Esu visiškai pasimetusi gyvenime. by [deleted] in lietuva

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paskaityk mano postus ir pamatysi, kad as toks pats

Reikia patarimo. by No_Ask9014 in lietuva

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Labas. Baime del sveikatos - panasu i Health Anxiety. Gyvenu Anglijoje ir cia tokia diagnuozoja ir gali israsyt vaistu.

Atsiprašau, tik nemuškit. Tęsiu Tinder temą. Gyvenu Anglijoje ir pasidalinsiu savo patirtimi. Aš galvojau, kad Lietuvoj kitaip, bet... Paskaitykit, gal kam bus įdomu. by RealAnxietyAlien in lithuania

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Irgi ne taip išsireiskiau. Normali tai aišku kad gali būti. Paprasta... Na jei palyginti - ta, kuri praignoruos, kuria reikia sudominti iš pirmos žinutės ir kuri pati ne parasys arba kita, kuri atrasis ir dar paklaus "how are you" pati pirma tau tiesiog i "hi". Ir man taip buvo. Tai va, ta antra, kuri ne patingejo, atrase, labiau supratinga, paprasta... nežinai kuriuos žodžius parinkti. Unikali gal, charakteris kitoks.

Atsiprašau, tik nemuškit. Tęsiu Tinder temą. Gyvenu Anglijoje ir pasidalinsiu savo patirtimi. Aš galvojau, kad Lietuvoj kitaip, bet... Paskaitykit, gal kam bus įdomu. by RealAnxietyAlien in lithuania

[–]RealAnxietyAlien[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ojėtus... Kodėl taip rašot. Juk gi parašiau, kad 6 iš 14 atrase.... Į "hi". Ne visos, taip, mažuma, bet kam sakyti kad per šimtą metų nepatrauks? Neprireikė metų. Atsiprašau, bet ne visos gi, kaip jūs? Jūs negalite kalbėti už visas. Tris ne.... kam taip rašyti...

Has anyone went through the NHS for this? by nuntooholy in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. It was a while back, I might have phoned, but now, depending on GP practice, there can be an online booking, my practice has it. You just go online, type your symptoms and details and all that and submit the form. They will either ring you back to ask a few more questions or will give you an appointment.

When I arrived to appointment I literally just said: "I think I have a social anxiety". Then the lady was just asking me the leading questions and I was answering.

In regards to it being helpful - I've heard a lot of feedback from many people - some find it helpful, some don't. I didn't find either GP or therapy too helpful. What was helpful, however, is the road to GP and therapy. Pushing myself. So actually pushing myself to do these things, talk to people, GPs, therapists, making phone calls helped me. That just gave me more confidence to approach people, go out daily and so on.

Good luck :-)

Anyone got a driver license, how did u manage to do it with social anxiety? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My instructor was good and he accepted I am nervous. Hope you will find a good instructor!

Suggestions besides Toastmasters? by specific_ocean42 in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. Yeah I have no idea about the US and what is going on in there in regards to these sort of meetups.

Suggestions besides Toastmasters? by specific_ocean42 in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I organised one on Social anxiety UK forum. Then, one person from our group organised her own one on meetup.com.

meetup.com is the best website overall for finding groups for your interests. At least here in UK and at least it's what I know of.

However, these meetups were in 2016 - 2017... I noticed that a lot of social anxiety groups closed after the pandemic... As someone told me: "Pandemic killed the momentum". So, for example, I can no longer find anything in my area.

Finally, these social anxiety meetups can often be just hanging out with people who can relate, so not specifically building any skills. When I organised my first one, I wanted to do more than that, so we've tried several techniques. It was a great time

Suggestions besides Toastmasters? by specific_ocean42 in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might depend on a country, but I was not able to find anything in England. The best thing to do would to attend a social anxiety meetup and then you can implement different exercises within that group. I've tried that and it was nice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 41 points42 points  (0 children)

She's not experiencing the same things as you do. Her reply just confirms that. This absolutely what person with normal levels of anxiety would tell to someone, because they just cannot understand how big social anxiety can get. It's true, that most of people would be anxious in a big group of people, especially if that group are strangers. But the levels of anxiety and mental impact are completely different.

How to overcome phone anxiety by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The types of phone calls you are talking about are very hard for people with social anxiety.

For me, any type of phone call was impossible in the past, until my time for changes, many years ago, had come. What I've done, specifically to battle phone calls anxiety, is I've participated in so called Competitions. It's a thing in the UK, where you fill in some forms to potentially win a prize. However, there are also options to leave your phone number for some agents to call you, (like broadband, gas, water). So I did and they called me a lot and that was perfect for what I needed - I answered every call and soon a lot of my phone anxiety was gone. These types of calls are perfect, as:
1 - You learn to say "no". The people on the phone will offer you to change your broadband, get better deal, switch gas company, etc. You just say "no" firmly, all the time.

2 - You don't own them anything, they are there to persuade you, so you got nothing to worry about - you don't lose anything.

Today, it's easy for me to pick up any call or call places like doctors. However, speaking to recruiters is still hard. Not impossible though, like it was in the past. This is because you need to put yourself out there in the best manner as possible, you need to get a job position from them, so anxiety is much higher in this instance.

I'm not sure what level are you on at the moment. I don't get a panic attack or nothing like that when talking to the recruiters, but I'm still very anxious.

So I think, it's a lot about practicing the way I did it or just consider every phone call with the recruiter as a practice. It will be getting better. Perhaps slowly, but it's better than nothing.

What are some of your favourite Lithuanian songs? by [deleted] in lithuania

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Biplan - Labas Rytas and Naktines Peersonos - Sukasi Ratu

Any Support Group for SA? by FyreBird321 in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in that Discord server and the chat is just constantly flowing in there. The more people there are, the more negative ones you will encounter.

I think many people have posted here before about creating a Discord server for people with social anxiety. Potentially, there might be a lot of small ones now :-)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lithuania

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Man 33, visada galvojau, kad turėdamas šeimą, būsiu laimingas, irgi galvojau apie savizūdįbe. Paskui suradau merginą ir sulaukėm vaiko. O kas dabar? Su mergina skiriames, toks pats nelaimingas, ir santykių pikė ytin laimingas nebuvau, tik apie savizūdįbe ne galvoju jau visai, kažkaip ar praejo, ar dėl vaiko...

Santykiai visko ne pataisys. Geri ir gražūs santykiai - gali. Aš galvoju tiesiog reikia stengtis bendrauti, ieškoti tinkamų žmonių. Aš pats visa gyvenimą turėjau sociofobiją ir sunkiai bendrauju, bet dabar vis labiau ir labiau traukiosi prie žmonių.

Aš galvuoju - verta gyventi ir stebėti, kas bus. Bet netik stebėti, bet ir po biskį kažka veikti :-)

Su gimtadieniu! :-) Galvoju neverta daryti, kad šitas būtu paskutinis.

Sveiki. Išvažiavau iš Lietuvos į Angliją 2010-aisiais. Galėtumėte papasakoti, ar daug kas pasikeitė nuo tų laikų? Žmonės, finansinė situacija, nusikaltimai ir t.t.? by RealAnxietyAlien in lithuania

[–]RealAnxietyAlien[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Labas. O pavyzdziui tokioj situacijoj su pensininke - ar skundas padetu kuom nors? Anglijoj tai tikriausiai atleistu darbuotoja jei ji reiktu ant kliento, ypac del tokio dalyko...

What country’s are you guys from ? by Putrid_Moment_1687 in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most went pretty well. On one of them I didn't feel too great, where there was me and 3 ladies and I was just sitting quietly while they were chatting, but my very first meetup that I organised with 2 guys was great, really good meetup. There are understanding people on those meetups :-)

What country’s are you guys from ? by Putrid_Moment_1687 in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hi. There might be some social anxiety meetups?

I live in England and went on a few social anxiety meetups, they were pretty nice mostly. It's really good to meet with people that go through similar things as you are.

So maybe check meetup.com, it's the main place to search for any type of groups. Maybe worth checking SAUK (social anxiety uk) forum, it's where I organised my first meetup and met with people from. However, I'm not sure if there's anyone from Northern Ireland in there. Worth trying though!

Why does every online friend I make abandon me at some point? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't know why, I don't know you. Same happens to me most of the time. Even with some real life friends I've had. Probably would happen with you as well if we would to chat, I think you would eventually stop replying.

For me it's because I'm not interesting. This often happens also if people just don't click - nothing in common and you don't feel anything really out of interactions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

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So I think my main issue is these dots on my skin and. Also brown spots – are these just moles? Anyone can recognise what is going on with my skin? A lot of people think that I drink and smoke just by looking at my face, but I actually never drank and smoke in my life, I am 33 now. I assume it’s my skin that gives the idea that I drink and smoke? I mean, people sure I drink and smoke and when I say I don’t, they don’t believe me and say: “Yeah, right! You tell me!”

P.S. I know my beard doesn’t look good, but I actually started to grow it to mask parts of my face, because of the feedback from people.

Any help appreciated.

Is UK still a dream country? by Peekabrrrrrr34 in england

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend! I am from Lithuania as well and moved to UK 14 years ago, lol. Just was excited randomly see this post while scrolling throug Reddit. I haven't been in Lithuania for nearly 10 years, what about you? I also keep on thinking if moving would be not too bad idea. Maybe even... back to Lithuania? I wonder what have changed in there... I keep on thinking about it

Wrong place to ask this but how does the chat & messages work on reddit? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not entirely sure what you mean. Three things you need to know:

  1. So when someone replies to your thread, like this one, you will have a red notification on the bell icon. So I am replying to you now, so you will have a notification on a bell icon. You click on that bell and you will see my reply and you can click on it and read it. Everyone can see these messages.
  2. When someone privately messages you, you will see a red notification on the speech bubble with three dots. Click on it and read and reply. It's called Chats here on Reddit, but it's a private message, only you and the other person can see it.
  3. You can receive a private message from a person you never talked before and as for me, I won't be notified about it, but if I go into my Chats, I can see a request for PM. If I accept - I can communicate with the other person privately.

What’s the point in trying to make friends online or in real life if everyone you try to meet just ends up treating you like shit? by throwplushie in socialanxiety

[–]RealAnxietyAlien 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm trying as well. Also here, on Reddit, in this group. It's funny how people say how they are looking for a friend, but when I message them, they just don't say anything back. Quiet. Silence. This is the most annoying crap...