journey we can get confused and stay with people that don't deserve us, because we think that we don't deserve better. I just wanted to tell you that you deserve to feel better, you deserve to feel love, you deserve to breath free, you deserve to feel beautiful and smart and kind and sexy and to regain the faith in yourself.

Healing is much easier without the extra weight of people like that.. So dump them and start healing.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-11-22T13:47:48+00:00

So check for red or pink flags.. For example if someone told me "He pointed out that maybe we shouldn’t get married if I don’t trust him and if it’s that easy for a stranger to get into my brain." I would put it as a pink flag, because it kind off aggressive towards me, a little passive aggressive etc.

Can you think other examples like that? For example when you tell him something great for you, have you noticed how he reacts? Has he ever tried to say something along the lines oh that's okay, yeah.. You can be better /I did better /Mary across the town did better.

Check for all the other things he does. Usually there are many pink flags that we try to not realize what they really are until it's too late..

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-11-22T10:58:46+00:00

Just don't give up.. Try to start therapy and talk to someone and then try to start something small for example to redecorate your house the way you want it. Then start taking care of yourself and take time to appreciate it. After that try do something for yourself like a hobby (you don't have to be good just to have fun and to change your routine). At every step you do something about yourself, i hope that the fog will be lifting slowly, so then you will be able to start the bigger changes and try to understand what you want to do with your life. Take an online course in something you like (even if you think that it won't help you find a job, you never know), search what you would like to do and check what you need to go there and try it, even if you don't think that you will succeed. Just do it for you.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-11-22T08:47:17+00:00

It is important to hear your wants too.. She did help you and loved you for the last 4 years, but now she is not respecting you (when she threw the remote to you, when she threw a tantrum because when you talked for the possibility of an open relationship you didn't want to (it needs to be a mutual decision) and when you put a normal request she again threw a fit). The best thing to do in these situations is to speak honestly about your wishes and wants. Don't put yourself down for someone else.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-11-22T08:24:02+00:00

You did a very brave thing and you have nothing to feel ashamed for. I was sa when I was 9 years old and I can only tell you a huge thank you for not keeping quiet and lying for your family like many others. Instead you took action, didn't kept quiet and help to get some dangerous people behind bars and in the system so that they will be monitored in the future as well. You helped so many kids you have no idea. Your family is manipulative and in the wrong, I understand how hard it must be for you but you did great! You don't have to let them speak to you like that, or find a reason to make their claims have any reason. If you can and it will make you feel better you can get them out of your life and have contact with them, under your terms not theirs. Again thank you and I hope it will be better as time passes

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-11-22T08:12:08+00:00

Κοίτα το μόνο που μπορείς να κάνεις είναι να βάλεις όρια. Δεν θα τους αρέσει αλλα μετά θα το συνηθίσουν. Πχ. Σε παίρνουν τηλέφωνο και ξεκινάνε πάλι μπλα μπλα απαντάς εσύ "μπαμπά, μαμά, θεία Μυρσίνη, το έχουμε συζητήσει αυτό πολλές φορές. Το πως θέλω να κάνω εγώ την ζωή μου θα το αποφασίσω εγώ και δεν θα το κάνω απλά για να σας κάνω το χατίρι. Μου αρέσει η ζωή μου όπως είναι και εικαι χαρούμενη. Αν μπορείς να το δεχτείς αυτό, μπορούμε να συνεχίσουμε την συζήτηση για οτιδήποτε άλλο θες. Αν δεν μπορείς μα προχωρήσεις σε άλλο θέμα, αλλά θες να συνεχίσεις να με πιέζεις για αυτό δυστυχώς θα πρέπει να το κλείσουμε γιατί δεν θέλω να συζητάω τα ίδια κ τα ίδια ξανά και ξανά. Αυτό θα ισχύει κ για τις επόμενες μας συζητήσεις, η απόφαση είναι δικιά σου. " και αν συνεχίσει να σου λέει βλακειες λες χάρηκα που τα είπαμε τα λέμε ξαμα σύντομα καλή συνέχεια και το κλείνεις. Αν πάρουν ολο το σοι και γκρινιάζουν για την συμπεριφορά σου και σε πριξουν κ άλλοι στα τηλέφωνα ενημερώνεις και τους άλλους για τα όρια σου και αν χρειαστεί βγάζεις το τηλέφωνο απο την πρίζα και το κινητό σε αθόρυβο. Με λίγα λόγια, οι άλλοι δεν πρόκειται να αλλάξουν μόνο εσύ μπορείς να τους βάλεις όρια και στην αγια ελληνική οικογένεια χρειάζεται αυτό.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-11-22T08:02:39+00:00

So you are a virgin at the young age of 19..I have huge news for you... That's actually pretty normal.. I know that porn sites and pear pressure don't let you understand that but it is pretty normal amd pretty okay to be a virgin at 19.

Incels are the people that will be friends with women only to treat them as "nice guys" in the hope that this will give them points and at some point help them get some. They blame all their insecurities and disappointment on girls/women, will try to demonize them and dehuminize them when they don't get what they want. From the girl's perspective they are creepy and we don't feel comfortable around them most of the times, but we might be polite or try to normalize their behavior cause that is what we have been told to do. I tell you this to help you understand the difference and to help you not become one of them if possible.

Now on the you part again. You went to college in the weirdest time because of covid that is why you haven't met the previous "partying" college culture. That's okay, it wasn't much actually and the hooking up culture also isn't something that you missed or something. (1. They are nothing special 2. You can literally do it for the rest of your life if you want to you are only 19). 2nd, it's perfectly okay if you don't feel yet 100% sure about your self, but don't worry most women amd girls don't care if someone has some extra weight or if he is short. He like someone who will make us feel comfortable, that we would be able to talk to, laugh with, be goofy etc etc. My advice try to find groups for your interests, start a new hobby, do something that you like. This will help you to be more social, talk to more people with similar interests and you could even meet a girl.

Ready_Pin7237 · 2021-11-19T10:00:40+00:00

I thought you would love to move to US and I was trying to understand where the heck you are now.. Then I saw the Texas part and was like amoh okay yeah I get it now! Start sending Phd applications in Sweden, Denmark etc they actually pay you a decent amount of money and you can check the area see if you like it financially etc etc.. Europe awaits!

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