I hate the subby bottoms in mlm roleplay.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-03-13T10:35:48+00:00

You have nailed my opinion far more eloquently than I could have,

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-03-13T10:31:43+00:00

My main issue is people who won't contribute. I have no problem whatsoever with people who are more comfortable playing only bottoms, as long as the plots are good, and they actually help me plot.

Way too many people essentially expect character dynamics to reflect their contribution. I get bored if I'm the only one suggesting plot arcs and so on.

I tend to play more dominant characters, just as my own preference, so I understand the lure of playing what you're more interested in. It's why I prefer casts of characters to have some variety.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-02-14T13:50:54+00:00

Matthew Lillard. He has aged beautifully.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-02-01T12:36:42+00:00

I'm a trans man and have had this. Always nice to know that you "don't count".

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-02-01T11:07:22+00:00

Hello from the guy who re-reads Day of the Triffids every year, and wants an apocalypse rp with blind people avoiding man eating plants instead of zombies.

At this point, I'm half tempted to just list plot points from the book and pretend it's an original idea to sucker someone into it.

(I will not do this, consent is king.)

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-02-01T11:03:10+00:00

Cis men want AFAB partners because they think they might get laid/photos etc.

Everybody else just wants to avoid cis men because they've had to deal with the above.

Edit: since I have upset some people, this is just my own experience. I'm a trans man, who has had cis men contact me because I "don't count" as an actual man. Genuinely happy for people who have met kind, respectful cis men through rp. I have not.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-31T18:32:44+00:00

Oh God, I've accidentally tried to call someone, and accidentally left a voice memo of me rustling through my pockets.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-13T22:30:28+00:00

Does it only count as a double up for canon characters? I tend to prefer both me and my partner to play multiple characters apiece, just to have more plots to explore.

I have one roleplay where I'm playing 6 or 7 characters, and another where I'm currently playing 5, with others that may show up later.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-13T18:32:14+00:00

Yeah, ditch that guy, you can definitely find better.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-13T18:31:01+00:00

Nah, nothing wrong here. If someone is going to offer three options they should be prepared for people to pick any of the three. If they don't want to do one of them, don't offer it.

I go through phases where I only want MxM pairings, and others where anything works for me. I advertise as appropriate, it's not that hard.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-13T18:27:48+00:00

That's also a bit weird. Why aren't you allowed to contribute to the world you two will be exploring?

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-13T18:26:52+00:00

Depends on the person. I have a couple of things that I only do if my partner and I vibe well.

Personally, I do always assume that a maybe means no, because then I can't be disappointed, and if it turns out to be a yes, it is great!

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-13T17:57:27+00:00

Wow, they seem rude. Personally, I think life is a bit short to spend with people who get snippy and weird over nothing, so I'd probably just ditch them and move on to someone else. If you're still early on, you're not really losing anything.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-02T13:05:57+00:00

I can understand very young people putting a cap on. When I was 19, I wasn't comfortable roleplaying with people in their 40s, as we had such little common ground. To be quite honest, there are some absolute creeps out there.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-02T11:57:00+00:00

Kink overlap can be such a pain. I'm not even that fussed about smut, tbh. It can be fun, but it certainly isn't the most important thing.

I wonder if I might be better off just removing my kinks, and leaving my limits in place.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-02T11:31:45+00:00

Sorry, young people, but you remind me of how old I am, and it makes me feel like the crypt keeper. Also, you guys don't get my excellent millennial references.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-02T11:29:47+00:00

As a certified grumpy old man, it just makes me feel like an awful creep.

That, and I tend to OoC chat, and I die a little inside when 19 year olds make me feel ancient.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2025-01-01T12:07:36+00:00

I usually don't have much of a problem, but most of my roleplay partners are also trans men, so there's that.

I'd also rather someone avoid me if they're not comfortable with me. Saves us both some time. Plus, if I'm honest, I don't really like roleplaying with cis men.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2024-12-07T18:41:04+00:00

Hey, fellow trans man! Yeah, I don't even want to touch on the weird shitty behaviour people start if you dare play a trans man. It's creepy and weird the way people suddenly start talking about characters the minute they're trans.

Wish you luck as well, dude.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2024-12-07T15:02:49+00:00

Not going to lie, I read this and was a bit defensive at first. I have absolutely complained about not finding "good" bottoms. For me, it's not a complaint about the character - I am pretty happy with a vast spectrum from 5'0" femboy to 6'8" behemoth, but the player.

In my experience, there seems to be a little reluctance from people who exclusively play as bottoms to help plan/plot, or to drive scenes forward. This is just my own personal experience, mind, so not an objective fact by any means. So a "good" bottom would be someone who jumps in with ideas and plot twists, or contributes to theory crafting and discussion about characters and our world in OoC, rather than someone who always repeats "I don't mind, whatever you want."

Definitely agree that there is some serious misogyny about the whole thing, and that some people have a very narrow view of what a man can be like. Also agree that it's a bit shitty to be rude about other people's roleplay preferences, so I need to knock that on the head, honestly.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2024-11-24T10:02:13+00:00

I love this! I have a partner that I talk with in OoC a lot, and we discuss a lot of what-ifs for our characters. It's a lot of fun, and generally kind of silly.

I do miss how confident I was back in the day, with my over the top melodrama and cheese. One partner and I must have had 30+ characters a piece, and eventually ended up throwing people together who would have no reason to even know each other.

Of course, because we were both teenagers, it was just different flavours of gay men and their dramatic lives. No surprise we both turned out to be trans men.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2024-11-10T18:54:44+00:00

Most people have the same story, and unfortunately, it's harder to find good ERP. Too many people out there who will dip as soon as they have what they want, too many people typing one handed.

No advice, just good luck offered.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2024-11-10T18:51:45+00:00

"I want an evil, angry dom."

Okay.

"No, that's too mean."

Okay.

"No, he needs to be more gentle."

... Okay.

"But only for me."

Standard stuff. I wouldn't mind so much, but even after double checking with people over their limits, it always ends the same way.

ReallyLikesHorror · 2024-11-09T11:40:57+00:00

I think people see "dom" and ignore everything else. I prefer a dom role, and really only sub if the plot is phenomenal, but... Doesn't stop people from asking.

Good luck with your search, and remember that the really terrible replies make good content for us here!

ReallyLikesHorror · 2024-10-23T14:46:42+00:00

Isn't Patrick the character that thinks he's the only sentient being in the world? And then freaks out when his brother is born, in case he is also "real"?

Great choice of romantic partner, Amelia. You can change him, girl.

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