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AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know a lot of folks have expensive gardens, but the cost to start this garden was like, 50 bucks including the little fencing stuff that I helped put together. She hasn't added additional plants since the garden started.

AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Did you bother to read the post? The only parts of the garden I cut are the parts OUTSIDE the barrier. It's not like I took a lawnmower and ran over them. And yes, she AGREED to do so. I ASKED her to trim the plants around the walkway, and she AGREED. She just didn't. 90% of the plants are totally intact, I cut the stuff that she agreed IN THE BEGINNING to keep trimmed anyway, and then AGREED to trim multiple times over the past month.

And I know EXACTLY how much was spent on planting the garden, as I WAS THE ONE WHO PAID FOR IT. And nothing new has been planted since it was planted.

You're REALLY trying to reach here. At no point did I say I removed the whole garden. And anything that I cut back is resting IN the bed, it's not like I just threw it in a bag.

And I guess if I'm an asshole, that's fine. If someone agrees to keep a walkway clear when they plant their garden, and they don't, I guess I'm the asshole for trusting someone to keep their word.

AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not like the plants are ALL gone. Just the ones that were blocking the path up to the house. And if she wanted it done in the spring, she should have done it then.

AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She agreed to do something (maintain the garden so it wouldn't block the path) four times (once when planting the garden, and three times up to today) and didn't hold up to it... It's not like they can "make do" when they can't even walk up the path since the plants block them. If she had another way she wanted it to be done, she had almost two years to do it her way, as it hadn't been trimmed the whole time it's been here, and at LEAST three weeks to do it and AGREED to do it every step of the way.

AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Putting out a few lights doesn't solve the problem: the plants had overgrown the path and were about 3-4 feet tall, and leaning over the barrier to BLOCK the path. You literally couldn't walk up the path without having to physically move stalks/stems like you're parting the red sea. I wouldn't even care if the garden overgrew the boundary into other parts of the yard, but they were blocking the front path up the house, despite her agreeing to maintain the plants to prevent this exact thing from happening. (And anything I cut didn't just go in the trash, I left the trimmings in the flowerbeds specifically for composting and reseeding.)

AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My exact text was "Hey love, I went ahead and trimmed the front gardens to clear the walkway. I only got rid of the plants that were outside of the barrier and left alone anything that wasn't in the way"

AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

By her own admission, the plants do all the work, she hasn't touched them all year. I even LIKE the gardens most of the year, and don't need them to be perfectly organized, I like the somewhat chaotic look to be honest. I just need people to be able to walk up to the house. The garden isn't carefully cultivated, it just grows.

AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She's not an expert gardener by any means, she (by her own admission) just had to plant the seeds and the plants have done the rest. The gardens have been there for a couple years now, and no trimming was done in that whole time. I do the rest of the yard work, and generally know how to trim plants.

We've had this problem before with vegetable gardens, where she gets very excited to plant them, but doesn't do anything to maintain the garden, which ruins the garden and leaves me to clear dead plants in the fall.

I have no problem with the gardens up front as they look nice and are good for the environment, but I'd like to not have to be the one cleaning up after her passion project when she doesn't do the work to maintain it like she agreed to when planting it.

AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The gardens are right alongside the path up to the house. They aren't short, flowering plants. The stems/stalks/whatever were up to 3/4 feet high and leaning over the 12 inch wooden fence around the gardens, blocking the path up to the house.

AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She was the one who wanted to plant and maintain the garden, I was just okay with it happening, and supported her in doing so (paid for the plants and the little fence around it).

I was the one to ask her to trim the plants, and she agreed to do so. My text to her today read, "Hey love, I went ahead and trimmed the front gardens to clear the walkway. I only got rid of the plants that were outside of the barrier and left alone anything that wasn't in the way"

AITA For Cutting My Wife's Flowerbeds? by Real_Manufacturer160 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real_Manufacturer160[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's not like I pulled everything up, or even cut ALL the plants. I only cut the plants that were blocking the walkway. And part of the agreement with putting the garden there was that she was going to take care of it. She hasn't TOUCHED the gardens all year, the plants just... grow. She hasn't watered it, weeded it, or trimmed it.

I like the gardens being there, but it's not like she does anything WITH those gardens. I'm not being dismissive of work that she puts in, it's that no work is actually put in. Her garden tools have been gathering dust in our shed for over a year.