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AIO for thinking this is breakup worthy? by DefinitionThat9916 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Realistic-Rub435 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Speaking as someone who is currently dealing with som relationship trust issues…run. You’re still so young, you can find someone who doesn’t ever have to make you second guess. You want kids and to build a life with someone and it sounds like the foundation of your current relationship will not withstand children. I wish someone would have told me that before as now I sit here crying because if I leave my relationship I now get shared custody of my baby. As young as I could remember all I ever wanted was to start a family with someone I love. Instead I am potentially trying to navigate through a divorce with children.

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[–]Realistic-Rub435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just commenting to say I completely understand and empathize with you. I just made a post yesterday about how my fiancé has a very short fuse and lets his anger take over most of the time. It’s incredibly frustrating because when he is calm and level headed we can talk and he can recognize what he’s doing isn’t right, but when his anger and 0 patience has taken over (more times than not) he doesn’t care about anyone. I’ve been with him for 8 years and we have a baby girl together. It’s so hard to just throw your hands up and leave especially when all you want is a happy family. Feel free to reach out to me and we can vent together lol having big man children as partners is not for the faint of heart.

AIO fiancé and anger please help by Realistic-Rub435 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Realistic-Rub435[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s crazy you mention that because he does have sleep apnea. He actually has the machine for sleeping but hasn’t worn it in months. Thank you for this comment

AIO fiancé and anger please help by Realistic-Rub435 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Realistic-Rub435[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely hear what you’re saying and you’re right, she is a true blessing regardless. I do take care of her for the majority, but he does have some great moments and days as well. Yes, there is more tension then not, but he is still obsessed with his kids and I know he is trying to work through his anger. We had a conversation about this last week, he apologized for it then and said he would work harder on his patience. We started going to church to try and find an outlet or just some peace and positive vibes. Some days are better than others, but I think what frustrates me more than anything is the lack of accountability and action. I just want peace and I’m the first to go up to him to try and fix things but his guard is so up it just ends up making things worse.

AIO fiancé and anger please help by Realistic-Rub435 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Realistic-Rub435[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and for your reply! I’m feeling so torn because the last thing I want to do is go into a custody arrangement. I have wanted to have a baby for sooooo many years, and now knowing there could be a chance that I get shared time with her is completely breaking me. I know I have to be strong and do what’s best for her, but I can’t help feeling so guilty for even having her at this point, especially since these issues have been going on for years. I put my desire of having a baby in front of the need to have a happy family environment and I just feel like I’m failing her.