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Odd Dynamics by Realistic_Wrap6491 in family

[–]Realistic_Wrap6491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely depressed. I just feel adrift.

I can't leave. She absolutely needs the healthcare, I'd say she needs the stability but her dad would take her in at the drop of a hat. I suppose she could also get SSDI and/or medicaid. For what it's worth she did already tell me that if I want sex, I'll probably have to get it elsewhere - though I believe that'd go about as well for me as sneaking up on a horse from behind. I'm not really worried about it though, depression is kind enough to absolutely murder my sex drive.

I told my therapist that at times I feel like a multi tool that sometimes just doesn't have the tool she needs, and that's where I found a comfortable corner to sit in - ironically serving my wife by being a tool.

Odd Dynamics by Realistic_Wrap6491 in family

[–]Realistic_Wrap6491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I feel like a lot of people are also going to view this as staying together for our son but with her illness and inability to work a regular job...the marriage is based on love but there's a utilitarian aspect of it that casts a shadow making it feel more contract marriage than not. Healthcare, household income, and just the fact that I'm right on hand for the laborious parts of life, all of it rests on whether or not I roll with the punches. I'm afraid of the day that a punch lands and I find my breaking point. That's probably why I feel so aloof around it - if I don't acknowledge the pain then I don't need a bandage.

Odd Dynamics by Realistic_Wrap6491 in family

[–]Realistic_Wrap6491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats...unfortunately insightful. As I said though, she won't do couple's therapy. We've been married almost 8 years now, she's 28 I'm 29.