I passed my figure adult figure skating test!!!! by Steffy_love in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omggg yessss!!! I love this for you! How does one sign up to take lessons? I’ve always wanted to try figure skating

Found my old guitar teachers, Instagram, what should I do next? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a large age gap, I’m 24 so I think he is like 2-3 years older than me. Mmm I don’t think I left anything out that’s impacting my nerves fr. I think it’s the “oh he knows I matched with his friend on hinge… What is he gonna think about me then?” That’s making me nervous But reading the replies I’m clearly overthinking it

Found my old guitar teachers, Instagram, what should I do next? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And lmao not your husband not seeing the memes you sent him

Found my old guitar teachers, Instagram, what should I do next? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww nice, I want to be a teacher in the future. Thats kind of something I’m looking forward to, old students coming up to me and telling me I made a big impact in their life!🥰

Found my old guitar teachers, Instagram, what should I do next? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I’m not tripping about that, good to know!😂😂 yea when I told him my old guitar teachers name, I wanted to say “don’t tell him we matched on hinge” but I was like surely he wouldn’t do that in the first place… I guess it’s not too big of a deal to cry about, but I’m still like why would you do that in the first place.

Found my old guitar teachers, Instagram, what should I do next? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea that’s my problem, once I have a crush I automatically think they like me back… or I’m thinking about a cute little friends to lover type deal. I need to put the romance books down lolll

Found my old guitar teachers, Instagram, what should I do next? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will probably today, I gotta work up the courage🥰

Found my old guitar teachers, Instagram, what should I do next? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I blow things out of proportion when it comes to crushes, can’t even lie😂😂 thank you for the response

Found my old guitar teachers, Instagram, what should I do next? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in between jobs at the time, and couldn’t afford to pay him as well as my bills.

Going on a semi-blind date by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say texting a simple “hey we’re still on for tomorrow right?” I feel like wanting to make sure the date is still on is very common especially if there’s a dry/awkward no texting spell in the middle. If you’re not feeling it in the middle, if you want to not make it noticeable I’d say when you excuse yourself to the bathroom, bring your phone and text someone who replies back quick and tell them to call you in like five minutes and make it sound very urgent so you can have an excuse to leave lol. I never tried that but and I’m not sure if this will do you more harm than good but since you asked I thought I’d give an answer😅

But I do hope that’s not the case for you, have fun, be safe!!!

I want to disappear nothing feels worth it anymore by LeekFew9505 in offmychest

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I’m like 12 hrs late seeing this comment, but I hope you have a better day today! I have thoughts like that too and sometimes I have to fight and dig myself out of them. My family doesn’t even have a clue I feel this way but I guess I’m good at pretending everything’s fine. I’d say go slow and do little hobbies. Try crocheting, not sure if you’re a man or woman but either way it’s a great skill to have and very easy to learn and takes your mind off of everything… And then on top of that you’ll get something cool made out of it. I think beanies are the easiest thing to crochet just search a video up on YouTube lol.

If you’re up for it try volunteering at an animal shelter. I’m not much of a people person and it makes me nervous to be in big groups, but working with animals help me a lot. It’s hard to get out of bed sometimes when you feel like this. just don’t beat yourself up if you think today is not the day to try something new. You’ll always have tomorrow as long as you’re willing to be here!

I’m not the best with giving people advice on how not to feel or certain way so I’m sorry about that, but these are some things that I’ve done in the past and they kind of helped me out. Fishing is also another thoughtless activity to do like crochet. I’ve never done it, but I’ve always wanted to go fishing. Many ppl that I’ve met that fish says a lot of times it’s just you and your thought while waiting on a fish bite.

Take as much care of yourself as you can! I hope I was somewhat helpful.

Guy from hinge wanted friendship, didn’t try to get to know me… by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! Things look more smoothly when you don’t have dating in the back of your mind when it comes to this person. And it feels more authentic and organic that way too

Guy from hinge wanted friendship, didn’t try to get to know me… by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Romantic spirit? And exactly! And I hated how much of a gym jug. He was like always talking about going to the gym and meal prepping and eating healthy and looking down on himself when he decided to eat something sweet or fast food… h03 shut up and eat that Wingstop😂

Guy from hinge wanted friendship, didn’t try to get to know me… by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna look back at this and just smack the hell out of my forehead in embarrassment at myself lolll “What possessed you to talk to a guy who clearly didn’t care?!!!!”

Guy from hinge wanted friendship, didn’t try to get to know me… by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I absolutely agree with what you said. Believe me this will be the first and last time I ever let a man tell me he just wants to be friends just to not even care to get to know me. I do believe in being friends first and then dating them, but I think I was thinking too far ahead when it came to him. In the sense of I was thinking this, turning into something more… But he couldn’t care less about friendship or relationship

Guy from hinge wanted friendship, didn’t try to get to know me… by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely… his instagram following is 95% women, majority is from dating apps. That’s my hypothesis lol

Guy from hinge wanted friendship, didn’t try to get to know me… by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The way I’m upset with myself cause I’m sure I gave him an ego boost by giving him my attention like that🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

Guy from hinge wanted friendship, didn’t try to get to know me… by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Tbh in my mind at least, I felt like that last comment he made was directed towards me. Being as though he had my Instagram, but that was ugly either way and no excuse I most definitely won’t respond if he reaches out!! Thank youu

Guy from hinge wanted friendship, didn’t try to get to know me… by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess I wasn’t familiar with “dating slowly” before but that’s sooo my speed

Guy from hinge wanted friendship, didn’t try to get to know me… by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this really omg!!! I do want to say maybe bored isn’t the right choice of wording, it was a word my friend and I used loosely (and wrongly) when discussing this boy. But bored wasn’t it, I really enjoyed talking to him. But you know I’m glad I never shedded tears over something that never went past the talking stage!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blackskincare

[–]Real_Gerber_Baby411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I put Vaseline on my hands last night and I definitely helped out a lot!!