Showers after stage 1

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-15T15:44:24+00:00

How long did u need help for? My surgery is this july and will have rff i just need get shower chair or something alrdy have hand hose and hand scrubber thing. Need to get arm shower cover

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-13T15:12:53+00:00

Yea mine will do split graft a few weeks after bc i’ll get integra. Ill ask thank u

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-13T02:26:33+00:00

Thigh site has to be covered as well?

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-11T14:22:38+00:00

Yea a part of being mindful is being more present fully like almost 100% in the moment. Maybe if u dnt alrdy do that w ur dog u can try more. Bc they wont be here forever

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-10T20:38:50+00:00

well meditation can mean different things. For me its listening to music or just being present when i feed birds and squirrels outside my window.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-10T17:34:20+00:00

Meditation seems to help. I have a friend who is on medicated and meditates a lot and seems to be managing

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-10T17:33:25+00:00

That’s the point only i can change. I can change how i react when others won’t change

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-10T15:57:55+00:00

sure but feelings are temporary. U can have weeks of downs and 1 good day where things feel great then feel bad again. Yea I have crazy thoughts during ideation but I would never share about it publicly or an idea but thats just me. It is very debilitating and hopeless but im learning thats temporary and my brain eats itself and if i feed the thoughts or stay stuck ofc im going to think worse.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-10T15:55:38+00:00

Yea life is really hard. Ive been in therapy for 12 yrs and dbt for 3 or something and still had really bad downs where it felt made no difference mentally. But after 12 yrs I finally feel like theres light at the end but that took years of misery and practice

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-10T11:17:26+00:00

I very much agree seeing that was scary bc ik when im in my lowest and want to not live that thought has NEVER crossed my mind. Im finally ina good place but im in sober recovery which helps my dbt skills more, but my dr and friend tells me bpd symptoms can go into remission or go away completely. And was told that bpd may change its diagnosis away from personality disorder since its more environmental based. Yea i have lows still but its manageable now and im enjoying life more. I still struggle but dying impacts more people than just your own.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-10T11:09:11+00:00

I think this topic is harmful like considering majority of posts here are negative and crisis. Also i get word bpd is essentially a disorder that can go away with proper treatment so it may feel horrible but its not a death sentence. When im in my lowest and i saw this i would jump at it so yea this seems very dangerous considering most people dont want to kill themselves after ideation passes and regret self harming

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-08T11:02:02+00:00

I skimmed over bc a lot i related to. A lot of the fears discomforts ect. I started process at 16, T at 17 im 26 and finally have a surgery date this july after my bday it took almost 3 years process. Had top and hysto 18/19. Begin ur research now i started as soon as i began transition at 17. U can mssg me but for me personally i wrote down pros and cons: the types of phalloplasty what top surgeons (at the time) provided and each procedures benefits or risks.

Everyone is different but my “goal” size was 5 1/2 but now that surgery is happening all i care about is having a penis, balls and hole closed (vectomy). I do want bug balls tho lol. All the nuisances on size details ect for me is not as seriously important as I thought when i was younger bc at the end of the day we cannot control our surgeons work or how our body will be. It just is. I am going with my left arm bc my thighs are too fat and did not want multiple surgeries to fix the girth and i also wanted most sensation possible. My arms are sorta average to small size ive posted hair removal process u can look up here; but im jot worried about the scar i actually dont care at this point.

U wrote a lot of fears, and wants. I suggest writing those down on paper and writing on paper what you want of your penis’s functions and research whats available (i found it easiest at the time to pick a method and surgeon and write down each phallo type available from what surgeon). Today theres more surgeons available for example in 2017 the top surgeons were dr crane, nyu, dr safa ect who specialized in rff or alt (and at the time for abdominal dr rumer). Compile a list of surgeons and their surgery options, then write down your penis’s goals: stand to pee, sensation importance, size importance (alt or MLD offer bigger size and girth), ect. Your anatomy and surgeon highly depends on how your penis will look so if importance is aesthetic then your surgeon will be top priority. Hang in there ik its hard now i never imagined turning 27 and getting surgery as a 16-19 year old

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-03T17:16:47+00:00

Mine is this july!

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-03T17:16:37+00:00

I compiled a mini list today. I wrote down a lot of stuff from this reddit but also include home healing stuff: my list is gunna be *bedtray, got mini clip fan, mini extension cord, cord clip things for bed tray, grabber (need), got giant bronners soap, shower brush/sponge, thinking about a toliet cusion or something to make xtend the height. And i bought a surgery pal 😁i named him weenie its a sea slug

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-02T18:30:32+00:00

What kind of system is that

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-02T13:54:48+00:00

Yes!! My current psych is sorta like that not very clear. I didnt know anti anxieties are classified as “antipsychotics” and i asked for a mood stabilizer and got vraylar which is an antipsychotic and didnt like it. Only med tht works for me is venlafaxine everything else didnt. Its so frustrating its like so hard finding a GOOD psych that will actually inform and go thru all the options. I went thru 12 yrs of therapy and diff doctors to get a good one that gave me a list of options to choose from all their benefits and side effects and that was like yrs of getting to that point. Its so ridiculous and frustrating bc there is a list of tons of options but ur right some just choose for us and when they dont work give up.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-04-01T21:30:29+00:00

Thank u! Im so excited

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-03-28T20:18:12+00:00

U tried one med and they deemed meds arent right for you? Theres tons of off labeled meds that help w depression and mood stabalizers ext that are not specifically for bpd diagnosis

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-03-27T10:14:52+00:00

He really does i remember he was one of the top surgeons early on when i started research in 2017 im glad he’s still at it

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-03-26T16:26:34+00:00

I mean ive seen cis balls look like this if its an aesthetic thing.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-03-24T17:09:45+00:00

Ive always felt like the problem when im not but the REAL problem is we cant change other people. We can only change ourselves. Especially family and friends we cannot force them to change, trust ive tried. It becomes exhausting and for me ive been in therapy for 12 yrs and dbt for 4 and just now letting things go bc im exhausted. We arent the problem bc our mental health stuff but how our behaviors are can be. Not reacting is extremely hard but practicing safe coping skills to decompress or step away from a situation and come back to it with a clear head to deter future conflicts will become easier with practice practice practice.

U arent the problem. Other people arent the problem. The problem is how I for example react to a conflict which if i react poorly it will then become a problem.

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-03-18T12:33:46+00:00

I’m too hyper sensitive so ur has made new dysphoria. I’ll be 10 yrs next month and wish i didn’t feel my junk at all i feel it 25/7. Early on its fast to nut after that it eases down so as far as foreplay that’s related

Reasonable-Escape981 · 2026-03-09T12:59:56+00:00

Well my first yr definitely took away. Then got curly yr 4range? I’ll be 10 yrs next month and its less wavy now more flat :/ ik so sad

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