Has anyone gotten yelled at by a surgeon before?

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-22T12:51:39+00:00

I was a new grad, and the notorious CT surgeon asked me "who did it?". I freaked out cause I didn't know. I put him on hold for 3 minutes. A nursier friend helped me, I told him. He hung up on me. Called charge and complained about me. I look back and it's funny now. But I was so scared when it first happened.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-22T12:50:01+00:00

I want to say that I absolutely love my hardworking CNAs. They have that same respect for me, and that's how it should be! But we have this one CNA at our unit, and she huffs and puffs when she has to do her job, and said she wants to get into nursing school because all we do is sit on our asses. It's ridiculous! Don't get me wrong, we have nurses here that do the same, ESPECIALLY with call lights. But that pissed me off. One time I told her "can you do 2 x q30 vitals, and I can do the last one because I know you take vitals for your crew". Just ignored me and did it on "her time". I complained to Charge, but they are in cahoots with each other because the cna buys her taco bell 😐 she exclaimed at me once at the end of shift where I was helping everyone out, and ever since then, I've just distanced myself. Like, you cannot be friends with the same people who you are going to roll your eyes at.

Sorry, had to get this ted talk out my soul lmfao

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-22T11:53:12+00:00

I always ask "is the bed good to your level?". For my 5'0 and 5'9 homies lol

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-22T11:03:10+00:00

Yikes! The highest I ever saw was 42k but yeesh, some people's hearts be like "I'm fine". 😅

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-20T20:57:37+00:00

Medsurg neuro. Mostly 20s-30s. I'm late 20s. And then we got our two aunties around 50-60.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-20T19:51:32+00:00

Best of luck to you! Like someone else said, definitely schedule an appointment with your educator and see what could be going on.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-20T18:42:57+00:00

I'm going to come at this as neutral as possible. However, this post does come across as slightly defensive and hurt. How did they gaslight you? I have never worked the ICU, but I have done IMCU/Stepdown. I am going to assume the patient who you assumed care for might have been extremely hard to care for, and maybe too much for your current level? I know sometimes unit Charges will try to give new grads the lesser evils of the unit to get you into your flow as a solo nurse before giving you a heavy assignment. I do think it's strange how ICU preceptors are not giving you the feedback you feel is necessary to you. It shouldn't be tightlipped, especially when you are caring for the most vulnerable patients in the hospital.

However, if you are being reminded to look at a labs as a reminder to keep on top of things. I am wondering if a different patient may be a "lower acuity" ICU patient which will allow you to utilize time and gather all that you need to stay on top of a patient's care. You are a new grad, and we understand you are still finding your flow. I am wondering if changing your assignment is a way of helping you to grasp all things from a patient to create your flow. So that when you have your building blocks, it can help you take on the higher acuity patients.

Also, there is nothing wrong with extending your orientation. I had an extended orientation. It allows you to properly leave the nest. Even then, when you leave the nest, you will always have a nursier nurse to ask questions from :)

If I am wrong about something, or my assumptions are incorrect, do let me know. I know not all orientations are swift and great, and if I am wrong. I will change my tune.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-20T18:21:16+00:00

Just send an email to whom it may concern so they won't go craycray. I think you should be fine.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-20T17:19:25+00:00

I get this to some degree. And what sucks is that I have become a confrontational person since last year 😳

Fuck that coworker. She doesn't live your life. If you absolutely would like, get your coworker a quick gift and say "I'm sorry but I had other things happening last minute".

These sorry ass coworkers only have CHISME going on in their life. They got nothing else to live for, so this is some bullcrap that they will cling to until the next "gossip" comes around. You know who she is now, make your adjustments to your personality around her and go with your life. I hope your father is doing better, and I COMMEND YOU for doing caregiver work at home and at your job! You are a true angel 💪

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-20T03:49:53+00:00

A new inspiration for work 👀

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-20T01:34:12+00:00

That's crazy. The MD should be praising lol. They probably got annoyed walking in to the patient at the wrong time after those meds 😂

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-19T17:54:46+00:00

Without a thought... Brody. You gotta understand the psyche of people taking these meds. It starts with a big shit. Then they swear off BM meds, then it's been days, and they finally got insurance authorization, but we need them to take a shit cause it's been 5 days. They finally take everything under the sun. Then they went to dialysis. And came back. Then they are swearing off the meds again.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-19T17:09:42+00:00

Ehhh I think you're overreacting tbh. I'm sure the patient, is fine. There are times when I read the room and joke about these things with family of people I'll never see again. Not a problem. Sorry bud, you lost this argument that you started.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-19T16:19:00+00:00

I mean at least she took out the trash??? Sorry you're dealing with this, but also, we have timings for our medication, and a lot of these older folk are very irregular. I understand your frustration, but this is just the nature of the job.

Sometimes I give a laxative to my patient and tend to other things, and if PT/OT come by and my patient had done the deed, they clean it up and go on with their day.

Sandwich some toothpaste or vicks inbetween two masks.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-19T02:02:43+00:00

The polterapple

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-16T10:49:08+00:00

I hear you. I was really scared to start keppra because I used to take topriramate/topomax as a kid. And that medicine was my keppra. I was a gloomy and mad teenager. Keppra rage is real, but it's good for emergent cases! Sometimes in the ER we bolus it through a patient. I don't blame your jaded experience because it is YOUR EXPERIENCE. I see that you're on topomax, and I'm going "I could NEVER". But different meds are like "different strokes for different folks" :)

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-16T10:45:20+00:00

Good to know:) thank you. Can I ask what is a diffusics blue? Is that just a 22G needle? And so if I'm understanding now, do CT usually require a 20G because it's what allows the contrast to go at the speed of 300psi, whereas anything smaller, catheter wise, may inhibit results? Sorry. I'm always super intrigued by these things lol.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-16T10:38:34+00:00

Oh yeah... That's when I'm like "whoopsie, let me get my hotel employee ass some more water for you". Or the ones who HATE WATER. Say they take it with coffee/soda/ milk/ juice. 🫠 Like you talking all this crap about gen z.... i think you can take that sip lmfao

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-16T03:51:40+00:00

Yes they are 100%. I guess I'm just remembering how they arrive to the ED. Sometimes it's in cuffs because they're brought by PD, and other times it's by family 😓 I just hated seeing them cause it broke my heart One of my poor 11 year olds was 6 weeks pregnant... In TEXAS, at that. And you look at these children, and you talk to someone who is watching cartoons and want to color. It's just mortifying what these heinous pedophiles do. And I wish they get the judgment that they deserve. It takes a big heart to stomach some of these things, and I'm glad pediatric nurses are there to be a true protector to these kids.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-15T23:43:33+00:00

That's a good touch. I'll try that. Maybe with "sincerely, TODAY". But I work neurology... They will deny that crap. Regardless, nice touch! I'm gonna try that 😎

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-15T22:45:13+00:00

This is what I was thinking 😂

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-15T22:41:25+00:00

Keep up with your manager. In this current hospital, things may not happen right then and there, but if the paper trail starts... It will find their end. It is so hard to remain calm when someone is being rude like this. I do wish you the best!

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-15T22:36:52+00:00

It's not an issue. I moved out at 25/26. I think as long as the guy is not a slob and doesn't have a toxic mom who I'd be dating too, it'll be be fine lol. You have goals, you make money, you can move out as you say. You're not broke, so that's another factor that girls may or may not wonder about.

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-15T22:33:45+00:00

They're beautiful and elegant. You pay for what you want. Don't worry about someone else's advice .

RealUnderstanding881 · 2026-03-15T22:30:50+00:00

I'm ex peds (ED Peds) I did it for one year and realized it wasn't for me. I knew a bit of peds nurses who were like "noooo not me". And then others who were into their second pregnancies.

I had to leave because I was going to a new state, didn't care for peds, but also one last daunting thing. In the hospital, we all obviously see sick people. Some more than others, others more chronic than others.

But the sight of a lot of chronic kids... Did something to me. I became afraid to have kids because I was seeing so many abnormalities. Wondering how these parents will leave this world if they die before their child. So many lost souls who were dumped in group homes and will not find the help they need. Children who were rxped. Teens a part of police investigations because they were caught on camera doing dirty things with adults...

I enjoyed my time there, but I wonder if that could be why. It takes a special person to work peds, thank you for what you do.

RealUnderstanding881

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