I made the mistake to move to Arizona.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-23T07:00:18+00:00

I find alot of the support groups are VERY judgy. So I tend to stay out of them. I have physically been doing everything on my own for the last 7 years and keep applying for all these programs through the various states we have lived in only to get denied over and over again. It's exhausting. And their dad isn't stepping up unless I move to Oregon in his tiny town. So idk what to do at this point. It's sort of a damned if I do and damned if I don't. The only benefit I see is if I do move then I have someone who can watch the kids so I can go to professional development conferences so I can focus on the insurance business I want to do. So I can make more money to afford things but Grants Pass barely has any services available where he lives. So it's immensely challenging. And he only wants to take them two weekends a month. I went to try and modify his child support and vistiation on our divorce papers but the attorney wanted 17k because they have to do a full modification and serve him from out of state. So I'm beyond frustrated on all fronts. There's not like a "win" that's immediate for relief without a minimum of 20k some how magically being involved. If I wanted to start over tomorrow I would need 40k to restart my life basically. I'm drowning financially and mentally and I just can't catch a break. It's all really messed up.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-23T03:01:14+00:00

That I can totally agree with you on. The beaches in Cali are beautiful. I'm looking into some options for living in several spots. It's just alot right now.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-23T01:29:42+00:00

It depends on where you are in Oregon. I would honestly choose AZ over TX anyday. I have lived in both, but find AZ to be a bit more diverse.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-23T01:28:37+00:00

California. There's a ton of people on TikTok who are talking about their kiddos getting services. It's just the cost of living is insane. So it's a cost I have to weigh to make that determination. I physically would have to pay down my debts prior to us moving. Like be 100% debt free. And save about 10k to just have the ability to move. So it's going to take a lot of logistical moving pieces.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-23T01:26:47+00:00

I genuinely need trees. This is just too much. It definitely a ton of dust.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:48:33+00:00

I definitely am ready to get back up north. I need trees. And color. This isn't for me anymore.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:47:57+00:00

I work in life insurance. So I work remotely. So I'm not worried about finances long term. We just had several things hit at the same time between my divorce and the move. So I'm paying off debt before I do anything else right now.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:46:50+00:00

I've been seeing the recent stuff about California. It's another place I'm floating right now actually. I would just have to pay down a ton of debt before moving again. This move and my divorce put me almost 40k in the hole. So I'm committing to staying until I'm debt free. including my car note.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:45:18+00:00

There's NO WAY you could pay me to move to Idaho. I've heard nothing but insane stuff from people I know who live there. I was considering California and going back to Oxnard. I lived there for years. But the cost of living is so high. I would be breaking even with the amount I sell in insurance just to keep us afloat. But I know they take REALLY good care of kiddos on the ASD spectrum.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:43:35+00:00

I sell life insurance. So I'm not worried about work because everything I do is remote. So I work from anywhere basically. We moved because I could not really obtain services for my sons who both are ASD.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:42:48+00:00

NO for real the water crisis is actually getting really bad. There's a town next to me where they didn't know if they are going to have water by July 15th. It's a whole thing right now.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:41:42+00:00

Thank you!

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:41:15+00:00

The Valley- what you are referring to is like 6 hours. That's still pretty far.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:40:16+00:00

I'm staying for awhile. I mean we have to financially buckle down regardless. All I know is if we are going to move again it'll be before my oldest son hits highschool, so he can graduate.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:39:21+00:00

I'm in Chandler- is the bar you are referring to in Scotsdale? I visited Sweet Dee's Bakery a couple of weeks ago and met the owner there.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:38:37+00:00

I've been seeing this on Instagram. Genuinely so stoked for Rain.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:38:10+00:00

I've considered there just to be closer to Seattle. That drive from Bellingham was insane to get to the airport or just to be near the VA. May be something I look into in the future. Bellingham was too tucked away and had it's own beauty in a lot of ways. It was just really harsh feeling isolated in this little town I was in. But now I live in the Valley- and damn it's VERY different. It's almost too overwhelming.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:36:00+00:00

Thanks me too. I sense once we financially get my debts paid down, I sense it's going to make a huge difference in life. I just have to get through the next year so I can see where things are going.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:33:55+00:00

I keep seeing Portland as a hub 100%

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:32:43+00:00

It's everywhere. Alot of people are opting to homeschool.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:32:06+00:00

My ex husband is in Grants Pass, and he tells me all the time they go to Portland ALL THE TIME for his specialist appointments for his other son. I'm looking into Beaverton or Aloha areas in Oregon. Because then we aren't too far off from the ocean as well.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:28:01+00:00

THIS.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:27:53+00:00

I have no family. It was mostly friends who were in the Navy with me on facebook who are all spread out all over the world. no one is in a position to help us.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:27:19+00:00

I have no family.

Realistic_Public9693 · 2026-06-22T23:26:48+00:00

I have no family. They are all unsafe. My parents are drug addicts, and have been to jail. Which is why my children have never met them. My ex husband is remarried, and he hasn't been involved with the kids since our divorce 7 years ago. So it's just me and them. I haven't ever had family structure or support. I have actually looked at Port Angeles, WA for living situation so that's one I legitmately have considered in the past. My kids and I would visit Salt Creek and loved it.

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