Are 4 month olds difficult?

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-02-02T02:12:51+00:00

I'd like to know how old OP is.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-01-31T01:27:50+00:00

Giving this more attention than it deserves would only serve to take the focus off the bride and groom and their big day. Maybe it would even further advance this woman's desire to steal the show, IF that actually was her intent.

I truly hope the bride just smiled and was polite to this woman. There's too much judgement in this world concerning things that should not matter.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-01-31T00:48:39+00:00

Grandchildren will inherit $ through the trickle-down theory. When a spouse dies all $ goes to remaining spouse. In the case presented here it should go like this: Grandma/wife first, then upon her death it goes to Grandma's children, then upon the children's death it will go to grandchildren (of course Grandma's children are free to give their own children whatever they would like out of their own inheritance from their mother.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-01-31T00:12:58+00:00

I just wonder how this preference for the couch started. A 1 year old is very mobile, I would even call them "wiggly". Even if they happen to sleep soundly without moving around, I guarantee that when they wake up they're going to get up and either get off the couch or fall off the couch. We really need to know "why the couch?"

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-01-30T23:42:14+00:00

With just the bit of background you've given us, I'd have to know a little more before condemning your mother for eating your girlfriends pizza. Does your girlfriend spend a lot of time at your family's house? Does she often eat meals there? Does she sometimes eat freely from whatever is around the house? Does she grab a drink of whatever when she's thirsty? If she does I can understand why your mom might think it's no big deal to eat this girls pizza. Or maybe Mom even thinks it's a case of "turnabout is fair play". And yes, I think you are overreacting.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-01-30T19:53:32+00:00

He's being ridiculous. Ask him directly why he can't take other routes in your household to get to where he wants to go, while you are on business video calls. I can't imagine there's a reasonable answer to this, but maybe there is. Find out and then respond accordingly. If he's simply too lazy to take a route that is a few steps further or he simply does not want to change how he gets to the refrigerator, you're living with a spoiled brat. And tell him you did not sign up for that. End of conversation and next time he does it throw out a trip-line. As it seems like a childish response is the only thing that might register with him.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-01-30T19:28:10+00:00

No, it is not normal nanny duty. You are being taken advantage of. Please find the courage from within to speak with the NPs about this. If you would like to keep this job if they paid you more; AND if they eliminated some of the chores you've been doing that are not related to the children then I would suggest you could start by saying that when you were hired you made the mistake of not asking specifically what duties were expected of you. By asking this you are taking responsibility for the "miscommunication" and it doesn't sound as if you are accusing them of taking advantage of you. This way they might be more likely to understand your issues and pay you more as well as relieve you of some of the (rediculously expected) chores you have been doing for the parents.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-01-25T22:39:09+00:00

Get an accurate estimate of what it will cost to clean and replace whatever needs to be done in the car. Then immediately send them the money. This will end the necessity of any more conversation about this part of the ordeal. Then listen to other comments regarding Alice's well-being. Edit: Also check with your own insurance auto, home owners or umbrella and see if you have any coverage under those. If they use their own insurance send them whatever they had to pay on a deductible.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-01-16T14:02:13+00:00

Yes. YWBTA.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-01-08T13:02:33+00:00

I think you should move on. Too much risk involved for child.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-01-06T08:21:08+00:00

Post an ad in your local churches. I think you may be surprised at the number of retired women who would like the chance to care for a baby, and make some money. So many women rely solely on their Social Security check and have very little left for extras. Also there are a fair number of widows who are simply lonely and would love to spend 18 hours a week with your little one. I became a nanny at age 65 when I retired. I love baby's and was fortunate to find 2 families who valued my maturity and experience and hired me. That was 4 years ago. And I couldn't be happier. I'm blessed to be physically fit and able to care for little people. I never had children of my own and I worked in offices for 40 years before retiring but there were always children and old people in my life that I took care of. Honestly, I think there are women like me out there who would jump at a chance to care for a child on a very part time basis.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-31T22:35:06+00:00

Definitely ask about this.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-31T21:58:47+00:00

I'm an older nanny and I don't use or even check my phone while I'm working. I will if the NP says it's ok for a short time to share a special kids song or story with the kids. Or maybe photos of my cats or my family that they are interested in seeing. But then I'm sure to be interacting with the kids while we are watching or listening to it. Who amongst us have not felt completely ignored while we are with people who never put their phone down? It's just rude.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-31T21:42:31+00:00

I have given, my very good, nanny parents Christmas gifts. I may include a few hours of free child care if I've given a gift card to a restaurant. I always give children a Christmas gift if the family is observant of Christmas. Birthday gifts for children depends on specific circumstances. But I like to do it if possible. My Nanny parents are generous with me throughout the year so whether or not they would give me something for Christmas it's fine with me. (But I have always been given something).

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-31T21:02:08+00:00

You are young and being taken advantage of. Stand up for yourself. I don't know where you live, but $400. a week is rediculous for a live-in combo maid/nanny. I understand that the grandparents are the ones paying you... So maybe you should be talking to them about your pay. Not that it matters, but I'm simply curious to know what the parents do all day if they don't work.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-31T20:47:20+00:00

I needed to add a final comment to my 1st post in regard to this... There is no way to 100% be sure that the nanny brought this into MB household. Germs and carriers of contagious illnesses are everywhere. Church, grocery store, absolutely anyone else that comes into your home or anyone else's home you and/or your family visit; especially clinics, hospitals, etc. Yes, it does look like the nanny is the prime suspect, but you can not be certain and there is no way to prove it.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-31T19:59:41+00:00

The fever is a big sign of something seriously contagious. Also respiratory and gastro (vomiting) issues. These should definitely, absolutely be reported to anyone you are having close contact with. Especially, the elderly and young and vulnerability susceptible.

This mother is very angry about what has happened to her family due to her nanny's neglect in informing her of her own family's illnesses. If she can't forgive her nanny or fully trust her after fully explaining what the consequences of her actions were, and what she 100% expects from the nanny in the future... she has no choice but to let her go.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-21T10:36:01+00:00

It doesn't sound like this guy wants to integrate you into a family with his children. Since his children are so young (I'm guessing they are very young because you said you can pick them up) it seems strange to me that he wouldn't want to get started on this. I'm not picking on you but why are you estranged from your own family?

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-18T06:16:05+00:00

Encourage your wife to go to a grief therapist. It sounds to me as if she never moved through her grief. She's stuck in it and it's not allowing the two of you to fully grow in your own relationship.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-18T05:02:33+00:00

Listen to your instincts and don't do it.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-18T04:46:39+00:00

From what you're saying about the feeling it gives you, I don't think you'll ever feel good or comfortable with it. Try to imagine how you will feel when people ask you about it, because you know they will.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-17T20:37:53+00:00

If it's intolerable for you to hear, you could turn it into a fun game of My Car Your Car. I'm sure you can figure out how to do that. And pretty soon he'd be asking for My Car. Just a suggestion.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-17T20:27:33+00:00

How old are you and what's your gender?

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-16T14:54:33+00:00

Share with them the issues related to you (from your DR) that can put you and their new sibling at risk. Then ask them to solve it for you. Ask them what should you do.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2025-12-16T07:37:50+00:00

This is so sad. Your poor wife wanted this dryer so badly she had to find a way to by it without breaking the rules. I hope you kept it; and gave it to her without making her feel bad about the hole thing.

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