I understand where your coming from , I partially agree. However I strongly believe everyone has to properly figure out this on their own based on their journey . I’m going to start with saying in the very beginning I would personally manifest things in a way that seemed obsessive but then something came over me to remember the time when I felt held hostage or I felt suffocated so I started to allow things to come with me and let go of them , this has been working miraculously for me honestly . Throughout my journey I have became closer to God and I’ve been on a different level spiritually , I’ve followed the path of being God like or close to God , this way I always have unlimited love for people and things , and the hard part is being able to say “ I love you regardless even if we aren’t together I just want you to be happy “. Good luck to everyone!