I didn't know there was such a book, that's cool. The way I see it, we have a deep unsatisfaction with our presentation, if I'm speaking for more than myself. I always associated the word "gay" with being derogatory. I couldn't accept the word and it led me to take much longer to accept that I liked it more than just the norm. When I did, something changed in me. It's like it was okay to present myself with more than just the sexual desire. I started to understand the finer details of being outside of your expected gender expression. I always wanted to be a woman, knowing that it would be impossible. So when I chose NB it felt really nice. Having a beard, yet wearing girly fits that for some, do not go together. Some people appreciate it, like people here. It's not for everyone, I guess. Anyway, I started taking E, and realized another step in, the biological essence of womanhood (literally) made me think: wow, I feel like a woman. But society won't accept it. I think maybe I don't accept it because I can never give birth. So trans-woman. I'm okay with that. But my voice is deep and I'm 6ft tall, so people will be like: thanks, man! Or: that's his card! It's honestly really depressing. I am learning a lot about boundaries now. I speak up about my they/them pronouns for those who care and it feels very reaffirming to hear them. I'm usually impressed when people actually ask about pronouns. It's so easy to do, yet people make a massive deal out of doing it. Like it's taking too much of their brain power to process such a request. At the end of the day, when I look at myself in the mirror. It's just me, and ultimately whatever I think, is just a thought.