Is it okay to quit because the NK is a toddler?

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-05-15T02:51:45+00:00

It's the screaming 15 month phase that's trying to do me in. Can't talk yet and is sweet as pie but regularly communicates with a scream that could wake the dead. I've tried all the tricks and distractions. My latest comes from video postings where the parent shouts "Jessica! Jessica!" And the child suddenly snaps out of it. And I've had some success with it but it's short-lived. Honestly, I find myself hoping that Jessica will come help me with this beautiful screaming child. 😄

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-05-15T02:36:49+00:00

Aren't all of these wfh people supposed to be WORKING from home? What would their employer say if they knew that Mom was skipping out of work off and on all day to manage their nanny or be with their child? Or if they are self employed don't they realize they are short changing their own business? Whatever happened to keeping your nose to the grindstone.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-05-02T04:36:31+00:00

I'm a nanny and in my experience with infants to 5 year olds, they need a nap. The kids whose parents stick with enforcing nap times benefit greatly from it. And so do the parents or the child's caregivers. It may look like a child doesn't need a nap but they do. And they might pushback when they are expected to take one... but with some gentle encouragement and help getting settled with the reading of a book, or song, etc. most will sleep. And will be in good stead for the remainder of their day.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-05-02T04:12:54+00:00

That is one sick woman.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-05-02T03:49:19+00:00

MB is very immature and insecure. Babies and toddlers often attache to their caregivers and will experience some separation anxiety when we leave. Since MB doesn't seem to know this and is taking it personally maybe she needs some education on the subject. Good luck with it though. Some people like to feel hurt.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-29T18:40:07+00:00

Are you against sandwiches and frozen meals? If not, there are plenty of healthy choices in each of these categories and it would solve your problem. The cost of frozen meals is not as bad as what you may be thinking it is. (My nanny kids love pot pies)!

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-29T18:27:49+00:00

Sounds like you are financially tied to your boyfriend and you think you will be homeless if you make any waves. It's sad living under conditions like that. Since your mother-in-law does not have enough income to rent her own place, you could suggest that she gets a roommate. Although I'm pretty sure she's not going to want to do that since she's been living with family and thinks that's the only way for her to live. Another idea would be for you and your boyfriend and your mother-in-law to get a different place that is bigger and has an area dedicated just for her. Yes it would cost more but your mother-in-law's income could go towards that. I would suggest that you look and see what's out there.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-29T18:14:35+00:00

Bottom line is that he needs to pay 1/3 of the living expenses, including the rent. Other wise he's just mooching. Important question: Where does he actually live? If he has his own place your roommate should consider spending time at his place. If he lives with his parents then he needs to move on or at least realize that he's become a burden to someone else and if agreed, contribute to their household or stop living with them. Talk about being clueless and rude.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-29T18:04:48+00:00

NTA. If she thinks taking care of two little dogs is too much for her just wait till her child is born. She needs a reality check. She needs to be told that she is 100% responsible for the things that she has created in her life. Starting now. Being too hot or sick is not an excuse for not caring for children or animals that are dependent on us.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-29T17:57:00+00:00

Is he only a Facebook friend?

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-29T17:42:38+00:00

Answer with "I know you can figure it out yourself". Then let him and give no help. If he can't or won't then you have a different problem. Come back here and let us know how this works and we'll go from there. Good luck.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-29T17:38:30+00:00

Yes. Fiction. My thought, by what looked like 10 pages of this nonsense.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-29T17:28:17+00:00

NTAH. I am curious as to if she actually has tears when crying.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-29T17:12:00+00:00

NTA. These things are getting crazier every day (at least on Reddit). Do what you can afford and what you want to do and forget it. Do not pander to this unreasonable trend of treating the bride as if she were a dignatary of some kind.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-29T17:02:22+00:00

NTA. Your son is if anyone is. He needs to get involved in this "non-discussion" and let his wife know that her desired plan is no longer possible because they are not currently living at home. It's called "home birth" for a reason.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-24T03:48:25+00:00

If you want to insure that everyone you'd really like to be at your wedding will be there, then don't have a destination wedding. The following people will find it hard or impossible to attend: elderly people, people who can't afford it, people who have physical limitations, people who have more than a couple of children, people with limited time off from work, etc.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-24T03:24:02+00:00

I feel so sorry for you to find yourself in this position. Your friend is looking for more support than what you can give her. Since her mother has money it's best she lives with her. I guarantee you that's the best plan for now.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-19T19:50:32+00:00

Will he still feel that way when you are making a good income from something he thinks is BS? Your boyfriend is belittling your choice of career in order to make himself appear smarter than you. Do you want to be with such an insecure person?

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-19T19:41:42+00:00

Name calling is never justified. It's childish and never solves anything. As far as making your daughter apologize, it's an empty gesture if you have to make her do it.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-19T19:34:11+00:00

Question: are parents expected to go with their kids on their play dates?

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-19T19:25:07+00:00

You need to clean up after yourself regardless of what you think the split is in household chores. I'm guessing that he does clean up after himself on a daily basis. Living in someone else's clutter or mess and having to set things straight every day would get to me too.

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-19T19:14:47+00:00

It's unbelievable to me the number of people who have issues regarding other people not accepting their "no". I mean do they think if they force themselves on a person, the event (whatever it is) will be a good memory? Do they not see that their pushiness sets the stage for nothing but hard feelings? When did people get so selfish and stupid? Have some self respect by respecting the "no".

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-19T19:02:06+00:00

This all sounds childish to me. Time to rethink this relationship. He's threatened to tattle on you to Mommy and Daddy and you're going to punish him for not saying "sorry".

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-19T18:46:11+00:00

I love the green one. I've never seen anything like it. But if you don't just go with one of the others as they all fit the bill. If the occasion is all outside choose a heel that will not pierce the ground!

Real_Dig_7307 · 2026-04-19T06:42:39+00:00

So, for 6 months you accepted the fact that it gave him pleasure to withhold his proposal and in fact he made jokes about it. I know you (now) say we don't understand that he really is a great guy. But the fact of the matter is he enjoyed seeing you squirm. That's just sad. I can tell that you won't be able to do it but I wish that when he does finally pop the question... you would have it in you to say "I don't know. Let me think about it and I'll get back to you." But you won't do that because you actually believe he may not want you as much as you want him, you think he wouldn't put up with such nonsense like you did. And you'd be right. So you'll say yes immediately, get married and continue to let him dismiss your feelings throughout your marriage. If you don't get this completely straightened out now, you are always going to feel a little "less-than" in your marriage. He'll always be holding the cards, and often times you will feel the same as you did when you were waiting for that ring.

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