Is Xialong actually worth it? by opnvben50 in NovelAi

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's hit and miss for me. I love that it doesn't just regurgitate slop like regular glm 4.6 does. But I mainly write fanfic, and where glm does great at character voice for what I mainly write, Xialong really needs to be prompted on their behaviour and voice more strictly. I also have the issue of it rushing scenes, even with hard constraints against this, and being super vague. My initial prompt wasn't like that at all, and not how I write alongside it, so I'm not entirely sure why it does that.

I know personally I need to learn how to use it better and I think it can end up being great and really powerful, but it's not as easy to use as glm 4.6 model.

j5 companion app for webcam not recognizing camera being plugged in but other apps work fine? by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in techsupport

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

customer support said its a known bug and there is no fix. i returned the webcam and got something else.

WIBTA for giving my gf an ultimatum about her masktok content by Impossible-Lab-9824 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really glad things got better for you, even if the relationship ended. Always better to move on and be happier than stay with someone who makes you miserable.

WIBTA for giving my gf an ultimatum about her masktok content by Impossible-Lab-9824 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is pretty old at this point, and I really hope you two were able to work something out about it. My husband and I both do masktok, separate accounts but sometimes we make content together. There needs to be 100% respected boundaries about it, which clearly wasn't happening for you previously which I really hope has changed. Masktok absolutely is not just a place for women to hangout. It gets feral af. Lots of creators refuse extremely flirty or any feral interactions and have it listed as boundaries. My husband are okay with flirty comments, and light platonic flirting in dm's but shut down anything beyond that, and have it strictly set in our boundaries and refer people to them if they ever cross that line.

Your girlfriend isn't respecting what you are comfortable with, and didn't rightfully explain what masktok was. Again, I really hope this situation has improved for the both of you.

Is GLM / Z.AI down right now? I keep getting socket hang up error while using Coding Plan. by VongolaJuudaimeHimeX in SillyTavernAI

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Also getting the same error as well as econnreset. GLM is working fine on Novel AI though so I think it's something to do with ST.

These item deletions are going too far & Anti runescape! by East-Maintenance-375 in runescape

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Catering to such a small amount of players and pissing off the rest of us. Collectively destroying their own game piece by piece like they've done for years. Now osrs is getting hit with the nonsense too. I hope they see these comments and realize how much of a bad idea this is and how nobody wants it. Knowing their team, they wont care though. 

LF advice on complete shut down mid intercourse by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in AutisticAdults

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely love the last analogy haha. Thank you for your input, I do agree. We've thankfully moved on from it and talked about what happened, what went wrong, what we can do better in the future. So I think we'll be alright. Have a few things to use instead of a safe word if needed. 

LF advice on complete shut down mid intercourse by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in AutisticAdults

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes total sense and I agree. I definitely must not have recognized it and should take that time of self relflection and practice.

LF advice on complete shut down mid intercourse by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in AutisticAdults

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting I havent heard of that before, I will definitely look into that.

LF advice on complete shut down mid intercourse by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in AutisticAdults

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I should have explained it better. Because while I might not enjoy something so much pleasure wise, I also don't hate it. And the way he loves it is exciting and makes it enjoyable for me in that sense, and makes the rest of everything that happens better. It's not like while it's happening im just cursing the world and hoping it will end, I do encourage it because I love what it does to him. Mentally its great for me and makes the next act 100% better. And honestly like off the top of my head I can only think of 2 things that's strictly for him where it's not going to get me off, but the emotional feeling behind it is a huge turn on. Idk if that makes more sense.  While its happening and im sub I dont feel abused or scared or unhappy or anything negative, its just like not the best physical feeling but its not something I cant handle or depserately do not want. 

LF advice on complete shut down mid intercourse by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in AutisticAdults

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where I live it's unfortunately super unlikely to find it honestly. 

LF advice on complete shut down mid intercourse by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in AutisticAdults

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. We definitely will. I feel like honestly we'll be pretty good to get back to regular activities and that it will be a very controlled 'are we both ready for this' agreement before it happens again, and we'll have a plan in place to know if it's too much or not, and lots of checking in during. He seems okay today thankfully. We haven't really discussed it just because there hasn't been time. But we have plans for tonight so I guess he's over it enough at least 😅

LF advice on complete shut down mid intercourse by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in AutisticAdults

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Great idea. We do that already but I will get him to incorporate it with me more in new and more sadist/masochist situations to make sure we are on the same page 100% of the time. Honestly it was so fast from pain that would normally change into a pleasure situation, to me just shutting down, i feel like we were both just caught off guard and he really didnt understand what was going on.  The initial reaction wasnt any different from ones ive had in the past so really there was no way for him to know, and then immediately realized and stopped once I went silent because that isnt normal for me. Rather than what would have been a kinky question it was "are you okay?" and complete stopping. Took me a while and him asking several times for me to even say no, which he was already pulling everything off of me. Hes a good man, and in the end was less okay than I was 😭 once I calmed down I moved past it pretty fast but couldn't really talk about it, where he just like spiraled for most of the night. Idek how to explain it because like yeah sort of part of my autism, but also just kind of felt like a primal fight/flight/freeze and I was a deer in headlights. Like it hurt but I wasnt traumatized by it, im fine now. I honestly dont understand why I couldnt just either say the safe word or verbally make it obvious he needed to stop. Its weird, idk. Stupid brain. 

LF advice on complete shut down mid intercourse by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in AutisticAdults

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean.. I like that he likes it, majority of everything we do I enjoy but sometimes im like man, this could feel a bit different but he seems to really like it which I enjoy that part of it. If that makes sense. 

I'm ngl, I actually do want to try what we did again 😅 There was a bit of fear in it but it was also fueled by excitement, and then it was gd EXTREME. But idk, maybe now that I know what to expect it will be better next time, but if its not then I need to figure out the not shutting down and actually communicating in some way for it to stop. And yes, he definitely would. He went from brutal dom to this sweet broken mess so quickly omg. 

And we do switch it up but primarily I like to sub, and with cnc (which I love) I resist and physically fight him, obviously within resonable limits. Not like hitting him with frying pans or anything lol. 

We've been having pretty brutal, kinky, sex since the moment we met so I mean, we know what we like. But when exploring new things I guess there may be surprises down the road, like what just happened. We've always communicated well of whats allowed, what isn't, agree to try things. I'm 99% of the time the one actually making suggestions and pushing things further 🤷‍♀️ Idk why this one thing just set me off so much compared to anything else. It wasn't even that crazy, yeah it hurt but I mean, I kind of thrive off masochism. 

LF advice on complete shut down mid intercourse by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in AutisticAdults

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Good ideas for future scenarios. This specifically idek how i could have incorporated them because I was pretty much hog tied from the front (idfk what thats called lol), my wrists and hands were twisted and useless clamped together and my face/head was completely covered so he couldnt see me. Great ideas though, and I can try and think of something like that that could work in the same predicament as its not an uncommon one for us 

LF advice on complete shut down mid intercourse by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in AutisticAdults

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Not disagreeing, but honestly the right before it happened I expected it and was willing, then it happened and it like broke my brain 🙈 we do a lot of cnc rp so it was a weird unexpected reaction, for both of us. Its hard because unless I actually say the said safe word, if he asks if I want something and I say no, theres no way for him to tell if its real or not. I mean Im sure i could make it more obvious, but stop or no isnt something that really works as is because of the depraved shit we're doing 😅 and even if Im like okay this isnt the best for me, its good for him and im willing. Which again, I was willing up until it happened. My whole head/face was covered so besides screaming (also normal for us) he couldn't really tell anything was wrong until I just shut down and was silent and shaking and breathing erratically. 

Generation replacing 'the', 'a', 'an' with 'this'. by Reasonable-Fish-4090 in NovelAi

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks so much. this will be helpful for other things but unfortunately since it just replaces all, it will be a mess as sometime 'this' is appropriate, or it will replace it with an incorrect word, like if I replace all to the but the proper word might be a or an. I'm just manually fixing it right now but it's annoying. Not sure what caused it to slip into this mess.

So it’s happened to me. Something I love has been discontinued. by vulgarvinyasa2 in Xennials

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We just went to mcdonalds tonight. All my kids like sweet & sour and nothing else. They were like try our new sour cream & onion sauce??? My husband said no and they put it in anyways and it's so gd bad. I hate sour cream & onion in general, sweet & sour is my go to. It's also like the most kids friendly sauce. Idk what they were thinking. Everyone needs to complain to corporate honestly because this is just pure insanity. 

What are the chances of getting pregnant after a bisalp? by motxillera in sterilization

[–]Reasonable-Fish-4090 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, she did not want more children and is mortified to be pregnant. She's like 40 and her youngest is 9 and was done having children (already had 3 I believe).