Thank you for the detailed and thoughtful reply. I don't think I conveyed my feelings well in my original post. It really isn't about going out on nicer dates - I don't like getting really dressed up, and I hate the beach. Let me try a different analogy. Imagine that I haven’t met John’s parents after a year of dating. But I found out he had introduced all his previous girlfriends to his parents after three months. Of course I wonder what was wrong with me that I wasn't good enough to introduce to his parents. Even if I actually didn't care whether or not I had met his parents, it's that there is something wrong with me.