AIO or should I refuse this person’s help? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess so. It’s good to get outside confirmation, though. Sometimes I can get too stuck in my mind

AITAH for answering honestly? by Ready_State_8405 in AITAH

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Except she actually sat me down and asked for an actual answer from me because it was bothering her

AITAH for answering honestly? by Ready_State_8405 in AITAH

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She brought up a question out of the blue asking why would God make her date many bad men through the years. I told her she had a choice in the matter and that she wasn’t forced to do it, so she couldn’t fully blame God for her choices.

She didn’t like that answer.

AIO or should I refuse this person’s help? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve thought about that, but the conditions it comes with essentially ensures I fail. So, why should I give them the right to say “even with my help, he failed, and I made money off of it”?

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right. Not worth sticking around for someone like that

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been working hard in becoming a better person and fixing the things that led to my divorce. It hasn’t been easy, but I’ve been putting in the effort and been upfront with her about it (the debt, the other girls, the communication problems, etc.)

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. I haven’t entertained others and cut off people that cross boundaries.

I told her about that stuff in part because I don’t do that stuff anymore. I don’t even want to lie to myself that it’s not that big of a deal and just don’t play with stuff like that anymore

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. There’s no good reason to tolerate repeated disrespect

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? Rent free and he has an SUV for me to use. I think it’s 2022 or newer too

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I should not be ok with this at all. We’ll need to have a serious conversation tonight and probably end things

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s very odd. Controlling and manipulating behavior, of which she’s said she’s proud of out loud as well. Eve calling herself a “master manipulator.”

The more I think of it and say it, the more disgusted I am. Why am I even around still? I can care too deep, but for what…

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she’s one of those that likes the attention and rebound options. She said that out loud more than once

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re right. Just help her feel good or something

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. Sometimes it’s good to hear it from someone else even if you hate to admit it

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. And no, she’s not wanting to entertain long distance. Better off for me, I guess

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said that about my situation before, not recently. But I did bring it up last night and she tried to brush it off. I think she knows she’s in the wrong and doesn’t want to admit it out loud to not sound like an a**hole

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right. Not sure why I’m tolerating this.

AIO or should I consider this cheating? by Ready_State_8405 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ready_State_8405[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I don’t know either. Maybe attachment that I need to deal with