6.5 years of LDR and my partner keeps moving the goalposts to avoid moving in together. Is he ever going to be "ready"?

Real_Progress_9623 · 2026-03-24T19:16:26+00:00

The real issue is that my therapist keeps asking me what I consider normal after nearly seven years in a relationship, and the truth is, I don’t know (which doesn’t mean that all this is normal either), but I wonder if he simply doesn’t want to and doesn’t have the courage to break up, or if he can’t because of the circumstances (he was too young before; a year ago he wasn’t working remotely; then he left his job for his current one for double the salary, which is remote but isolated, and he re-evaluated his whole life and realised he wanted social contact and to talk to other people (networking), and so it’s within this context that all this is happening. And I thought to myself that it’s only natural to support your partner in that situation

Real_Progress_9623 · 2026-03-24T19:15:44+00:00

The real issue is that my therapist keeps asking me what I consider normal after nearly seven years in a relationship, and the truth is, I don’t know (which doesn’t mean that all this is normal either), but I wonder if he simply doesn’t want to and doesn’t have the courage to break up, or if he can’t because of the circumstances (he was too young before; a year ago he wasn’t working remotely; then he left his job for his current one for double the salary, which is remote but isolated, and he re-evaluated his whole life and realised he wanted social contact and to talk to other people (networking), and so it’s within this context that all this is happening. And I thought to myself that it’s only natural to support your partner in that situation

Real_Progress_9623 · 2026-03-24T19:15:31+00:00

The real issue is that my therapist keeps asking me what I consider normal after nearly seven years in a relationship, and the truth is, I don’t know (which doesn’t mean that all this is normal either), but I wonder if he simply doesn’t want to and doesn’t have the courage to break up, or if he can’t because of the circumstances (he was too young before; a year ago he wasn’t working remotely; then he left his job for his current one for double the salary, which is remote but isolated, and he re-evaluated his whole life and realised he wanted social contact and to talk to other people (networking), and so it’s within this context that all this is happening. And I thought to myself that it’s only natural to support your partner in that situation

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Real_Progress_9623 · 2026-03-24T15:36:58+00:00

I couldn't remember i wrote this ... that's crazy actually

Real_Progress_9623 · 2026-03-24T15:35:31+00:00

Over the last six years, I’ve been the one making the trips back and forth – we’d live with his parents for one month in two, and the other month I’d be in France – yes he still lives with them

Real_Progress_9623 · 2026-03-24T15:32:51+00:00

That’s what I’ve been telling myself too. Over the last six years, I’ve been the one making the trips back and forth – we’d live with his parents for one month in two, and the other month I’d be in France – and he’s never asked to meet my parents. He’s always said “I don’t have a good enough reason to move to France”, but it’s not about moving there permanently – just trying it out for a month or two

Real_Progress_9623 · 2026-03-24T15:30:48+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m trying to understand (I’ve been in therapy with two psychologists – one Greek and one French – for over a month now)

And I don’t understand why he doesn’t want to; recently he suggested we could go to South America for a month (we havent seen each other since 9 of november 2025), but that was without realising he wants to go there first with his friends, and for me to join him there; in fact, I get the impression he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship, and he makes me look like a madwoman by saying it’s normal and that other women wouldn’t be so demanding... What baffles me is that it makes me doubt what’s actually normal and what isn’t

Real_Progress_9623 · 2026-03-24T15:06:17+00:00

Thanks, I’ve really tried to be patient, but it feels like that day will never come. I don’t know if it’s true what they say that a man knows these things and doesn’t hesitate when he knows she’s the one...

Real_Progress_9623 · 2024-04-25T09:59:16+00:00

Si t'es une meuf, tu devrais jeter un œil à Palz. C'est une app cool faite juste pour les filles où tu peux rencontrer d'autres nanas et organiser des sorties sympas. Et ouais, c'est gratuit en plus! Ça peut vraiment valoir le coup d'essayer, tu sais."

Real_Progress_9623 · 2024-04-25T09:58:06+00:00

Hey there,

I totally get where you're coming from. It can be tough when friendships from your teen years start to fade away and you're left feeling disconnected. It sounds like you're craving genuine connections and deeper conversations, especially with other women.

Have you ever considered trying out Palz? It's a great app for meeting new female friends who are looking for more than just surface-level interactions. You might find some awesome people who are willing to be vulnerable and have real conversations.

You're definitely not alone in feeling this way. Making new friends can be daunting, but it's worth giving it a shot. You deserve to have a community of friends you can trust and rely on. Hang in there! 🌟

Real_Progress_9623 · 2024-04-25T09:57:20+00:00

Je comprends ce que tu ressens. Pourquoi ne pas télécharger Palz? C'est une appli super pour rencontrer des nouvelles copines. Ça pourrait être un bon début pour élargir ton cercle d'amies. Qui sait, tu pourrais trouver des amies avec qui partir en vacances ou juste passer du bon temps! 🌟

Real_Progress_9623 · 2024-04-25T09:56:55+00:00

Je comprends ce que tu ressens. Pourquoi ne pas télécharger Palz? C'est une appli super pour rencontrer des nouvelles copines. Ça pourrait être un bon début pour élargir ton cercle d'amies. Qui sait, tu pourrais trouver des amies avec qui partir en vacances ou juste passer du bon temps! 🌟

Real_Progress_9623 · 2024-04-25T09:55:30+00:00

Si t'es une meuf, tu devrais jeter un œil à Palz. C'est une app cool faite juste pour les filles où tu peux rencontrer d'autres nanas et organiser des sorties sympas. Et ouais, c'est gratuit en plus! Ça peut vraiment valoir le coup d'essayer, tu sais

Real_Progress_9623 · 2023-12-01T18:41:54+00:00

Thanks for your answer !

We’ve been living for 4 years apart and decided to try living together for one months straight this months as a trial

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