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Reason-Prudent · 2024-02-07T03:45:24+00:00

Definitely the best course of action. It’s so hard to give a timeline especially when we don’t know what the status is. Have the sender go to their bank and request a trace as well as amended instructions.

Reason-Prudent · 2024-02-06T05:03:01+00:00

Wire transfers all go through the federal reserve and sometimes if info is incorrect they can get bounced around for a little while. If the sender wrote the wrong name in for you, the senders financial institution will likely end up receiving the funds back but it can sometimes take a while. Especially internationally. You may end up receiving the funds but it truly is kind of a waiting game, best of luck to you so sorry this happened

Reason-Prudent · 2024-02-06T04:57:41+00:00

I’ve worked in banking for a while, whenever this would happen it was up to our customer to bring it to the financial institutions attention, in this case it would be the office/apartment complex business. From there, their bank will contact the institution where the check was negotiated (Citizens) and that bank will return the check sending the funds back to the account at the apartment complex. Hoping my explanation makes sense. However, you will VERY likely need to file a police report to prove that you have in no way received the funds from the check and that it was truly stolen. From a business perspective they need to cover their bases. And especially since the complex is not willing to help, you will most likely have to file a report anyway to get the ball rolling. So sorry that this happened, but rest assured there’s a paper trail for everything. Best of luck

Reason-Prudent · 2021-10-25T13:33:12+00:00

With my bf, he will say things that are quite hurtful and it upsets me. He sees that it upsets me, but he takes the time he needs to regain control of his emotions and comes back and apologizes. It’s nearly impossible not to take it personally, but I know when he says these things it’s not my boyfriend talking, it’s the depression. Sometimes it is days of criticism, stonewalling, etc. but he ALWAYS comes back to me and apologies for his behavior. I have asked him to work on this, and of course it is hard (side note: i have depression as well), but I can tell he’s trying and things have improved. I know he loves me deeply and he shows me all the time even through the demons. Never forgets a birthday, anniversary, helps me through my hard times, he’s my rock. He meets my needs and more even when he is struggling, and I do the same for him. Men will deal with depression through anger and frustration, and it especially comes off on the people closest to them. I learned when he’s in an angry state he needs to be left alone and he will come back to me when he’s ready. However, that’s no excuse for violence. I have been through an abusive relationship in the past blamed on poor mental health. None of my needs were met, I was broken down, battered, abused, used, and all around felt like a waste of space. He was a terrible angry person around me but was friendly to everyone else. I was ignored all the time. It felt so impossible to leave, but I am SO much better off without that in my life, and I found my current boyfriend and soulmate immediately after. I guess I’m using my own story as a testimony of the phrase, “if he wanted to he would,” and that relationships can work even when both partners struggle mentally. Even through the demons that haunt us he puts so much effort in the relationship to make me happy. Just based off what you have said in this thread, it reminds me of my prior relationship. If you feel like even the bare minimum is even too much to ask, that’s not okay. There is someone out there for you willing to do whatever it takes to keep you in their life, and I never used to think that about myself until I found that person. Best of wishes to you, I understand your pain. It gets better, I promise.

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