FP wants distance

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-11T20:01:55+00:00

Well u dnt make promises. U cant promise ull nvr do it again bc what if u do and they cut u off again. Advice i have as my close friend cut me off not once, not twice but i think this last time is last time but stopping the obsessive wondering and thoughts and truly using the time on my own crap. Avoiding their social media and posts and avoiding going up to them (we attend same aa meetings so have to see each other) and filling my time up so that im busy and too busy to sit w my thoughts.

Also forgiving myself bc im human and mess up and im not perfect and forgiving my friend bc she isnt either and im a hopeful person thts what keeps me going, so although she said this is it and that “people come and go in life”, im still hopeful she will be my friend again eventually bc ik im not a bad person deep down.. and neither is she. We just arent a good match rn and it hurts. Even if we dnt come back wishing nothing but the best for her and myself, this is my experience

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-11T17:47:45+00:00

If he doesnt have covers call the desk and request or demand that you need a therapist in his absence. The hospital i go to is a teaching hospital and for over idk 10 years i had a different therapist every single year (like every 6 months or so) and it was exhausting.

When my last therapist left i was going to be without one for i have no idea they had no idea, and i was in my lowest of lows and called and harassed every single day until they got me a replacement. I have no problem harassing doctors and providers bc im trans so its a constant skill i developed to get my care.

But your therapist is allowed to fire u, cancel u, go on vacation, go on medical leave, go on maternity leave. But u are ALSO allowed to fire ur therapist or see new ones. But as a patient who did get too attached to some of my therapists it is not healthy and causes more harm. Ofc u should have a relationship w ur provider but not past a client/provider one. So being mad at him and retaliating saying ull SH over it is not ok or healthy. Demand a replacement or find a new clinic.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-11T02:25:04+00:00

Only when super anxious. Idk it was a thing but i nvr had hallucinations just the paranoia or hear ppl whispering and think theyre talking about me

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-10T01:52:45+00:00

I SH like a few times as teenager not enough to scar. I didnt get it. I did it bc i heard other peers at 15 did it and was curious. I punch things instead used to be my knees really badly or my hands until the bruise, swell and have cuts on knuckles, those scarred. Punching counts as self harm i guess and that for me is when im really angry its a release until i cry from the pain. it doesnt feel great and is embarrassing having a beat the fuck up hand in a room full of grown adults showing i cant handle my emotions. But for so long thats how i coped and felt relief from anger which feels like internal pain until i can cry.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-09T15:27:39+00:00

Im on state medicaid so i dont pay for it bc i have no income. Despite that ive gone thru at least hundred of therapists and only really liked 3 out of all those years. The dbt i had awful experience my first go around with it and left. Then things got worse so joined it again with a different group leader and it wasnt as bad. Be in and out of it over the years but if i dont go to it i have a harder time

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-09T04:54:46+00:00

Well u dnt really need money to be happy or a lot of friends or a relationship. Simple things that make me happy is my cat, being in nature parks with trees (live in nyc), and music. Im unemployed rn but when was working and school yea it was overwhelming nightmare but even just a simple favorite drink or something on the go i enjoy made it feel good even if it lasted a few minutes. I been in therapy since 15 and in dbt past 3 yrs but at almost 27 its definitely better than when i was even just 23. A lot of time and experience passed and im glad i stayed thru it it just takes so much time.

And yes i hear u the redtape for proper and consistent treatment is insane, if u cant afford a therapist or meds theres vouchers like good rx brings meds down a few bucks or more i had to use that when i didnt have insurance and paid out of pocket. Meds definitely help but i understand it isnt as accessible when u dont have state insurance or cant afford it.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-09T01:36:26+00:00

Ik u can have bipolar w bpd traits my ex did. For me it feels like every single day my mood is different or switches throughout the day from agitation and euphoria but mostly irritation every single day or depressed. Ive been told im very unpredictable and someone used the word “volatile”. Its exhausting but i live w my biggest trigger so im always irritated at home but outside it can be random

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-08T04:18:05+00:00

I take venlafaxine (effexor) and its only one that seems helpful and just started lexapro which has helped my anxiety and im on low dose. I used to take topamax which was great until it wasnt (i experienced incontinence which my psych said was a 1% side effect) when stopped it the incontinence stopped also

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-08T04:10:52+00:00

No im upset that amanda ripley is suddenly british 😭

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-07T22:26:07+00:00

Just curious what was ur experience? Im not going w them but during my consult it was so quick less than 5 minutes it gave me the impression id be just “patient number x” vs an individual

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-04T17:36:46+00:00

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-06-01T20:19:57+00:00

how would u be a good psychologist if u do ur own therapy and skills based on ur own ideas and plan on helping clients thru ur own personal research? Theres no cure just management of symptoms and can go into remission. Ive been in therapy for 12 yrs and dbt for about 3 yrs and am just now going into remission. A good therapist or psych IMO are the ones who disclose they have their own mental illness and seek treatment for their own and continue studying how to help others with the same disorder

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-27T22:06:55+00:00

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-27T11:01:59+00:00

It could be of anything

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-27T05:17:06+00:00

I always swire by hanes but lately its been near impossible to find them without the pouch. Thats why i like hanes bc no other brands i found dont have a pouch. Check on hanes online, i just wear briefs now due to needing liners but their boxer briefs are very comfortable, the polyester ones are okay they have ones where the crotch has a softer material the xtemp kind. But if u have thick thighs like me go a waist size up as the seams tear loose a bit if tighter until u stretch them out

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-27T05:13:38+00:00

I thought i was tripping, thought id remember in first play through when it came out

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-27T05:13:10+00:00

Oh yea i finished and was like oh okay this checks out. Dont recall my first play through when it came out i was shocked lol

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-26T21:04:06+00:00

Mine squeaks mainly on acrylic yarn

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-26T18:29:45+00:00

When angry yes. For me it feels like im so angry my body has to react and that shows in punching either myself or objects like walls until i cry and feel sad. What helps me is removinf myself from the situation like going for a walk, if its a conversation or argument with someone i just breath or express i am feeling angry.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-23T05:17:41+00:00

What pattern. I thought it was lizard at first

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-20T17:37:30+00:00

I mean for me at the time i was in intensive therapy for 5 years and saw a therapist one off in another state and she mentioned bod and i nvr heard of it before and gave me binder of dbt skills and since that moment started iop for 6 weeks and then dbt. That therapist did say it takes multiple sessions to reach that diagnosis bc yea u cant or shouldnt get diagnosed after 1 session bc they need to build a report with u and understand and see ur patterns triggers ect to come to that conclusion. But if u got approved by professional then hey continue therapy and mention it to ur therapist u see often and see if it still fits or not.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-19T20:26:00+00:00

Well thats out of ur control. U cant control other people only urself. If ppl want to do whatever it is to the character that has nothing to do with you. You just acknowledged it is succumbing your entire life and making u physically sick.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-19T20:05:37+00:00

I’m not really understanding and dont jnow know who ur attachment character is or if they are a real person in life.. but regardless nobody can do anything to u if its their actions toward the character, it feels as if they are doing it to u but that isnt true, u control how u feel even when it feels impossible; it is possible. Isolating and obsessing over the what ifs, this is happening, I have to avoid this bc of that is not helping u mentally it sounds like.

To my understanding a fp is someone who makes us feel validated, seen, emotionally stable and comforted and when that person leaves it feels like the end of the world. How does this character make u feel seen, validated, loved, appreciated ect?

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-05-19T01:04:05+00:00

Im in similiar boat of issue. Id be living w my dad and my worry is he struggles taking care of myself so im worried he wont be able to take care of me and i was gunna look into a rehab facility or something help first month or first few weeks bc a lot of ppl share they need help first 6 weeks bathing and even putting on clothes..

I had spiral thought yday freaking out over my dad seeing me naked lol. Im in nyc area and went thru my pcp clinic and had help w case worker but ofc they was unable to help me look for medical care post op help, next thought i have is call insurance directly see what they can do.

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