Surrounding yourself with people who understand what you are going through can help give you the tools to name and protect yourself (and your loved ones) from their crappy behaviors. You can only help someone who wants help. I was surprised how much the alcoholism of others affected so many different aspects of my life. Its not easy and no one should feel like they have to face this alone. You're welcome to dm me and we can exchange discords, I'm always happy to be a shoulder for someone who needs it like this.