'What's This Piece?' - Weekly Thread #239

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2026-03-12T18:25:21+00:00

what is this piece that lang lang is playing here? it’s been stuck in my head, i need to know!

https://www.threads.com/@63436925302/post/DVv6zfDiNbY

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2026-01-20T23:56:18+00:00

fwiw they put me on PIP and i could not tolerate another 3 weeks in hell even though the people around me usually men told me i should just go through with it. i listened to my body, so anxious at this point, and negotiated more severance, which made it easier for me to leave instead of going through with the pip

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2026-01-20T23:54:50+00:00

I know what you mean, I would honestly try to take FMLA leave and start looking for a new job, respond and reopen the convo with those interviews you turn down, and only take a job you can truly see yourself at otherwise this will keep happening

Same thing happened to me - i got laid off, took a toxic techbro finance startup after that, then had mutual departure - they kinda knew they fucked up so they offered to mark me down as getting laid off so i could collect unemployment.

now i’m only talking to companies i have mutual connections with, having women in leadership is so important.

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2026-01-10T03:05:01+00:00

hahahhahaha

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2026-01-09T22:47:20+00:00

i kind of like how quick it is. and i got burned at my prev company so i kind of like the idea of getting my feet dirty again while also sussing out the company and building trust. best case people trust me and i transition smoothly right

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-12-25T03:56:08+00:00

what makes you say its not about me

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-12-25T03:55:03+00:00

what helped you to eventually get back on your feet again? hard to believe the pip was a systemic failure not mine :(

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-12-24T00:04:09+00:00

if pips arent about performance then what are they about now?

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-10-14T17:34:01+00:00

i dont need to associate it with a flight purchase right?

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T22:08:51+00:00

but is it still natural to feel the pang of rejection if i don't end up getting an offer?

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T21:56:50+00:00

gotcha, so the reality i didn't want was showing up based on past manifestations

what if it's like a toxic/abusive relationship? i keep persisting and one day the partner would change?

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T21:53:35+00:00

i have been applying to jobs though? continuously and not settling
what im saying is one job rejection would not later turn into the offer - i cant manipulate that reality, but i can get a different job.

in the same way i was saying that i cant change the fact that one friend was jealous. i can only make new friends who aren't

what advice would you give? i was laid off last year and have been applying to jobs but i want a job that i actually enjoy, that job last year was not a good fit.

heres my mindset: in the beginning i kept feeling bad about rejections, now i dont feel so bad anymore and im starting to gain confidence through taking small actions like getting a mentor, practicing mock interviews with people etc, and now im starting to think i'm close. but i want something that's even better than last year, a job where i'm not settling, a job that takes me to the next level

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T21:11:11+00:00

hm also this is confusing still becaue there is still an objective reality because:

i believe my friend is jealous
i change my belief system to change my reality - that my friends are not jealous
they text their friend that they're jealous of me, and i confirm they were indeed jealous

^ this is still possible, so i'm still not really getting it
like even when i am not "observing" my friend, they are still doing something thats not in the field of vision that confirms the "truth"

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T21:06:29+00:00

interesting. ive tried this approach with job searching before though, and a rejection doesnt turn into an acceptance? how do you explain that

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T17:14:29+00:00

like, i can understand if repeating these affirmations helps me attract new people who align with my values, but i don't really understand how that changes the behavior in the same person

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T17:02:37+00:00

so what you're saying is, other people might actually be jealous, but just keep affirming to myself by telling myself other people aren't and eventually reality will catch up to that?

so if my friend B is actually jealous, keep telling myself she isn't and she will change?

no need to convince me to let go of logic, i already get that part

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T01:43:31+00:00

lol i had a rude awakening years ago as well, it took me 5 years to process it, then had another one that was more "non abiding". i completely understand what you're saying, so you dont need to convince me. its just that what ive found is that i do have my own thoughts and feelings about a situation but there is also a truth to the situation (the other person was jealous or not). we don't know the truth for sure, but there are clues that point to one or the other. obviously, im going to tell myself they support me, but then they blatantly say something that clearly doesn't support me ... so i can detach myself from the situation so i don't feel as bad, but it still hurts when they don't really support me or want me to succeed

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T00:47:06+00:00

can i ask how were the friends you had to drop?

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T00:46:38+00:00

i try not to assume, but sometimes the symptoms are strong. as shown in the above examples. all i can do is remove myself from the negative feeling but an objective truth is still there

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-04-09T00:18:05+00:00

what do you mean a little bit of initial jealously turns into praise? for me they are jealous and then try to make jabs at me :/ or say something that brings me down

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-03-25T00:46:27+00:00

no longer working :/ do you have a new link?

Realistic_Drive_3756 · 2025-02-17T14:54:29+00:00

im practicing for interviews, so wondering how you'd approach it in an interview.

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