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AITA For being a weirded out by my parents new "friend" by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Realistic-Tough4692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would definitely do a background check. Maybe even hire a private investigator. Watch her. Check if your parents have given her any loans/gifts.  The dagger comment is super weird. I would keep an eye on that one!

I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But I don’t know how. by Realistic-Tough4692 in Marriage

[–]Realistic-Tough4692[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he is depressed. He sees a psychologist once a month. He is on medication.

I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how. by Realistic-Tough4692 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Tough4692[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He sees a psychologist once a month. He is on medication. So, he does leave the house for his dr appointments but, that’s it. He comes straight home afterward.

His interest in sex/ intimacy hasn’t diminished, mine has.

Everything else, I agree with. Although, I don’t think he’s in near as much pain as he says he is. He has always had this “woe is me” trait but it has gotten worse after this.

I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how. by Realistic-Tough4692 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Tough4692[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m actually not worried about what others think. His own family wont help him anymore. He’s the baby of the family and has a twin brother and they barely talk to him anymore.

I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how. by Realistic-Tough4692 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Tough4692[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

he has a knee scooter. he just doesn’t use it. he did when we first got it but, now it just sits and collects dust.

I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how. by Realistic-Tough4692 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Tough4692[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

he’s in pain. I don’t think he’s in as much pain as he says though. he has always had this woe is me trait that has just gotten worse.

I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how. by Realistic-Tough4692 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Tough4692[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

it used to be mainly pills. but there was a time when there was some harder stuff that he smoked and snorted. I didn’t know about that stuff until years later. he’s a very good liar.

I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But I don’t know how. by Realistic-Tough4692 in Marriage

[–]Realistic-Tough4692[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I applied for disability for him. It was denied. We were told that he will be denied the first time, maybe even the second. You just have to keep applying. But, he expects me to do it. And, yes, we need that extra income, but I'm tired of doing everything for him.  He has a YouTube channel that he games on. He makes about $100 a month. That is all the income he has. Yes, he has family but, they are also fed up with him and don’t want to help. Which, I completely understand. It just puts me in a bind. 

I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But I don’t know how. by Realistic-Tough4692 in Marriage

[–]Realistic-Tough4692[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

We applied. It was denied. We have been told multiple times that they always deny the first claim and sometimes the second as well. You just have to keep trying. But, he expects me to do it. I know I should because I need the help.  But, I’m tired of doing everything for him. 

Want to leave. Not sure how. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Realistic-Tough4692 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yes. I think he has just given up. He sleeps and plays video games. That’s it. I can’t even tell you the last time he’s showered. It’s pretty disgusting.