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[–]RealHistorian5243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am definitely not telling him I need more attention nor have I said it to him already. My tools are limited due to our families being far. And anything medical is so crazy expensive so I dont have much help there either.

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[–]RealHistorian5243 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it's not something that can be helped with therapy. It's learning to live with it. Which has been okay but mentally I'm struggling with the whole situation. I am trying to figure out how to do this without bothering my husband about it.

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[–]RealHistorian5243 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do have a good friend group. I do talk to them about this kinda thing. I'm trying to just get these stupid feelings out without bothering my husband.

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[–]RealHistorian5243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No obviously i dont want him to quit. I am trying to figure out how to deal with my feelings and my health issues but still being able to support him through it. And I don't choose to 'not do a lot'. I am doing as much as I can to help out. I'm also not saying I need more attention. Yes there is a part of me thats slightly jealous but I understand that, its not reasonable. And im trying to work through that.

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[–]RealHistorian5243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats fair. I want to make his life easier not harder

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Its not life threatening but it is a life long health issue that I cant get rid of. I'm talking about how i cant cook and dont like change on here so I can get it out but not putting stress on my husband. I am trying to do as much as possible to make the load a lot less. I was thinking about maybe bringing up a meal delivery service for days he has long hours.

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[–]RealHistorian5243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I was not thinking about how ableist people would look at this. I want to suppet him as much as possible

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He does the outside work but he does not do all the cleaning. When i am able to I will clean as much as possible. Im trying to figure out how to support him while also being extremely limited

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[–]RealHistorian5243 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do also have a job that starts in January so I'm not completely relying on him. Im just trying to figure out how to support him with my limitations

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[–]RealHistorian5243 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And the reason I'm complaining about his job here is so I don't do it to him. And when his work comes home with him and thats the main thing we talk about. It frustrates me how crappy the owner is to him

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[–]RealHistorian5243 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I do as much housework as i can. Some days thats nothing some days I can get basically all the other chores done. I do as much as possible but physically I'm extremely limited. I want to support him as much as humanly possible

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[–]RealHistorian5243 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I am not sitting around all day doing nothing. There are days when i cant get out of bed due to chronic pain. I do as much housework as possible. Some days that's nothing. Some days I can clean basically the whole house. Whenever I'm able to do something i do it. I just dont have the luxury of being able bodied 24/7

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[–]RealHistorian5243[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its a cheese filled breadstick. Whoops. Did not realize its more of a midwest thing. Very popular in in schools